I know what you're thinking. "Emery, tell us who did this to you." I'm not going to, but not for the reasons you think. Look at every sexual assault case that has been publicized in the past five years. Look at the reality, like the fact that less than 10% of men who sexually assault women actually receive a sentencing. I'm not here to be another statistic. I'm here to incite change, and I don't think that telling you the name of a boy who didn't rape me, but definitely degraded me, is going to incite the type of change our society needs. No, I didn't say no. No, I didn't push him away. But every single part, nonverbally and in some ways verbally, said no. My body language, my excuses, the way I felt limp when it happened, said no. But there …show more content…
Ask, "Is this okay?"
Consent needs to be explicit. Body language means nothing, although physical cues do help in suggesting how comfortable you are with the situation. However, It's best to say it outright.
Just because you've had sex with this person before does not mean you can do it again. Consent is necessary, regardless of how many times you've had sex with the person before.
You can't assume an individual wants to have sex with you because they are known to be sexually active. They're celebrating their sexuality, and you are not entitled to be a part of that celebration unless they make that clear to you. Instead of teaching individuals what to do after a sexual assault, we should be teaching individuals how to escape the event all together. Here are some things I wish I had done:
Remind oneself that you are not obligated to have sex with anyone if you don't want to, if you aren't in the mood, for whatever reason– they are ALL valid.
Tell someone. Leave the room. Find someone, anyone, that will make it difficult for a sexual situation to occur. For example, if you're upstairs with an individual who wants to have sex with you, and you don't want to have sex, leave. Go downstairs, go for a walk, call a
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We aren't doing enough, and it's time for us, as a community to step up, stop sugarcoating it, and incite positive change through conversation. Why the hell are we teaching girls to not get raped when we should be teaching boys to not rape at all? By making sex a taboo topic at Jesuit we are 1) perpetuating rape culture and 2) allow students to be immature and uninformed on a very serious and very real issue present in our world. When sexual energy is repressed, it exposes itself in horrible ways. Pornography addiction, sexual assault, and generally sexist behaviors are all examples of this. I don't want another girl–or boy–to feel like I did: like they can't say no. I'm tired of being censored. This is not a political issue– its a humanity issue. I want "my pussy, my choice, my body, my voice" broadcasted everywhere. I want students to be educated one this more. This isn't a unit in a religion class, it's an aspect of our everyday lives. Sexism is deeply instituted in the United States, and Jesuit likes to pretend that one semester of a peace and justice course is all that students need to hear in order to combat that, but we need so much more than that. We are highly sexual beings and we need to stop neglecting that. The gift of sex, like anything in life, can be abused. We need to learn to engage in it safely and consensually. We also need to
While sex is an act of love and trust, a lot of people throw it around as though it were a football. Many people regret their first sexual encounter because of who they did it with or because they weren’t ready, but they continue to perform the act because they feel that since they already lost their innocence, there is no use in staying abstinent. However, just because one has had sex does not mean they have lost their innocence. Sex is an act of growing and learning, not of losing self-respect and innocence. Sex should be seen as a natural act of mankind that one should not be ashamed of; however, it really depends on who the person is and how they feel about themselves. Through the stories of The Epic of Gilgamesh, “Degradation in Erotic Life”, and “Sex”, the reader can see that the act of sexual intercourse will not cause a loss of innocence as long as one is confident in themselves.
Problems arise when colleges do not supply their students with adequate support, and allowing repeat offenders to remain in the college. The college can prevent possible obstacles by creating an environment to encourage reporting and discourage sexual assault. Also, the elimination of repeat offenders will prevent future sexual assault on campus. Interactive workshops and early education provide essential knowledge about sexual assault and general safety to students entering college. A single prevention effort will not end sexual assault, but through collaboration with education and preventative actions could lead to a safer environment for college
“Because it is my name! Because I cannot have another in my life! Because I lie and sign myself to lies! Because I am not worth the dust on the feet of them you have hanged! How may I live without my name?
Hendriks 1 Ava Hendriks Ms Strong ENL 1 W Friday, February 8, 2024. Roald Dahl: Creating Suspense.
* Law of personal values – have sex to somebody to whom they are committed in a long term relationship or night socialising and not expect an ongoing relationship. Talk about personal values before
This paper debates whether Division 1 athletes should be paid or not. I explain the situation to the readers that do not have much background knowledge of the topic. I go on to say that Division 1 players should be paid because they do not have much money to buy necessities. The NCAA does not allow players to get jobs due to the workload required for their particular sport. The athletes also cannot sell their items or autographed items for revenue. My next reason athletes should be paid is because they are the core of the collegiate sports. Without the players, there would be no revenue period. My next point is that the scholarships are not enough to compensate or the time the athletes put into their sport. Although the
In America, 1 out of 6 women fall victim to rape at some point in their lives—completed or not (“Victims of Sexual Violence” 1). However, this is only one form of sexual assault that women are forced to face. Groping and other non-consensual, sexual acts are also examples of sexual assault (“Sexual Assault” 1).. Many perpetrators of sexual assault roam free, practically unaffected and likely to commit another similar act, while the woman could feel the effects of this event for her entire life. This problem affects women from around the globe—and it’s time that we put an end to it, because if we don’t, who will? If boys were to be taught how and how not to treat women in their early years, sexual assault would not be as prevalent, thus, women, including us, would not have to worry as much about enduring this kind of torment.
