My overall score from the quiz was a 53. According to the results I am on the higher end of the moderate self-esteem. I agree with the assessment, under the context that self-esteem is interchangeable with the concept of self worth. Worthiness, generally speaking, is a immensely broad subject that lends itself exclusively to ones mental fiber and is either bolstered or berated by societal influence. Under those terms, I agree with some reservations. In the way I have understood the reading and reflect that upon myself, the concept of deservingness from a psychological perspective has no value. At the core, it is a complete cognitive distortion that somehow got mixed into otherwise rational models many of confused, albeit well-meaning, …show more content…
If you had no apparent part in earning these things, how can you deserve the fruits of their being? Can one, in good conscience identify the small part they appear to have played?
All one can say is you “get” something or not. Moralizing it, even in a "positive" way by saying you deserve something good or did not deserve something bad, is classic fictitious thought. And, in the case that you didn 't get it, it seems just plain delusional to say you actually deserve it, despite that reality empirically proves otherwise. I am challenged to comprehend how an emphasis on worthiness or deservingness is at all helpful.
In an effort to improve my own self esteem, I came to the conclusion not throughout the digital keystrokes of this assignment, but rather over the course of my lifetime by attempting to see through illusions of myself. What I accept to have the greatest probability of success is negating the equally self-aggrandizing belief that you won 't ever deserve something, or that once you have something, that you necessarily did not deserve it, and do not deserve to keep it. The prime exception of this is contingent upon on the rational level where one recognizes it is extremely unlikely that you 'll keep anything forever.
Also, it seems as though there is a hidden limitation in this misguided quest for deservingness, whether it 's of happiness, health, a good job, good relationships, ect. That limitation is the notion that in
In my opinion, some may have the opportunity to better their lives and some may have the opportunity, but choose not to use their abilities to improve their situations. Then there are others who are never given an opportunity and are therefore stuck in that situation. This would then be the decision of the individual on how to prepare and manage the “cards” in which they are dealt. However, there are some professions and lifestyles that are simply underpaid and not given that chance.
Most people face self esteem problems at different levels. At some point in life people face this problem without realizing it. In the essay The Trouble with Self-Esteem written by Lauren Slater starts of by demonstrating a test. Self esteem test that determines whether you have a high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The question to be answered however is; what is the value and meaning of self-esteem? The trouble with self-esteem is that not everyone approaches it properly, taking a test or doing research based of a certain group of people is not the way to do so.
Self esteem is how an individual evaluates their worth as a person. It is not a person’s talents or abilities or how they are seen by others It is seen as the feeling of not being good enough. However, that does not mean people with high self esteem view themselves as
Some people sit back and think about how good of a life they have, while others are wondering why they are constantly feeling like they are at a disadvantage. This is what Namit Arora, discusses in his essay “What Do We Deserve?” He often thinks to himself, “How much of my good life do I really deserve? Why me and not so many others?” (Arora 87) and what he means by this is, why is it fair that he receives so many rewards in life when others are struggling to pay the bills. Well I completely agree with him; not everyone is going to have the same rewards in their lives because of many different factors including family background, genetics, environment and so on. However, while one might not start off as wealthy or intelligent
No matter how dishonest it may be, there are immoral people in this world who will sacrifice everything for success. Then again, what is success when it is not earned?
Working for the sole purpose of climbing the socioeconomic ladder is a form of extrinsic motivation. And while extrinsic motivation is still motivation, it often leaves people with a feeling of emptiness. Extrinsic goals exist for a reason; for example, promotions allow you to earn more. Earning more money allows a person to provide for his or her family, to buy new items, and to travel the world. Fame also results in increased social status, which is an appealing idea to many. The majority of the American population remain unaware of the subliminal impact extrinsic motivation
Egotism can overtake the minds of virtually anyone who attempts to gain status and wealth. The gift of
Before I took the Self-Esteem survey quiz, I expected my results to fairly low. I knew I never had the best esteem, but once I started to fill in and circle the true or false answers, I was surprised to see some of my answers were more positive than others! I knew for a fact I was reclusive and sort of timid because of my lack of confidence and my own poor self-observation. However, once I saw questions like pride in work, or confidence in achieving goals, I realized I had grown and had more self-confidence than what I gave myself credit for.
There are people in the word who seem to be luckier than most, like the heavens where favoring them. I have lived long enough in this word to realized that we all are not created equal. Each individual
The idea of self is a significant part of every individual’s life. The way we visualise ourselves can be altered by feelings of self worth and self esteem and lead to a change or influence in the way we act. The evaluation of one’s attitude towards self can be seen to be improved by the individual believing they are worthy which could lead to a self fulfilling prophecy. The better-than-average effect can depict this theory by assessing individuals on their motivational bias and attributes (Brown, 2011). In this particular study, participants are given a questionnaire regarding ten traits, half of high importance and half of low importance. They were then told to rate these attributes on importance of possession. As predicted, the results show that the
Children and adolescents with low self-esteem are more likely to have problems with peers (Hymal et al., 1990). Furthermore, they are more prone to psychological
Insecurity drills a hole into a person’s heart, minimizes their integrity, and accumulates as plaque build up, hindering any kind of future growth. Just as any human being’s growth is stifled by the insecurity within them, the United States as a whole suffers the same from its own tremendous amount of insecurity. This lack of acknowledgement of self-worth causes a ghastly chain reaction; people tend to pursue the wrong ideals, become corrupt, and inevitably lead themselves to their own demise. Insecurity is a route to destruction, and America is speeding down that road to dissolution.
Most people think that peer pressure is one of the leading cause of low self-esteem ,we read about young adult going through teen issues such as bullying , fighting and many more other issues but in 2017 things have changed .Many teenagers are obsessed with social media sites such as Facebook, Snap chat, or even Instagram . these sites were either design for reconnection with lost family or friends to showing people bit a piece what you do on a day to day basis but now that’s not the case. Self -esteem is when an individual has confidence and satisfaction in themselves with the changes in how social media works in this day and age self-esteem is one of the issues it affects. Social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram, and
Furthermore, people who work for wealth are never satisfied, because the things that they want and the work that they do to get it are never ending.
The results of my self assessment were pretty accurate to what I know about myself. I have strong intrapersonal and interpersonal skills. I maintain strong relationships with others and think deeply about my life choices, goals, and ambitions. The only score that I thought would be higher was my musical score. I can play a musical instrument and I enjoy listening to music, but I don’t like to sing or play for others. Thinking back to my childhood, I was a linguistic learner. I followed directions well, if someone modeled how to do something, I could follow it and explain it back. I liked talking with someone personally to understand different concepts. The older I got, I was able to adapt to how my teachers’ taught. I had one teacher who loved using bodily-kinesthetic activities, I had other teachers who loved to sing and use logical-mathematical thinking. If I didn’t adjust to their styles of teaching, I wouldn’t have been successful in their class. I believe learning patterns can be altered because my learning pattern was altered. I’ve learned many different things from teachers who have different teaching styles. Teaching is an art and all teachers should use different teaching styles. Having a wide variety of teachers with different teaching styles made me a well rounded learner.