Relational Dialectic Theory

To summarize (Kaplow, Layne, Saltztman, Cozza & Pynoos, 2013, p. 322-340) this article looks at how grief through exposure to loss due to combat fights, loss of fellow unit members, or the loss of a service member can affect a service member or military family during deployment and reintegration phases. The article goes on to discuss some of the stresses that can increase due to deployments such as martial conflicts, abuse or neglect, and mental health problems stemming from both spouses or children. More military children function equally as well as their civilian counterparts, except during times of deployment where they experience more emotional and behavioral problems. The article looks at three key areas Separation distress characterized as missing the deceased. Existential/Identity Distress finding meaning or fulfillment, or taking on roles left by the deceased. Circumstance-Related Distress characterized as emotional pain brought on by how the deceased passed. The article furthermore looks into how the age of the military children plays into their separation distress. Followed by their existential/identity Distress may be disrupted by new

The authors concluded that the shorter that dwell time, the harder it is for military families to maintain a stable relationship. The authors also provided helpful information on family support and how stress factors can be reduced when military families come across deployment.

This book gives an insight into what American women experienced while their husbands were off at war. This allows us to see how the war affected the women and what changes had to be made to their lives to adapt to the loss of their husband.

As reported by Claire J. White, the author of International Review of Psychiatry journal, spousal deployment might be stressful and could lead into some psychological issues such as depression and anxiety. The anxiety is more than worrying about their husband condition in the middle of a combat, it’s also involving their uneasiness of being far from each other. As most of the deployment were not all due to a short period, it includes how the military spouse would likely to survive and continue the life without their husband at the side. These situations had all been depicted by Saslow in the Ten Letters, where Krissy and Doug were forced to split apart due to the deployment after 10 days they got married. This has put Krissy in a condition

Materials and methods included “a convenience sample of 130 participants from military installations in the mid-Atlantic region of the United States” All were female, age 18 and older with an active duty classification. The authors used a transactional system of analysis using a perceived stress scale, PSS-10. Further, a once only study interval, with no trials involved. Consequently, the authors sought a form survey and used a t-test in determination. The authors’ claimed construct validity was achieved by supporting material result with higher stress levels in deployed serviceman spouses (p < .001). Somatization also significantly higher in spouses of deployed

Relational Dialectical Theory view the tension and opposing forces within the relationship as the matter of nature rather than nurture. Leslie Baxter claimed the tension as a inseparable part of developing relationship, every relationship requires tension and the proper management of through on "ongoing process of communication rather than solved in single episode of communication." (Morgan & Olsen, 2012, p. 136) According to Baxter, every relationship includes opposing forces, contradiction generally referring to the "dynamic tension between opposing forces." (Pawlowski,1998, p. 397; Baxter, 1988) The idea of tension comes from the human desire to seek for the needs and develop further relationship. This theory takes human desire to associate

Sheila has proudly served two tours of duty in the United States Army. Her last tour kept her away from David and her daughter for a period of eighteen months. Social factors that have impacted the family have been that David has been a single caregiver for Joanna, for last year and half. While he has benefited from military community support while Sheila has been gone. He worries about the Sheila’s transition back into the family and how that will impact in raising Joanna. Research shows that family members of military personal often struggle with deployment and the transitions in and out of the military. The deployment of US military personal is a significant stressor that can cause long term family problems for partners and children

As mentioned above the military family members go through many challenges. The service member when deployed leaves the other parent to the care of the family and home. Many divorces happen due to one parent being away from the home for long periods of time and the stress placed on the one parent at home. With one parent left to take on the role for both parents, this can either become a stressor for that one parent or strength building time. The children may receive less attention because the one parent is doing the duty of two. They become self-sufficient during this time. The service member that is deployed is focusing on the duty at hand. This may be patrolling the boundaries of the

As we look at the over, arching aspect of family implications, the most common aspect associated to this is the number of service member deaths. By the numbers alone, those killed in conjunction to the operations of the past 14 years do not hold a candle to the sheer numbers of World Wars I and II, Korea, or Vietnam. We must look past these numbers and look at all injuries, which will then significantly increase the casualty numbers. Many of the millions of wounded warriors resulting of their service, both the physical and emotional trauma, will affect them for the rest of their lives. (Morin, 2011) With casualty rates today we can no longer only look at the service members themselves, the burdens and joys of life continue even in their absence. Now, in today’s families, the decision to serve, or the continuation of service affect everyone within the household.

According to Adler, Rolls, & Proctor (2017) Dialectical Tensions is defined as when conflicts exists between two opposing or incompatible forces exists simultaneously. The incompatible goals I seek between my parents is openess versus privacy. I wanted to be more open to my parents ever since I was young but then they are so strict and very conservative that there was a point that I choose to keep things from them. It was only when I was old and mature enough that I understood that being open and having somethings kept private is one way for my parents to lighten up and give me their trust. That goes the same for me, using the segmentation strategy works really well as I was able to filter out what I need to share or communicate with my parents.

Understanding the hardships and difficulties of a military wife is a difficult thing to do; however, Donna Moreau brings the readers to a sense of sympathy that helps them grasp the emotions the women and families go through while their husbands/fathers are at war in a completely different country. In the series of autobiographies made by the “Waiting Wives,”(Moreau, 2) their stories are shared with us, to show their desperate hopes that their loved ones return home safely. Moreau being a military daughter, her diction and emotions that she felt for herself, are expressed within the other stories so the reader can pick up on her experiences through others. She tells her story through the lines of other women.

Military spouses face many challenges while pursuing their dreams, because they have all of the responsibility for the family as much as their military husband. The military family has to move place to place or move to a base in another country, it seems like really nice to go out and see the world, but afterward, it’s come with a lot of problems such as language, food, weather, etc. Military spouses just like another woman who has a dream and wants that dream come true, but before the dream come true, military spouses encounter unique challenges while pursuing their dreams!!!

As a former member in the US Navy and a disabled veteran there is considerable amount stress in the process of deployment of both partners and the family. as a whole. ‘There are four major stages of deployment cycle: pre-deployment, deployment, post-deployment and reintegration’ (Laser & Stephens, 2011, p. 29).

MILITARY SPOUSES AND THE CHALLENGES OF MILITARY Abstract Army life is unique to say the least. The subculture, with its own language, rules, acronyms and ways, is foreign to the general population. The Global war on Terrorism has brought more awareness and certainly more curiosity about Army life. (Krajeski, 2006, 2008, p. 5).Today, more than ever, the military spouse is a pioneer who travels to strange lands, rears her

Ever since adolescence, I’ve always said “ I would never date or marry someone in the military.” Having stayed consistent, I was convinced that nothing could change my stance, but lone and behold I was wrong. Upon watching military movies or seeing military couples online I avoided the impact of becoming separated from my lover for months at a time, but it wasn’t enough to stop me from falling in love with the man of my dreams. Although us military wives are heavily criticized, i think it is important for people to know the sacrifices us women make so that our husbands can continue to keep our country safe.