Adel Torres
Professor: De Palo
December 8, 2012
Quiet Hero’s
Crisis Intervention & Trauma Treatment
3:30pm - 5:20pm
Quiet Hero: Secrets from my Father’s Past, written by Rita Cosby, is a story of war, a story of courage, and a story of a daughter finally getting to know her father. In this book, Rita speaks about her father’s childhood as well as her own; the difficulties she faced growing up with a strict father whom she felt she barely knew. Rita grew up in Greenwich Connecticut, with her Danish mother and her Polish father; a father she had a distant and unemotional relationship with. Growing up Rita knew very little about her father. She only knew that he had left Poland after WWII. When Rita was about eight
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This book touched me profoundly. I grew up without my father and met him when I was 20 years old. Meeting him was very challenging for me because I was consumed with so much anger and I blamed him for not being there for me. In reading this book I am able to realize that we do not always get to choose the path we walk down and sometimes life’s circumstances shape the people we become, for better or worse. This book has made me want to give my own father a chance to explain to me what his life has been like, so that I might have a better understanding of who he is. As I continue my journey through school, I am better able to assess individuals and situations and have a level of empathy without being judgmental. As children we often feel like we know who our parents are but there are so many unanswered questions and hidden lives that it makes it difficult for children to relate to their parents. Each of our paths has impacted us in both negative or positive ways and being able to understand that this affects the decisions that we make can make unpleasant situations a bit easier to digest. Seeing how Rita felt closer to her father as an adult once she got to know him, makes me feel like there is still hope for my father and I. If Rita’s father would have received help for the trauma he had gone through I believe he could have been a better father to Rita while she was growing up. Untreated trauma can affect a family on so many
The narrator and his father have the kind of relationship where on the surface it might come off as cold because they’re reserved and don’t openly share thoughts and emotions but, underneath it all, the narrator must feel some respect for his father because he still contemplates over the advice his father gave him.
Reiterating the importance of literature, culture and fables in the modern generation, Darryl Babe Wilson’s “Diamond Island: Alcatraz” also demonstrates the large effect one’s family members and traditions have on oneself’s belief and thought. Amongst the multiple mentors found in one’s own family, the influence of a father is arguably one of the strongest. Correspondingly, my own father has had a strong impact on my daily life. Instilling qualities of not only appreciation but also perseverance, the life of my father guides not only my past and present, but would continue to guide my future.
When Kevin sees his father almost dying, he begins to think of the fatherless children in the world. He extends grace towards fathers in general by thinking how important a role they play in a child’s life, regardless of the mistakes that they might make. After thinking about fathers in general, he then thinks about his own father and as Bailey puts it, “ The caring-the carefulness-which was the belief in holding on to something worth preserving and passing on. Love. Kevin felt the tide of emotion that had been at its lowest ebb flowing back into him again. He looked to his Dad”. (259-260). Instead of remaining angry at his Dad for previous conflicts or for accidentally shooting his brother, Kevin extends grace to his Dad when he chooses instead to think and remember about all the love and caring his father has ever shown him. When he begins to feel that love for his father, his emotions pick up and that gives him the grace to keep on going without emotionally breaking down.
How not having a father figure affected their emotional and phycological well-being. Also, it taught the readers that sometimes having a father does not necessarily, mean they are a father figure, for example Mr. Clutter, he was there for his family and children, but he chose other things to be proud of instead of his children, he felt that his achievements were more important than his children’s
Ever since I was a young child, my parents always told me to try my best in school, they always told me this for the reason that they never had the opportunity to have a good job because they never finished school. This event is shaping me to care a lot regarding my education. In addition to that, another event that has shaped me to become the person I am today is that since my parents don’t have good paying jobs they have to work hard to take care of me and my siblings this event has caused me to become a hard working person and to seize all opportunities to live a good life because I don’t want to struggle like my parents.
Summary: In the film entitled Rain Man, a young, egocentric man by the name of Charlie Babbitt takes on the role of a struggling car salesman. While on his way to a small get away with his companion, Susanna, he receives a call that his father has passed away. During the time of the funeral, Charlie reviews his father’s will and learns that he was left a car and his father’s rose bushes. He also is informed that the amount of three million dollars was left to a man named Raymond. In hopes of receiving answers and some fortune, Charlie goes to the institute that Raymond remains in custody in and essentially kidnaps him. Soon Charlie finds out that Raymond is his brother and has high-functioning autism. Along the way on their road trip, Charlie learns how to handle the frustrating quirks of his brother’s disease and takes advantage of Raymond’s astonishing capabilities. Later in the film, Raymond’s caregivers request his return and challenge Charlie legally. In the end, Raymond is sent back to Cincinnati, Ohio to remain his life in custody at Walbrook Mental Institution.
