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Reflection Of My Family

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A family is someone foundation. They are molded and shaped by their family dynamics. There are so many factors that we can look at how a family operates. For example, the structure and the process of the family. However, at times those variables are not always visual to others. The structure and process are usually passed down from generation to generation. When looking back on generations to generations, we start to realize where our family values come from, the experiences they are willing to tell the next generation. When I was younger, I remember stories that my mother would tell me about her childhood experiences. Coded messages play a huge role in my family from generation to generation. Through her storytelling, there were coded messages to understand how things were when she grew up. I would listen carefully. It gave me another perspective of different generations and the time era that she was brought up. Believe it or not from storytelling we learn why our parents, grandparents do certain things in their own nuclear family.
One of my mom’s favorite stories that she would discuss is how she was the oldest out of her three siblings from my grandmother. My mom had to be the person who looked after her siblings while my grandmother was at work. She would be the one to walk with her sibling to school and then go to school herself. After school was over, she had to go and wait for her brother and sister to get out and head home and get ready for the next day. That was her continuous routine. Her responsibility was cooking and taking care of the house before my grandmother’s arrival home after work. My mother revealed the coded message that she would receive from her mother. If the house was not clean or not to the liking of my grandmother, she would mess up the house and tell her to re-clean. I remember asking my mom why did she have a scar above her eyebrow and she reply that Nana (my grandmother) had thrown a glass cup at her because there were water spots. The coded message was if the house were not clean to my grandmother liking there would have been something thrown or messing up the house again. Once my mom told me, I was slightly hurt. The fact that my grandmother was so sweet to her grandkids and I

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