Reality Essay

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Today, people are born into a generation where people care only for themselves more than ever. People want the best and nothing but the best. In Jean Twinge’s essay, “An Army of One: Me,” it focuses on the self-esteem that people have and how it is related to the happiness in which people want to feel. Having high self-esteem will contribute to being more confident, which will lead to an individual taking on their goals head on. Also, both Leslie Bell’s, “Selections from Hard to Get: Twenty-Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom,” and Daniel Gilbert’s, “Immune to Reality,” offer insight on the matter of pursuit of happiness. Each individual has their own way of knowing when they are happy and only they will know when the…show more content…
Bell’s profession as a psychoanalyst is to study women, her patients, and their decision to be sexually explorative. Women should have high self-esteem to make the choice to do whatever they please. If they want a relationship early at twenty-something, then go right ahead. If they want to first find a career path and earn an education, then that is acceptable as well. Bell mentions, “These contradictory directives leave young women in a bind, and without much help figuring out what they actually want,” (Bell 27). Societal notions tell women to follow a certain path. This contradicts what Gilbert’s essay is about. What do people actually want? No one really knows what they want. This is why when given the option to make choices, people can explore until they reach a level of competency. While Bell says that it is acceptable to make personal choices, Gilbert is saying that doing this will lead to an unhappy life. People want different things. Self-esteem, choice, and happiness are all correlated in the manner that one needs high self-esteem to make good choices, which will lead to overall happiness. If a woman has high self-esteem, then she would not care about what others would think of her if she decided to not get involved in a relationship early, but rather receive an education and fall into a good paying career. Twenge’s essay relates to this because she says that it is acceptable to be selfish in today’s society, thus she

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