Reasons Why Children Should Not Always Listen to Their Parents

Do parents make teens act they way they act? The Capulet’s over parent their children. Juliet at the beginning of the play is obedient and it seems afraid and it she seems afraid of her parents. Lady Capulet does this because she wants her daughter to be proper and raised good where she knows right from wrong. Capulet is hard on Juliet for the same reason but he wants her to live her life how he wants her to live it.

However, they were both teenagers with no good role models to look up to. Everything was out of Juliet’s control, all the decisions were being made for her and she had no say in the matter. Her father told her, “An you be not, hang, beg, starve, die in the streets, for by my soul ne’er agnolage thee nor what is mine shall never do thee good” (III.v. 202-204). If she said no to her parents, she would be out in the streets. She didn’t have a choice, it was either death or, to her, something way worse than death, marrying someone while she was already married. Romeo was only a growing teenager trying to learn what's right in the world without a good role model to look up to. The book shows his confusion when he says, “Why then brawling love, O loving hate, O anything of nothing first create. O heavy lightness, serious vanity” (I, i, 176-178). He did not have a positive role model to influence his life. If Friar lawrence had led him to the right decisions things would not have turned out the way they did. So it is not Romeo’s and Juliet’s fault for their own deaths, it is Friar Lawrence who lead them toward their

57). This shows that teens are rebellious because they will want to try to make the parent stop bothering them by doing the opposite. Teens don’t only rebel against parents the may disobey older relatives too. An example of this is when Tybalt argues with Lord Capulet: “TYB: It fits, when such a villain is a guest: / I’ll not endure him. / CAP: He shall be endured: / What goodman, boy! I say, he shall: go to; / Am I the master here, or you? go to. / You’ll not endure him! God shall mend my soul, / You’ll make a mutiny among my guest! / You will set cock-a-hoop! you’ll be the man! / TYB: Why, uncle, ‘tis a shame.”(1.5.76-84). This shows how Tybalt was being rebellious because he was trying to fight with Romeo but, when he gets told no by Lord Capulet he still argues with his uncle. A number of teens may argue with their parents when they are told to not do something in hope of changing the parent’s mind. Another example of this is showed when Juliet argues with her parents: “CAP: …But fettle your fine joints ‘gainst Thursday next, / To go with Paris to Saint Peter’s Church, / Or I will drag thee on a hurdle thither, / …. / JUL: Good father, I beseech you on my knees, / Hear me with patience but to speak a word.” (3.5.157-163). This shows that Juliet is defying her parent’s wishes because she is arguing against her dad when he told her that she has to marry Paris. Adolescents

Another situation in society today is that kids are expected to follow in their parents footsteps. Some parents that own companies expect their children to take over one day without ever asking the child’s thoughts on the idea. An example of this situation is from the movie "Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer". There is an elf named Hermey. Like all other elves in the North-Pole, Hermey is expected to make toys for all the children around the world. There is one problem; Hermey doesn't want to make toys. Hermey wants to be a dentist. After hearing this, the head elf gets very angry at Hermey. Hermey is known as a misfit due to his choice and he later runs away to not have to make toys anymore and to learn more about being a dentist. It is important to always ask your children what they think of certain things and what they want in life instead of just expecting or assuming what they want without their consent. Expectations put a lot of pressure on kids and it would just be easier on them to let them make their own decisions (but still guide them in the right path).

At first, quick-witted Juliet manages to fool her parents with subtle punning. She deceives them into thinking that she is complying with their wishes when, in actual fact, Juliet is defying them in an unobvious manner. Such an example is when Lady Capulet enters Juliet’s chamber, questioning the reason for her sorrow and tears. Juliet answers, “Indeed I shall be satisfied/ With Romeo till I behold him – dead -/ Is my poor heart so for a kinsman vexed.” (III.v.97-99) This disobedience and disloyalty towards her parents escalates when her father gives her instructions to wed Paris. At this point, Juliet cannot stand her outrage and displays outright disobedience, instantly retorting “He shall not make me there a joyful bride!” (III.v.21) She then seeks help from Friar Lawrence, begging him to help her avoid marrying Paris. “And I will do it without fear or doubt,/ To live an unstained wife to my sweet love.” (IV.i.89-90) As the story plays out, Juliet learns to be bolder and more defiant towards her parents, showing that she is a strong individual with her own views and mindsets. She even resorts to the most desperate of measures in order to go against her parents’

Derived from the potent lessons that one should learn throughout their childhood and adolescence from parental figures is the concept of a moral compass; when one lacks this sense of guidance it can dramatically affect their ability to form a sound sense of judgment which could expose them to unfavourable consequences. In William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, the theme that when young people face a lack of parental guidance the effects can be detrimental to their futures is demonstrated comprehensively. The first reason for the tragic outcome of the play can be traced back to the selfishness of several supporting characters that bear significant roles in the coming of age of both Romeo

“An honour! Were not I thine only nurse, I would say thou hadst suck’d wisdom from thy teat” (1.3. 452). Her relationship with the Nurse was the opposite of the one she shared with her true parents and this lead Juliet to going to her Nurse whenever she had a predicament. This was counter-productive because these predicaments that she went to her Nurse for help lead to her dying because it was the Nurse’s obligation to side with Juliet and do what she was asked, even if it opposed what her parents would have approved. These jobs that Juliet set her Nurse out to complete were rebellious of what her parents would have wanted her to be doing. It was still a healthier relationship than the one that Juliet shared with her mother and father, which was significant considering the fact that she was a teenager when she faced all the issues that came with her forbidden love.

