Reflection On Interpersonal Communication

Chapter four in the book Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters explains that language has a set of predefined communication rules, which are taught from a very young age. They break these rules into two sections: regulative rules and constitutive rules. The book states that regulative rules “specify when, where, and with whom individuals talk about certain things.” Constitutive rules “specify how to interpret and perform different kinds of communication.”

Competence in interpersonal communication can be assessed both through general interpersonal interactions and non-verbal communication. Both general competence and non-verbal competence are very important to the way that we communicate and have great influence on the message that we relay to those with whom we communicate. After watching the conversation recorded between Matt and I, I have realized that although there are some areas in which I am a competent communicator, there are areas where I could benefit to improve.

Interpersonal communication is how individuals connect with one another, and is a necessary skill for anyone that desires to build harmony, demonstrate respect, diffuse and solve problems, and build meaningful and mutual relationships. This course has allowed me to better understand how and why I communicate the way I do, as well as ways to improve my communication skills and be more cognizant of the functions and repercussions of communication. I learned that communication is about more than what is spoken. It also includes nonverbal cues as well as role schemas. Through studying situations and tendencies in relationships, this class has provided me with life knowledge that will contribute to the success and benefit of current and future

Listening is a very complicated skill that many people do not posses. It requires individuals to reflect and to admit to their flaws. In order to communicate effectively it is important to know when to talk and listen. Peterson’s book is an excellent tool to enhance all types of relationships.

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With identifying the barriers to effective interactions as well as your self-concept, this will assist the communication flow. With learning how self-concept developed and how to maintain it, you will be a better communicator. Self-concept can be defined as one description our portrayal of him or herself as a person (Bevan, & Sole, 2014). With learning how your self-concept was developed and how it changes over time both you and Jennifer need to understand each other’s self-concept this will help to understand each other. Also, to understanding your partner’s feelings and self-concept, this helps with communicating with each other. When you first exchange vows that was your first form of shared communication with five words “until death do us part” those five words tied you and Jennifer to gather for life.

First, let me say that I am extremely flattered, and at the same time, somewhat apprehensive by your request for my input into your relationship. Please keep in mind that I am not a professional counselor, at least not yet, and that I have only begun to study the field. I also value my friendship with both of you and am slightly hesitant to provide even informal "advice" because I would never want to jeopardize our friendship in any way. That said, I believe that your letter does raise several important issues that I have already begun studying in school and I will do my best to share with you the benefit of what I have learned.

Dr. Jim Peterson (2015) uses his professional clinical and pastoral counseling experiences in couples counseling combine with his personal experiences surrounding communication skills to create the book Why Don’t we Listen Better?: Communicating and Connecting in Relationships. Peterson’s (2017) purpose of writing this book is to provide a step by step guide of strategies that will people learn how to more effectively communicate with others. The author (2017) uses common vernacular, metaphors, illustrations, and examples to explain how one can advance in skills that are necessary to improve one’s interpersonal communication and relationships with others, which in turn makes his concepts more comprehensible for the reader. Peterson (2015)

Men don’t seem to know that we must communicate to listen to each other and know what is disturbing to his mate or spouse. Men are more direct and less concerned about feelings, while women approach issues in a more indirect fashion. Tannen writes “For women, talk creates intimacy marriage is an orgy of closeness; you can tell your feelings and thoughts, and

Since the start of this class, I have been reminded again and again that the concepts we are learning can be applied to everyday life. For instance, when we talked about non-verbal communication, I realized that it is impossible to not communicate. There are many activities, other than the use of language, that allow us to draw meaning from something we observe. When my mother widens her eyes at me without stating a word, I understand she is telling me to think twice about the action I’m about to take. It has been great to be able to assign concepts and vocabulary to interpersonal relationships and communication activity that I have been experiencing. Now let me introduce you to my friend Izzy and her boyfriend Ken as I analyze the

Men's and women are two different genders ,so its easy to understand, they don’t communicate in the same way. According to Tannen and Gray men and women should make an effort to understand each other’s expectations when it comes to communication because they use language differently, they think in different ways, and they deal with problems with different ways. For example, in her article, “Sex, lies and conversation; Why is it so hard for Men and Women to talk to each other,” Deborah Tannen tells us How can women and men have such different impressions of communication in marriage? Why the widespread imbalance in their interest and expectation ?According to Tannen and Gray, men’s and women’s different conversation styles reflect men’s need for independence and women need for intimacy because they communicate, think, and speak differently.

Our ability to communicate well with others is important to personal and professional success. The interpersonal communications course is planned to help us in being familiar with the system of effective, and to assess our own interpersonal ability to sharpen our critical understanding of the communication, also to improve the interpersonal skills. Mainly assess our interpersonal skills and to put in goals for improving our communications ability. To development of self-concept and identity are examined as basics for understanding personal communication. We explore our own communication behaviors and to identify areas of personal strengths and

Communication is a crucial part of our daily lives which can be interpreted in various ways. Although, many couples think they have no problems communicating with each other; however, the issue among genders still exists. Learning to talk and listen can improve relationships in many ways. Therefore, Deborah Tannen, John Gray, Susan Page, and John Gottman focused on improving communication skills between genders.

Throughout the Oral and Interpersonal Communication course my fellow classmates and I were required to present on a variety of subjects. For the most part, we were adept when it came to our subjects since we had a general understanding of them, but not enough to be considered true expects. Because of this, I found that the 5th guideline Celeste Headlee outlined related closely to my experiences in the class. In this point, Celeste noted that if a person does not have enough experience to answer a question or make a statement authoritatively on a given topic, then they should admit that they are not an expert or pass it on to someone who is. With this in mind, during the persuasive and informational presentation questions were asked that the presenters simply couldn’t answer. Consequently, the presenters understood when they couldn’t give an answer since they no longer had any references to back them up.

“From negotiating for a promotion to resolving a conflict with a spouse, good communication skills can greatly improve life, while weak communication skills can make everyday interactions frustrating and tense. Interpersonal communication encompasses a number of communication styles; there