Relational Bully

Have you ever been a target of an individual’s cruelty and hatred? It does not necessarily have to be physical, but more like being verbally degraded or publicly humiliated. The effects bullying can have on its victims is something that may last throughout their lives, or something that may end their life(Braithwaite, Hyde, Pope, 2010).We all are well aware of childhood bullying but as evidence shows bullying does not stop on the

How many of you know someone that has been a victim of bullying? or have been victims of a bully? Statistically schools students have a one in seven chance of being on the receiving end of a bullies rage (NBNBD). In the United States, there is an estimated 160,000 children miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation by other students (NEA), but what are the contributing factors in school violence? What and why do bullies to want to inflict pain on someone? We need to find the many sociological factors in a bully that causes them to do harm to others and contribute to violence in schools.

Online Bullying or even face to face bullying has been around for a long time. No matter what people try to do it won’t just away, this why i think that schools shouldn’t limit students online speech.The First Amendment states that we have the “freedom of speech” and schools need to respect and protect that right. Also, why should it matter what people say online or face to face? If it's not during school hours it’s not their concern.

Bullying: something everyone can relate to in some way. You could be the one being bullied, or the one to do the bullying. No one can put a complete end to bullying simply because people are going to be people. They will always try to harm others for various reasons. Therefore schools should not limit students’ online speech. The reasons include, but are not limited to, schools should not get involved with outside happenings; limiting speech will not stop bullying; and the majority of people are not affected.

Bullying is a form of repetitive proactive aggression in which the bullying is unprovoked and the bully initiates the bullying behaviour. (Dodge and Cole – 1987)

Bullying is defined as an intentional act that causes harm to others, and may involve verbal harassment, verbal or non-verbal threats, physical assault, stalking, or other methods of coercion such as manipulation, blackmail, or extortion. Without a doubt bullying, has become an increasing epidemic among individuals today. “The bulling cycle,” according to Dan Olweus, a world-renowned psychologist from Norway, there needs to be three individuals or groups of people involved: the bully, the victim and the bystander. The process begins with simple taunts and can escalate into behavior requiring legal intervention. In fact, several cases have been presented to courts for both criminal and civil prosecution. Another key factor in the progression of bullying cases is the internet. Today’s bullies need not be physically present

In the article Big Bad Bully, the author, Hara Estroff Marano describes that “the one most hurt by bullying is the bully himself” even if at first it is not obvious. Marano claims that the aggression of a bully starts at an early age. The aggression can be physical such as hitting, kicking, and punching or the aggression can be verbal such as name calling, threats, and insults. As Marano writes, “Bullying causes a great deal of misery to others, and its effect on victims last for decades, perhaps even a lifetime.”

She describes that confronting the bully, by fightback, sharing with friend and family for intervention, are different strategies used by victims. In some case the victim is unable to equalize this power over the bully. Which can prolong, ongoing humiliation dealing with issues, such as divorce in the family, drastic learning disabilities, as well as chronic illness potently can cause a breaking point. Having low self-esteem, depression, and suicidal and homicidal ideations. Some victims carry the hurt of bullying into adulthood. More or less victims tend to lose faith in other people for comfort and support. She contends “the adverse social and emotional consequences of bullying victimization do not support the idea that bullying builds character. Victimization may build character for a tiny proportion of the population.” (Kuykendall 2012). Bullying for the most part can be traumatic and painful should not be silently approved. Bullies hold social power than the victims. However attacks arise from frustration. Provocative victims are typically sincerely sorry and very apologetic after an attack, a reflection of genuine or low self-esteem. True bullies consume high self-esteem.