If you don’t listen to your parents, you can grounded, have candy, your cell phone, or computer time taken away or have no friends over. In school, if you don’t listen to your teacher, you can be embarrassed in front of the class, have to do extra work (like this essay), lose class points, or even get kicked out of the class. You will also not get good grades because you wouldn’t be paying attention to learn anything. You could also distract other kids around you that want to learn.

You would think before committing such a terrible act, the immature 16 year old Romeo or the obedient 13 year old Juliet, would consult someone trustworthy. Although Heir and Lady Capulet is Juliet’s parents they are less to blame. What more would you expect from two adults who have already arranged her marriage, yet show little interest. On the other hand, could that have been the problem? Romeo’s

Juliet’s drastic outbreaks and dishonesty are results from her father’s actions that take a toll on her happy ending. Initially, Juliet’s dishonesty to her parents is consistent from beginning to end, including her lies to Lady Capulet about having any feelings toward Romeo. By way of example, when Lady Capulet talks about vengeance towards Romeo, Juliet does not express her true feelings and instead says that, “[she] never shall be satisfied with Romeo, till [she] behold him-dead” (3.5.93-94). That being the case, Juliet keeps her newfound love with Romeo Montague a secret from her parents and does not try to tell her parents about her new feelings. In contrast, if Juliet is honest with her parents about her secrets, then they can step in

Then to make the matters worse, Juliet has to marry Paris. She is forced into a marriage where she didn't love the man and she was also married to Romeo at the same time. This is completely against her religion forcing her to disagree with her parents on the marriage, resulting in an argument. "An you be not, hang, beg, starve, die in the streets," is what Capulet ranted to Juliet after she disagreed to marring Paris. Not to mention her mother didn't even care what she did after the argument, she says "Do as thou wilt, for I have done with thee (3. 5. 205). This scares Juliet and also enrages her. She doesn't know what to do at this point besides either talking to Friar Laurence. "I'll to the Friar, to know his remedy," and if that doesn't work, "myself have power to die" (3. 5. 241). She would kill herself because she would be banished from her own home if she didn't marry or she would basically never see Romeo again, plus be married to a person she doesn't love. Her parents don't even care about anymore over a marriage. That seems unreasonable and makes sense to completely disown their

Second, when Juliet was asked about marriage and when she wanted to be wedded, she told her parents she had no interest in marrying, and she thought she was too young. “Marry, that 'marry' is the very theme I came to talk of.—Tell me, daughter Juliet, How stands your disposition to be married? It is an honor that I dream not of.”(1.3.68-71) This is the first time Juliet is asked about marriage, and she clearly makes it known that she is not interested. Out of nowhere, Capulet arranges the marriage of Juliet and Paris on Thursday. Juliet says she does not want to be married to Paris, and says that she will not truly be happy. Lord Capulet does not like what Juliet says, and gets very angered with her. He even goes on to say that she is not welcome under his roof if she doesn’t marry him. Without having any support from her parents, Juliet feels very alone. First, she does not want to get married to Paris, and second, she is in love with a Montague. This is all frowned upon from both families, and the only people Juliet seems to trust are Friar Lawrence, and the Nurse. Unfortunately, Nurse even suggests she marry Paris, so the only people she feels are on her side are Friar Lawrence and Romeo. When Romeo and Juliet decide to take their own lives, the fact that they didn't have many other people besides themselves made suicide more appealing to them.They were desperate to be with each other.

Even though Romeo and Juliet may seem ancient or incomprehensible to young readers, it can definitely be related to modern day situations and teach a big lesson while teenagers are still young and can be taught from past mistakes. Many teenagers like, “Zakia and Ali”(Rafia Zakaria The Lovers: Afghanistan's Romeo and Juliet) have experienced situations that can relate to the play, Romeo and Juliet. Zakia and Ali fell in love with each other as teenagers and ran away from their home to escape the horrible rules, customs, and consequences enforced if disobeyed, just like how Juliet ran away from her strict father who was going to make her marry Paris so she could be with Romeo. Even though Lord Capulet was treating Juliet unfairly, he should've taught Juliet in the beginning that “[t]oo soon marred are those so early made”(Shakespeare I:ii14), which means that you shouldn’t rush love and therefore Ali and Zakia are also at fault for not listening to their parents as well. Even though their parenting was very strict and harsh, it still gets across the point that despite what they are told, teengaers still make irratic choices due to the ongoing development of the brain. Of course it would be the right thing for Zakia’s and Ali’s parents to support the relationship of their kids, but at the same time need to enforce rules

Quentin Crisp once said, “The young always have the same problem - how to rebel and conform at the same time. They have now solved this by defying their parents and copying one another.” Analyzing this quote has led me to think about the different outcomes of the parent or guardian telling the child no or giving them tasks to complete. Thinking back to when I was growing up, I remember being told no often, and being asked to do things that I did not want to do. Did I want to attack or kill my parents? No, but I did hide their keys and other things that I knew they would need. Is every child like me? No. You have some that will attack or even kill for what they may want. Why? There is not just one answer to that question. There may have been

     Likewise Juliet also made some irrational decisions. It was fate when Juliet was outside thinking on her balcony, and Romeo happened to be strolling outside also. One example of her irrational decisions was when Romeo was wooing her, she could have resisted, but she didn’t. And on the balcony scene, Juliet constantly questioned his love for her, and rushed him into marriage, by saying things like, “If thy purpose marriage, send me word tomorrow,” (II, ii, 143& 144). And when Romeo sends for her to marry him, she didn’t have to shown up, yet she chose to. Later on, when she was engaged to Paris she could have been honest with her parents and told them about Romeo. They might not have liked it, but at least then, her and Romeo would be alive. Juliet could have also of made the choice of going to