Relations In Pakistan

Divorce is not only difficult for parents, but even more difficult for the children. It can hit hard and fast but can also be built up from long term damage and stress on the marriage. Children can view their parent’s divorce in multiple ways. They can visually see it, or they can hear it. Children may also not view the divorce at all. Divorce can be sudden, confusing, and hidden. It can be a quick and relieving process, or it could be slow and painful. The relationship could be fought for night after night with little progress being made. The marriage could be fought verbally or even physically. Hurtful words are thrown to bring an end to the relationship and caring words are thrown to keep the marriage alive.

It’s best if the kids aren’t around if there is going to be an argument. Many children of divorced parents already feel as if their world is spinning out of control. Even after the divorce is final and the aftermath calms down, many hold onto vague feelings of insecurity. Seeing their parents “out of control” will only lend credence to these fears. Never criticize the child’s other parent in front them as it is also frightening for children to view someone they depend on as weak or insufficient. Then there’s the issue of divided loyalties that can become a real problem for children who are not yet equipped to deal with the complexities of the

In the book, Arranged Marriage, by Chitra Divakaruni there are multiple stories that demonstrate arranged marriages from within the Indian culture. In some cases, arranged marriages work out better than others. However, in the short stories in her book, most don’t work out positively. In the short stories, “The Bats” and “The Disappearance”, the arranged marriages don’t work out. Chitra Divakaruni’s viewpoint on arranged marriages is clearly negative, due to violence, and the effect on children.

Rena Silverman, in his article Millions of Young Girls Forced into Marriage wrote that “Driven largely by ……….family members”. The physical and emotional consequences can be very fatal. Since some decade, people give their daughter in forced marriage, when they are generally poor. This being the Dot is a tradition in a marriage will make the fiancée 's family meet its needs. Forced marriage is to be married for the cattle, food or money, also, for the transmission of belongings. After the husband death, the son of the legal wife will inherit of all his property; which will become her own. For this reason parents give their daughter in marriage to have money to stay alive. Yana T. Child marriage problem: causes and consequences said “Parents who cannot provide …………. to ensure she is supported”.

Divorce is a topic that most commonly involves feelings of anger, conflict, anxiety, sadness or depression for all parties involved in the process of divorce (American Psychological Association, 2012). Research suggests that the divorce is not the direct cause of children’s problems, but rather miscommunication that can happen along side the divorce (Afifi, Granger, Joseph, Denes, & Aldeis, 2015; Stallman & Sanders, 2014). The risks of problems do increase when children are drawn into their parent’s conflict (Stallman & Sanders, 2014). Risks include the loss of contact with a parent, experience of significant environmental changes, or strain on parent-child relationship.

During a divorce parents are not the only ones involved, children are just as important. Parents still have to communicate after the divorce for the homework and other school activities.

Arrange marriage is considered a union or alliance between families and important to continuing the genetic line. It is believed that such an important decision can’t be left for inexperienced youth who may not follow the rules of marriage. According to Hindu scripture the marriage of Hindu is seen as the beginning one of the stage in human development. Morality is tied to fulfilling social responsibilities toward others.

The opposition of early marriage believed that early marriage denies the right of young adolescents especially for female to the education they postulate for self-development. In traditional societies, the investment for a girl’s education is thought to be wasted as the girl is going to marry and stay at home doing household chores (UNICEF, 2001). For instance, Demographic Health Survey data collected from Bangladesh, Nepal, Indonesia, and Kazakhstan had shown a clear link between marriage and withdrawal from school (UNICEF, 2001). A girl will drop out from school, if a good marriage prospect arises (UNICEF, 2001). Because of the early end of female education, they will have constricted chances of enhancing skills and acquiring knowledge,

In addition, young females who are going to get married, are required to meet certain expectations in order to determine if the female is able to become a bride in South Indian culture. Thus, they are confined, unfit in other people 's’ eyes, to be allowed to discover who they want to be. Resultantly, females feel as if they are slowly being strangled from their oppressing culture, eventually leading them to develop certain perspectives. With vast numbers of families so focussed on following their cultural rules, child marriages occur quite often where the male spouses are much older than the brides. As a result, these innocent adolescent girls are frightened as they are not given any sort of choice when it comes to deciding their own future and are heavily silenced if they ever speak their minds. Rather, it is more effective that the elders choose the “perfect” groom because the elderly are often associated with wisdom. For example, it is quite apparent that a female’s life is controlled for every big milestone in her life with marriage being a key event that the bride herself has no say in. Appropriately, arranged marriages are a traditional way of living (“India”) and is something that must be arranged by the groom and bride’s parents (“India”) to ensure that the marriage will be prosperous in later years. Astonishingly, the bride and the groom are supposed to interact with one another as little as possible (“India”) and can even be between an uncle and a niece