Fortunately, my journey in high school allowed me to gain some knowledge and the determination to help my parents. I am
Whether you agree with Sigmund Freud, Alfred Adler, or Erik Erickson, theoretical approaches to human nature all agree that early childhood years play a major part of our conscious and unconscious decisions we make. For instance, even though both Wes Moore’s were brought up without a father in their home, the reality is that these absences meant something different to each of them. For Wes 1 his father died an unnecessary death due to lack of training of emergency personnel. He remembered his dad as being compassionate, loving, and kind. Wes 1 always knew that if given the choice, his father would have stood by him throughout his life. Wes 2, however, is left with negative fatherly feelings. In the three times they were together, his own father acted as though he didn’t recognize him. What’s worse is that Wes 2 knew that his dad didn’t want to know him, he chose to leave. That left not only a hole where there should have been a very important role model, it left rejection in its place. When Wes 1 was visiting Wes 2 in the jail and asked about the impact his father had on his life, the second Wes said, “Your father wasn’t there because he couldn’t be, my father wasn’t there because he chose not to be. We’re going to mourn their absence in different ways” (Moore page 3). Later in the chapter Wes 1 gets emotional thinking about how he misses his father. He was left,
In Dr. Billy Wilson’s book, Father Cry, not only is the struggle of growing up without his father is seen, but he also shows the reader how they can overcome the rejection, and how to prevent it to happening to others. Dr. Wilson takes the reader on a journey that shows all of the different sides of the “Father Cry,” from son crying for the father to the father crying for the son. He teaches the reader how to be a good spiritual parent. He also emphasizes the necessity of passing the spiritual “baton” onto the next generation.
This book has helped me realize a lot about my own family and especially a lot about my own parents and the way they share their emotions. My mom is a very emotional person. She tends to show her emotions much of the time and lets them get the best of her a little too much of the time (but that’s just my opinion). Me personally am more like my dad when it comes to emotions. I have a very hard time showing my emotions. I have found it much easier to keep my emotions to myself because then I don’t have to get others involved; but I have also learned that that is not always the most healthy way to address the situations going on in my life. I have in fact become physically sick from holding in my emotions. I do wish that I could cry more and that it was easier for me to explain how I was feeling at times, but I guess those are things that I must think through and work on. Those are things that I need to realize before marriage, because I have to be able to communicate in a healthy way with my husband.
Father Cry was a heart-felt narration told by Billy Wilson. His story focuses on the absence of fathers and reflects on an era that is shouting out for the actual presents of fathers and mothers. It helps the readers recognize the need for parents and how that role is crucial in the development of human life. The book depicts how Christians need to venture up as otherworldly moms and fathers to the cutting edge. However, I was profoundly moved even from the first section as I read about the 'crying era', and as I kept on understanding I discovered new disclosure of God's adoration even in my own life. Sympathy was mixed in my heart, and as my heart broke for the broken era I discovered myself needing to share God's affection to the individuals
Everyone has a father. No matter if the father is present in a child’s life or not, he still exists and takes that role. A father has a major impact on his child whether he knows it or not, and that impact and example shapes the child’s perspective on life, and on love. The authors, Robert Hayden and Lucille Clifton, share the impact of their fathers through poetry, each with their own take on how their fathers treated them. The poems “Forgiving My Father” and “Those Winter Sundays” have significant differences in the speaker’s childhood experiences, the tone of the works, and the imagery presented, which all relate to the different themes of each poem.
Take a look around in your everyday life; what do you see? People, animals, life in general maybe, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I mean when you first open google on a day of celebration and another design takes place of the original logo; or when you flip through a magazine, the advertisements for your favorite shoe, makeup brand, or clothing retailer catches your eye .When picking a new reading material, do you judge a book by its cover? If it appeals to you, maybe you’ll open it up and read it; perhaps there’s an inspirational piece of artwork you just can’t keep your mind off of. What about when you watch a movie, all of the sets, all of the cover designs, how? Who? Where does it come from; who creates it; how do they do it?
My loneliness was cold, shivering with no hope for warmth inside. I always watched other colonies huddle to work together as I sat on the side. Even if I begged them to join, I was constantly rejected. They jumped every time they saw me, shook in fear and believed I was going to harm them. Even the giants around me had family and friends.
It is said that a father and son’s bond is unbreakable, that one’s father is his first hero. Small moments between a father and his son can not only shape their character, but also their relationship. This is also portrayed throughout the novel, The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini, where the miscommunications and bonds between a father and his son and how this can change one’s character completely. Hosseini uses this novel to further demonstrate that even though a relationship between a father and his son may start off rough, through time and progression, the broken bond between a father and a son may be able to be recovered. This is demonstrated when Baba and Amir are not able to connect and have the father-son bond they need, when this bond is finally gained, and when Baba passes away.