In all cases which I have witnessed, one who bullies others has typically been bullied or continues to be bullied by someone (or something) in control of them. Whether it be another student, a family member, or fate, traumatic events in the life of a young person can spawn the thoughts and actions of bullying in their minds without intending to cause anyone else harm. In Confronting School Bullying: Kids, Culture, and the Making of a Social Problem, Cohen and Brooks (2014) describe the different types of bullies as “Elites… Predators… The Wounded… [and] Bully-Victim[s]” (p. 41-43). The “Elites” were described as “highly popular students” who “generally perceive themselves to be powerful” such as jocks or popular students (Cohen & Brooks, 2014, p. 41). Cohen and Brooks (2014) describe the “Predators” as “Bullies… whose only motivation seemed to be to hurt others” (p. 41). Both Elites and Predators, however, seem to only bully others for the fun of it without any motivation. Along with “The Wounded,” described by Cohen and Brooks (2014) as “bullies at school [who] are often victims at home” (p. 42), Elites and Predators can also fall into the category of bully-victims. Bully-victims are people who fall into both categories of being a bully and a victim, sometimes without realizing it (Cohen & Brooks, 2014, p. 43). Bully-victims have reported being bullied,

It has been investigated that there are two main features found in bullying behavior, power-concerned to bullying and affiliation-concerned to bullying, are connected to being violent and hurting others. (Fekkes,Pijpers,& Verloove-Vanhorick;2004).

Not only are bullied children anxious, depressed, and underachieving during the months and years of their torment, but even years later, they have lower self-esteem as well as painful memories. 7 The picture is somewhat different, but often more ominous, for bullies. Contrary to the public perception that bullies are actually insecure and lonely, at the peak of their bullying they usually have friends who abet, fear, and admire them, and they seem brashly unapologetic about the pain they have inflicted, as they often claim, "all in fun." But their popularity and school success fade over the years, and especially if they are boys, they run a high risk of ending up in prison. In one longitudinal study done by Olweus, by age 24, two-thirds of the boys who had been bullies in the second grade were convicted of at least one felony, and one- third of those who had been bullies in the sixth through the ninth grades were already convicted of three or more crimes, often violent ones. International research likewise finds that children who are allowed to regularly victimize other children are at high risk of becoming violent offenders as adolescents and adults. 8 Unfortunately, bullying during middle childhood seems to be universal: it occurs in every nation that has been studied, is as much a problem in small

Accordingly, Crick and Dodge (1999) defined bullying as a form of proactive aggression ‘in which aggressive acts are employed to achieve interpersonal dominance over another (p. 129). Children who show aggressive behaviors towards their peers are thought to have certain character traits that lead them to become either of two types of aggressors: Bullies, or Bully-Victims (Gasser and Keller, 2009). . According to Warden and Mackinnon (2003), comparisons between prosocial children and bullies are revealing because they tell us something about efficacious bullies’ specific deficits. By comparing children showing immoral (i.e., aggressive) behavior with children showing moral (i.e., prosocial) behavior, we may clarify what—if not a lack in social competencies—makes the difference between these two behavioral groups.

Individuals have been segregated, avoided, harmed, and treated unfairly for centuries. Victims have experienced all forms of abuse such as: violent, verbal, emotional, mental, physical, and sexual. We would be extremely ignorant to think that these types of behaviors are not present in today’s society and schools. The advancement in technology has been beneficial in communicating information to the public; consequently, it has also introduced a new form of harassment and intimidation. The world we live in today has increased in violence and is considered to be more dangerous than that of our ancestors. Bullying is present in all aspects of today’s society, and it has the ability to be more detrimental than ever before.

Just as the hands of a clock are constantly moving, time is constantly going about changing society. Relationships among people have changed significantly from what they were in the past. Specifically, the way in which people interact has changed drastically. However, the one interaction has remained relatively the same throughout: bullying. Bullying, a negative interaction, has produced many statistics. In other words, bullying has made its mark in who the common bullies are, who are the typical victims of bullying, the repercussions of bullying, and ways in which bullying is linked to social and individual problems such as depression, anxiety, and violent tendencies.

Bullying is a repeated aggressive behavior where one person is in a position of power to harm or abuse someone else. There are three main characteristics when incidents occur with bullying. One of the characteristics of bullying is intentional; behavior is an aggressive and deliberate attempt to hurt someone. A second characteristic involves the repeated aggressive actions, which occur over time to the same target or group of targets. The third characteristic involves a power-imbalance where the person bullying has more power over the target being bullied (“What is bullying?” 1).