The rate of divorce in the United States of America has steadied with each passing year. As a matter of fact, although it is believed that 50 percent of couples who decided to get married will end up in divorce the rate of divorce has not increased in the last years. However, the rate of couples who are ending up divorcing is not the main problem or the top priority of the society (Cummings & Davies, 1994). Rather, the focus is being vetted into the effects of divorce in its entirety to a child. Various researches have been conducted and all these studies have revealed that the best interest of a child is not served in a marriage that is surrounded by conflicts between the parents. In squabble-ridden marriages, the parents’ and the children’s best interest will be better served in a granted divorce proceeding than live in a home filled with anger, abuse and conflicts. But it is a known fact than there will always be casualties in a divorce proceeding which are no other than the children. Hence, divorce is far more complicated than the separation of the parents. It transcends into affecting the children not just emotionally but as well as how they interact with other people.

In India, marriage is a mean that relies on the parents' decisions. For example, Marriages in India are arranged marriages, they are forcing two people to get married. Marriages in this country is not a relationship of love for two people, but a connection between two families. Moreover, in this type of arranged marriage, the husband and wife have never met each other, and they have to live as a lifetime term with a partner that they don’t even know before. Indian family said that “Their kids will love and understand each other when they spend time to live together. Even though the arrangement of marriage in some countries

Arranged marriages are highly common but yet many people do not know the customs and traditions of arranged marriage. In arranged marriages, parents choose their son or daughter's future spouse with only a little input from the soon to be newly-weds. If either the son or daughter refuses the choice, the parents tend to respect their wishes and will find someone else (“Traditional”). Sometimes, in other cultures it varies and the consequences of refusal to arrange marriage are: “...the consequences for both men and women were they would be considered a burden to their family and if the parents went to extreme measures then the child could be disowned, beaten, or even be given the death penalty” (“Consequences”). Additionally, in arranging the girl and boy have to be of the same religion, have a good social status, and have the same culture/traditions. Anyone that does not follow these requirements is seen as an unfit match. Advantages of arranged marriage are they shorten the time of dating, let

Couples who are going through a divorce and have children will need to have good communication skills. Studies have shown, “Children often believe they have caused the conflict between their parents” according to David Pruit M.D. Kids become very sad, depressed, and stressed over the divorcing process of their parents. Parents will need to communicate to their children appropriately and explain the reasoning of the divorce to assure their children that they are not the reason why it is happening. Divorces do not always end very well between couples. A variety of name calling, arguments, and legal battles are continuously going on throughout the divorce process. The importance of all of this is to try to

If she elopes, her family is labelled to be lacking right “samskars”, hence unfit for “roti aur beti ka rishta”. For the girl’s family, killing becomes necessary for redemption. Besides killings, thousands…perhaps lakhs of girls are forced to marry against their wishes. Matrimonial columns show that the most families, even highly educated ones, prefer same-caste marriages. The youngsters have no freedom of choice.

His decision was of utmost importance and the same could generally be rebutted by only other male members of the Hindu family. The role in the decision making of the women members was kept at the minimal. The role of the women was apparently confined to household/ domestic chores. This system has prevailed for a very long time in India. It cannot be said that the said system is per-se ineffective or per-se bad. However, wanton use of this system has indeed apparently contributed somewhat to the weaker status of the Indian women. The biased use of the said system by some section of Indian men has further led to the subjugation of the Indian women. In the male-dominated society, women suffered to extreme levels of exploitation. Some factors- like death of bread winner, sudden fall in family income or inadequate family income – forced women to seek employment in informal sector (small trader, artisan or field labourer on a family farm) but yet, that did not result in women empowerment (Dr. K. Sundar & Ashok Kumar, 2012). A woman, in India, has always been seen as only a home-maker, or as a wife, or as a mother. The women psychology has been adversely affected by this.