Reflection Paper On Language And Emotions

Jan and Ken have been good friends for most of their lives, but because of what she said last week, Ken believes Jan has betrayed their friendship. Ken: Jan, we need to talk. Why did you tell Shannon about what happened between Katie and me? You know, [now] Shannon doesn’t want to talk to me. Jan: Ken, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to tell her. I just kind of slipped out when we were talking. Ken: Sorry? Sorry is not enough. I told you that in private, and you promised that you would keep it just between you and me. Jan: Ken, I told her that long before the two of you even started

How many problematic situations could be prevented if people were to simply talk things out? One of the most vexing aspects of the novel is not Jody’s constant verbal abuse, but Janie’s submission to said abuse. Janie’s reluctance to challenge the men she holds accountable for her problems portrays her character as submissive, a trait that her anxiety will never allow her to get rid of.

Instead of treating Janie like the beautiful woman that she is, he uses her as an object. Joe was a man who “treasured [Janie] as a posession” (Berridge). Joe’s demanding nature suppresses Janie’s urge to grow and develop, thus causing her journey to self-realization to take steps backward rather than forward. In Janie’s opinion, “he needs to “have [his] way all [his] life, trample and mash down and then die ruther than tuh let [him]self heah 'bout it” (Hurston 122). It is almost as if Janie loses sense of her own self-consciousness due to the fact that she becomes like a puppy being told what to do by her master. The death of Jody is actually a positive thing. Joe’s controlling nature stifles Janie’s inner voice. While married to Jody, Janie became closer to others, however, she did not become closer to herself. Being on her own again gave her another chance to embark on her journey and realize who Janie Crawford really is.

Janie continues to suffer Logan’s demands but envisions a better life for herself with Joe Starks; she debates whether she should leave Logan for Joe. While she contemplates this decision, Logan commands she help with the manure pile, but she refuses to do so. Logan then declares: “Ah’m too honest and hard-workin’ for anybody in yo’ family, dat’s de reason you don’t want me!”(Pg.32) She is appalled at what she hears and finally comes to a breaking point. He continually degrades her by relentlessly reminding her of her up bringing, arguing that she is trying to bring him down to her low standards. Janie realizes she has endured Logan’s degrading remarks and disrespect for long enough. She refuses to follow the path of her mother and grandmother who were repeatedly abused. Janie knows that she will never love Logan; he will not fit as her pear-tree. The next morning, she deserts her miserable marriage with Logan and continues down the road to a new adventure, where Joe Starks awaits.

Unfortunately, however, after years of a happy marriage, Janie accidentally kills her husband during an argument. Her town forces her not only to deal with the grief, but to prove her innocence to a

Janie’s marriage with Logan did not match up with what she wished for. He tried to treat her well, but she was unable to accept the faults in their marriage. After meeting the romantic Joe, she was charmed by his big talk of the bright future, and, soon later, they eloped and moved to a new town. At first, Janie was very happy with their relationship, but, as time continued on and priorities changed, she came to find many cracks and bruises in the fruits of their labor. Arguing all the time, much more than she did with Logan, it can be seen by both parties that the other was not who they thought they were. However, they did not leave or abandon each other as expected, and they have similar methods of avoiding conflict: keeping their thoughts

Janie’s relationship with her second husband, Joe Starks, is perhaps the most damaging. In the beginning of their marriage, Janie is proud and admiring of the successful, strong man she marries and runs off with. At first, it seems as though Janie has executed a successful breakaway from her unfulfilling life with Logan Killicks, and transitioned to an exciting, happy life with Joe Starks. Unfortunately, Janie and Joe’s marriage retracts from the infatuated love it once was, into a

Janie believed what her Nanny was telling her and felt that no matter what after her and Logan were married her love for him would begin. The day they were married the two set off to Loganś house. Once they arrived, ¨Janie went on inside to wait for love to begin. The new moon had been up and down three times before she got worried in mind” (Hurston 38). Janie had been under the influence that her love for Logan Killicks would immediately begin after her marriage. Her Nanny had gotten in her along and when she did not begin to love Logan she became worried that something was wrong. I believe that Janie truly did want to love Logan but because the marriage was forced, it was never going to happen. I feel that Janie felt upset that she could not love Logan Killicks in the way she was supposed to. Janie would never truly be able to love Logan no matter what she did due to the fact she did not marry by choice. Janie was unaware of the fact that love is not something that can be forced, it has to come

Janie thought running of with Joe starks, a man who filled her head with dream and hopes of a wonderful life, would be beneficial for her. In the beginning she was happy and in love with Joe, but as time grew on their relationship began to change. Janie began to notice that Joe was more focused on being mayor than being her husband. She never spoke about it because she hoped things would go back to how they were before, when she and Joe first got married. Joe remained focused on being Mayor Starks, and started to change Janie’s appearance by buying her more expensive dresses. But one changed that caused an argument between Janie and Joe was Joe demanding Janie to tie up her hair. Joe made this demand because he

Janie would always respect Joe even though he was a jerk to her at times. She would put up with ever he had to say and she never talked back. Eventually, one day Janie was so fed up with it and decided to strike back verbally. Joe was haggling her a bit as he usually does. He was accusing her of cutting a cigar wrong.

Janie Crawford has dealt with a lot in Their Eyes Were Watching God, but the worst aspect Janie has had to deal with is the way that Joe Starks treats her. As her husband, Joe has an obligation to love and support her, but this is the opposite of what he actually does. This relationship that Janie has to put up with is terrible for her, but it does showcase her true character in the fact that she is able to show how she deals with terrible situations such as her marriage to Joe. Janie Crawford is able to truly showcase her character because of her unhappy marriage, therefore the reader is able to see into her mind instead of just witnessing what she chooses to show.

Client will read the article, “10 Reasons You Can’t Say How You Feel” by John M. Grohol, Psy.D., provided by Counselor. Client will then reflect and write 2-3 pages on those reasons, if any that he can relate/identify with. Client should shift perspectives and see if this article can possibly provide understanding of why a person in his life may have been unable to communicate

Bigger is naturally afraid that Jan might speak a different story than what he told P.I. Britten, so in an attempt to silence and bully him into submission to stop asking questions. This however backfires as Jan is not the kind of man who would easily give up on what he set his eyes on, in this case it was his innocence. Jan is also a man that doesn’t like things too complicated, so when Bigger introduces him to his little murder story, Jan defends his own self well enough that the story is unearthed quickly.

Christensen, K. (2011, Spring). Difficult conversations: How to address what matters most. Rotman Magazine, 22–27.

My work constantly revolves around contradictions and the theme of trying to represent myself through gesture, language and emotion. My interest in vernacular led me to writing in a style which I can understand but makes very little sense to other people: I write how I speak. When I’m speaking, sometimes I talk so fast my words turn backwards and slur and collide in my mouth and I try to represent that in the way I form my sentences. This idea is also influenced by my lack of verbal articulation, where I have trouble relaying how I feel. This inability to express myself leads me to pushing all of my emotive language into my work where sometimes I get so overwhelmed that I cry while I write. This is also evident in how I to some degree destroy most of my work to obscure my feelings further because I am ashamed to show other people that side of myself. My immediate emotional response to these ideas determines how much I obscure and damage my pieces. In asunder (2016) and desquamate (2015) my willingness to conceal myself led me to severely tear them whereas in quiet essay (2015) I did not feel the need.