But what is sexual harassment? This tricky issue can often be difficult to pin down. According to the Sexual Assault and Harassment Resource Handbook (which is handed out in squad groups during orientation), sexual harassment is defined as unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors and other unwelcome verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature. Behavior can be considered harassment if it is undesired and creates an offensive environment.
One might often ask what importance is there to fight against rape. Statistics have shown that the pillage of a person’s personal space have been steadily increasing since before the 1950s. Every two minutes, there is at least one American being sexually assaulted. (www.rainn.org ‘Sexual Assault Statistics”) these are just two of the millions of statistics that have been taking away many people’s privacy, natural rights, and their trust in others. Instead , due to rape culture women are commonly taught that ‘boys will be boys” or [concerning being bothered or harassed by the opposite sex] “ that just means they like you!” rape culture not only teaches women that its normal to be sexually assaulted , but it teaches them not to bother to correct the rapists, just to take it. In news, press reporters mourn the athletic career of two highschoolers’ who raped and nearly killed a 15 year old girl rather than mourning the victim. The only way to stop these situations from ever happening again is to stop
The topic of sexual assault has always been a tough subject to discuss because it is a heinous crime that can and has happened to men, women, young and old. It is a topic that is disturbing and heart wrenching, especially when involving children. In the past few years, our media outlets have captured the images and stories on sexual assault, focusing mainly on College Institutions and how sexual assault cases have been handled within those institutions. Sexual assault is a very important topic to discuss, since this can happen to anyone you know, man or woman, adult or child, or yourself. This paper will touch on the different types of sexual assault, stigma of sexual assault, treatment of sexual assault, and understanding the perpetrator. There will be a brief discussion of the current social issue of college campus sexual assault. Sexual assault is such a wide topic with many areas to discuss, but this paper will outline the basic understanding of sexual assault and what can be done to overcome this stigma of sexual assault and how we can help the victims/survivors.
Sexual assault and rape are on-going issues plaguing college campuses all across the nation. In part, I believe this is due to a lack of education on what sexual assault actually is. All too often, victims are leaving these situations feeling confused about something that they will forever deem "a weird night". It often isn't until much later that they realize what happened to them was a violation of their body and of their rights.
Something that I think is extremely important is to teach sexual assault resistance strategies to reduce harm like protection from men that women know and trust since most women are sexually assaulted by men they know. Women should be taught how to increase their assertiveness and self-efficacy as well as inform them how to report to police or school officials as soon as possible. They must also be informed on the different types of services on and off campus available to them and how they could be utilized. The importance of reporting incidents of attempted and completed sexual assault to mental and physically health service providers and law enforcement personnel can change their life since everyone handles their assault differently but it's also crucial to not stay silent. Most importantly, programs for men to prevent sexual assault perpetration could provide accurate information on legal definitions and legal penalties for sexual assault. It's extremely crucial to inform men that they are ultimately responsible for determining whether or not a woman has consented to sexual contact and whether or not a woman is capable of providing consent. They should be informed that an intoxicated person can't legally consent to sexual contact and that having sexual contact with an intoxicated or incapacitated person is unacceptable and considered sexual
Sex is not a dirty word as some may define it, but a pleasurable experience. Women must learn to embrace their sexuality and enjoy it. They should embark on a journey by touching themselves to find out what is pleasurable, and then teach their partners how they want to be touched. A person’s religion or spirituality plays an important part on how they view sex. Abstinence before marriage is the religion world view on sex. Sex outside of marriage is labeled as sin, and called fornication according
This literature review provides a brief overview of six scholarly articles and other facts about sexual assault .This review will first define sexual assault as it is defined in these articles. It will analyze the strengths and limitations of the definition used and will discuss the occurrence of sexual assault in the general population.This review will also illustrate the protective factors, barriers to recovery , impact of development and the specific sexual assault population that are absent in these articles. Sexual assault is a societal issue that impacts men and women at every age in their life, it’s much more highly reported among college aged women. The majority of women who are victims of rape are
First off, why would you want to teach high school students about sex if you know it’s going to be too much for their young, innocent minds? Let’s face it, once when the teacher begins to talk about the males’ baby maker and the females’ “foo-foo” the students are going to start laughing, or getting very uncomfortable. Very mature children, won’t you say? Of course, the teachers are not going to call it “baby maker” or “foo-foo” they’re going to say the correct terms. Furthermore, sex education will most likely have to touch on the more sensitive topics like sexual harassment, or prostitution. Students having to hear about innocent people being raped is already crossing the line, and learning that women--and maybe men--are willing to have sex just to gain money. Might as well drop the class, or start skipping it.