Reflection On Family Relationship

The NHS define self-esteem as being the opinion each individual has of themselves. NHS, (2015). It is the self-image and self –respect of an individual’s perception of themselves. Roshahl.c, (2008). This assignment is going to discuss the six factors that affect self-esteem. These factors are the growth promoting climate, the looking glass self, self-actualisation, ego identity, social identity and finally, the constructing of self-concept. Maslow stated that people are motivated to achieve certain needs. When one need is fulfilled a person seeks to fulfil the

Slater starts her essay with a sample self-esteem test. When reading the statements you can relate with all of them, whether it is in a positive or negative way. Slater then states, “If your answers demonstrate solid self-regard, the wisdom of the social sciences predicts that you are well adjusted, clean and sober, basically lucid… If your answers, on the other hand, reveal some inner shame, then it is obvious; you were, or are, a teenage mother; you are prone to social deviance…”(744). Everyone has a different level of self-esteem, which does not define how he or she feels about themselves. Anyone such as a friend or family member can seem to have a high self-esteem and feel bad of the way they live. Self-esteem does not identify what lifestyle you live.

The approach of the counselor should originate in the Person-Centered Therapy. The ultimate goal the person-centered therapy is to “provide the necessary and sufficient therapeutic conditions of congruence, unconditional positive regard, and empathetic understanding so that the client can freely grow to become more of a fully functioning person in a safe and supportive therapeutic environment” (Tan, 2011). Audrey has an innocent view toward her biological mother. She longs to be with her and often blames herself for the separation. Thus, it is vital that the counselor reinstates a healthy self-awareness to Audrey’s understanding of the situation. She needs to learn that the situation is not her fault and that she has done nothing wrong. This will help her to view herself positively and be more open with her counselor about the situation. It is vital that Audrey feel that her counselor is on her

A few months ago Denise placed her Mother in an assisted living facility. She is wrestling with the guilt and stress of assisting in her Mother’s care. Denise has two sisters in the area as well as an adult son, but feels she is the primary caregiver for her Mother.

The client is a 46 years old woman whose roles included caring for her siblings and being a mother to her three children. She is very outgoing, loving, and kind and saw the best in her siblings even when they are divided emotionally. Her occupations included attending church, doing laundry, cleaning, visiting friends and family. The family support she received came mainly from her brother who she resides with temporarily due to a surgery to insert a pacemaker. The pacemaker was inserted shortly after she received a terminal diagnosis of an autoimmune disease. In the process to recovery she relied heavily on her social support of church members.

Slight Deterioration. . The client has been displaying negative interactions towards his mother for the past couple of weeks. These behaviors seemed to increase when the client was unable to receive a wanted object from his mother, even after the client was provided therapeutic tools of understanding the differences between needs and wants.

During this assignment I played the role of the client, Casey Roberts a 32-year-old divorced Caucasian woman. A single parent of an eleven old girl Christine; living in low income housing area with a high crime rate. Who is misusing alcohol as a coping mechanism to help her deal with her with depression. The client is employed as an administrative assistant at a local human services program in her community, who is struggling with work at this time and is feeling overwhelmed, due to the high demands from her boss and his mannerisms. The key people in her life are her two cousins and her mother. Her mother is the main support system, her father passed and this causes Casey to feel guilt and shame for asking for help and support she is getting

While most hurting is relatively mild, deeply wounded people deeply wound others.” (p.10). Through managing and changing the patterns we have learned from childhood, we may break the dysfunctional generational behaviors that are passed on from one generation to another. The title of Wilson’s book, Hurt People Hurt People, serves as an appropriate summary for this work as well. Everyone bears wounds or scars from past hurts which are not always physical, but are emotional, verbal and spiritual (p.9). These scars may have been inflicted intentionally or unintentionally, but nevertheless they exist, affect the way one things and feels, and have an impact on one’s future relationships. These hurt people will, in turn, hurt others thus causing a perpetual and continuous series of hurts. The goal of counseling, then, is to break this sequence of hurts which will then create healthy, loving individuals, thus destroying the generational series of dysfunctional and hurtful behavior.

This is made obvious by the subjective reflections of the now grown daughters as they write about their relationships with a distorted and one-sided view. “When individuals describe and evaluate an important relationship, this “accounting” of the relationship imparts meanings to the events, actions, and emotions of their past history, their present interactions, and their anticipated future together.” (Bojczyk, Lehan and McWey) This is how they identify their formative years and how they identify themselves as daughters to their mothers. Sufficed to say, despite the differences in perspective and experience, it is nearly impossible for the mother-daughter relationship to be clinically reviewed, they are heavily subjected to the author’s opinions and reactions to their mother.

The idea of self is a significant part of every individual’s life. The way we visualise ourselves can be altered by feelings of self worth and self esteem and lead to a change or influence in the way we act. The evaluation of one’s attitude towards self can be seen to be improved by the individual believing they are worthy which could lead to a self fulfilling prophecy. The better-than-average effect can depict this theory by assessing individuals on their motivational bias and attributes (Brown, 2011). In this particular study, participants are given a questionnaire regarding ten traits, half of high importance and half of low importance. They were then told to rate these attributes on importance of possession. As predicted, the results show that the

In the vignette, it is mentioned that the client Julie, a 34-year-old African American female, is calling about her son 12-year-old son Derik, who seems to be having an adjustment issue relating to her recent marriage to John. Although Julie indicated that she is calling on behalf of her son’s adjustment problem, she spends most of the time talking about her dissatisfaction at work and within her romantic life. When approaching this case through a solution-focused lens, I would stress to her that anyone who is concerned about the problem situation (Derik’s adjustment problem, although it is apparent there are other issues) should attend the sessions. In the initial intake phase, little information is taken, understanding that the client is the expert in what needs to change; as the therapist, my role is to help her access the strengths she already possesses.

Family has assumed a key part in molding me into the individual I am today. However, as I have matured, I have developed my own standards in view of my comprehension of the world. My family 's qualities are anchored firmly on religion and we attempt to live the values that the Bible lays out. Growing up, my family instilled Christian qualities into me and these qualities are imbued in my memory and I attempt to practice them despite the fact that I don 't generally succeed. As of now, I am driven by aspiration and yearning to be at peace with myself. I have certain objectives I need to accomplish and my qualities and morals have advanced to incorporate them while attempting to keep up those morals I learned when I was young. There since have been occurrences whereby I have gotten in difficulties and I need to settle on what I know to be right and what serves my self-interest. I can 't assert that I generally make the best choices. Yet, I pride myself on being principled. Usually, I adhere to a specific way on the off chance that I feel that it is right with my beliefs. My struggle with is with the whisper in my ear attempting to occupy me from my previously chosen way, however I am persistent, resolute, and take after what I have confidence in to be right to me. I rarely make serious ethical violations but I will not hesitate to own my actions.

If we talk about Christianity point of view Holy bible lays down “Wives submit yourself into your own husbands as unto the Lord.”

”No one is ever born into Life alone. Everyone has shared the bond of family, at least at birth, and for many people it is a bond that will follow them throughout life. For many people it is the most important bond of all.”

My family happens to be deeply religious, conservative and often closed minded about certain aspects of life. In other words, everything that they tend to support and believe in as a family unit, tends to be something I can not personally agree with. As anyone can imagine, this has deeply affected my interpersonal relationship with my family in a negative impact. As an adult, I have come to my own conclusions about my personal beliefs about life and what those entail for myself. These beliefs are usually the exact opposite of what I grew up with, much to the disappointment of my family which has created a deep divide between us. This has probably affected my relationship with my father the most, as he has always been the most outspoken about his disappointment.