Relational Conflict Management

Whether we like it or not, conflict is a part of everyday lives. It can happen to anyone, from your friends to your family.

Marriage is an adjustment between two people getting married Communication can cause a relationship to succeed or fail. If you do not share how you feel, it can cause your partner to withdraw. Listening can save a relationship. Schonberg (2011) found that “affective affirmation –basically, behavior that makes your partner feel loved cared for or special plays a role in a happy marriage and those men need it more than women. There are several factors and problems that can cause marriage to either succeed or fail. It is important to discuss problem things left unsaid can cause your partner to with draw.

Interpersonal conflict happens in every relationship. It is inevitable when two or more people disagree on something. Conflict is a result of a misunderstanding because of a miscommunication. In the movie Hitch (Mordaunt & Tadross, 2005) we can notice an interpersonal conflict between two people due to a lack of communication. Communication is a key role in any relationship, whether platonic or an intimate relationship. When starting a relationship it is primordial to be able to communicate effectively from the beginning in order to avoid any conflict. However “people are usually cautious about what they tell each other and how they say it, and they make a conscious effort to present positive

When a couple has been together for at least forty years, one may ask them, how have you put up with one person for so long, or what is your secret to marriage? Unfortunately, a secret may not even exist, but learning how to deal with everyday relationship conflicts, maybe the answer to a lasting marriage. “Gottman and Declaire, discovered that couples have conflict over the same issues sixty-nine percent of the time” (1997) (pg.214) Gottman quotes “We need to teach couples that they will never solve most of their problems, and that couples need to” establish a dialogue” about the problems.”(1997) (pg.214) Validating, volatile, and conflict avoiding, are three approaches couples use, when resolving conflict. Gottman studies show how managing conflict could lead to lasting marriages. Communication practices are also important when trying to resolve conflict. Gottman’s Four Horseman of the Apocalypse are “four communication practices that have very negative outcomes for the particular interaction and for the relationship.”(pg.225) Conflicts are going to occur in every relationship, but learning how to communicate with one another is essential.

Handling conflict is a skill which can be learned. It requires practice, discipline and self-control. In the midst of conflict, most people forget the overall goal in addressing the conflict: Having your partner understand your feelings and resolving the disagreement. The more a couple can keep this goal in mind the less likely either will engage in criticism, yelling or name-calling. These behaviors only fuel the conflict (Managing Conflict in Your Relationship,

As to conflict, if one person wants change and the other is perfectly happy with the status quo whether that’s the division of labor in the household, the level of intimacy and sharing, the frequency of sex or anything else the person seeking change will make the demands. Needless to say, the more the partner is invested in either holding onto the power he or she has or keeping things the way they are, the more he or she will withdraw from the discussion.

This research article has the impression that relational dialectics suggest a no serial relational development. The characters and main theories of this article revolved around the ideas that relational maintenance always strives towards progress. This concept suggests that a relationship that has maintenance will progress as it develops. A second concept that is mention is negotiating stability and change in a relationship. This means that the relationship is participated in actively by those involved and it changes as they proceed. The concept of openness/closedness allows the relationship to have negotiated boundaries that are shared and kept private. The predictability/stability and autonomy/connection relationship characters were also

Sadly, now-a-days most couple fight over simple conflicts. Instead of finding a solution by themselves, they go to difference institution to find a solution to their problem. What we don’t realize is that we tend to forget that it is our life and our relationship that is not working out. The responsibility to find a solution is ours and no one else.

In conflict we often make the mistake of using our power to focus on the relationship or on the issue/  outcome we desire.  The result is that we often attain one at the expense of the other.  Our power may enable us to achieve our goal but damage or destroy the relationship.  Alternatively, we may sustain the relationship at the expense of our needs or desired outcome.  The ideal may be maintaining a healthy relationship while at the same time achieving our goal, but this requires a subtle and complex use of different kinds of power or perhaps not using the power at our disposal.  This requires wisdom, self control and self discipline as well as skilled interpersonal behavior.

It is certainly okay for you and your partner to have some differences, no one has the same exact opinions and feelings on everything, but keep in mind it's not good to have too many differences. "The more your partner feels accepted the more he/she will open up to you and continue to reveal more of their true self to you." - Evans, Ursula. " Importance of Acceptance in Your Relationship."  Examiner.com.

Conflict resolution is integral to a successful relationship and it can be argued that resentment engendered by partner transgressions is likely to fuel couple conflict and impede successful conflict

Remember that your relationship is a two way street and therefore, your communication should be as well. You cannot have an effective relationship if your motto is, “my way or the highway.”

First, the expectations of a relationship and how these expectations are met play a large part in the dyad’s assesment of how well the marriage is going. Also, the decision-making process, another important procedure that should engage both parties of a marriage, is of increasing importance in these post modern, feminist times.

Conflict is in inevitable part of our everyday lives. Since no two people view things in the exact same manner, disagreement will most certainly arise at some point in time. Conflict is simply a difference of opinion and is considered to be a normal part of our everyday lives. There are several different forms of conflict and not all of them are considered to be bad. This paper will discuss the causes of conflict, the different types of conflict, and barriers to conflict. According to Communication Research Associates, conflict is a condition of imbalance within an individual (Communication Research Associates, 2005, p. 178). Keep in mind that just as there are disadvantages to conflict, there are also several advantages.

If you are looking to develop a meaningful relationship and it is important that both parties view themselves as equal parts of the partnership. Both people must be willing to sacrifice in order to make their relationship successful. The willingness to sacrifice for the greater good of the family must be shared between both partners otherwise negativity will develop. It is essential that you must make sure you are doing your best to take care of yourself while still being supportive of your partner.