Research Paper On Shyness

I have always been a shy person who doesn’t know what the reason for being shy is. There has been always a question that I ask myself. Is it just me and my genes or I am always affected by what people think? Is it how my parents has raised me or is it how I was created? Some enduring issues apply to my situation and might overlap, but I am going to focus on one of them which are nature and nurture.

“Shyness: Evolutionary Tactic?” is an article written in The New York Times newspaper. Susan Cane wrote the article in June 2011.The article used a variety of techniques to illustrate her point such as examples, sources, and new definitions.

Quietness is not to be mistaken as shyness. In fact the exact definition of quiet is to make no noise or sound, especially no disturbing sound (Dictionary.com). While shyness is defined as, being reserved or having or showing nervousness, timidity in the company of other people (Encyclopedia.com). You cannot group the shy within the quiet. Nicholas Christenfeld, a psychology professor at the University of California, San Diego stated, "There are people who wish to talk, but are too timid to do so" as well, there are those who,"simply choose not to say much (Weeks).

Courage, the ability to get back up after someone knocks you down, to keep fighting even when there is only the smallest spark of hope. Prehapes the hardest form of courage to attain is quiet courage. Quite courage takes a strength that very few have, the ability to stand back up and face the thing that knocked you down yet to not through a punch but stand and continue with what you were dooing. Quiet courage is found few and far between but is not completely nonexistent. One person that has shown quite courage is Jim Calahan.

Cain ends the subsection of the novel with this excerpt. She claims that introverts have other ways to express themselves besides converting to a “closet introvert.” I agree with the authors statement, however, we should take into consideration that our world is based on the extroverted ideal. The more you communicate, engage in conversations and become comfortable with conflict reflects an ideal self. Therefore, introverts don’t feel the need to find other ways to succeed but rather accept the fact that extroversion is the best way of life. Recently, I’ve been overwhelmed with schoolwork and responsibilities that my anxiety has been affecting my daily life more than usual, both academically and socially. I often lose myself during these circumstances

Psychodynamic theorists believe that selective mutism is a choice made by the child to have power over a certain part of their life. This could be a way for the child to assert control in response to a fight with a parent. These theorists believe that children with selective mutism chose not to speak in public to maintain their power, despite having the ability to speak. Researches emphasize the idea that children often continue this relationship with new individuals who can remove this power, such as a new teacher. Differing from psychodynamic theorists, behaviorists believe that children have been taught to use silence to help control the anxiety that they might feel. For example, if a child is uncomfortable in a certain situation, chooses not to speak, and has reduced anxiety, they have learned that silence is an effective tool (Busse & Downey, 2011). .

As is a saying goes: modesty helps one to go forward, but pride helps one to go backward. Modesty is an attitude to our life, it plays an important part in our study, communication and dealing with affairs. In a word, learn to be modest, and you will succeed.

In Alan J. Duran’s article, Navigating the Participation Grade When You 're Just Shy, he talks about how his introvertism affected him in college. In the fourth paragraph of his article, he says: “I like to think of myself as the strong, silent type, but the truth is I’m just plain shy. It takes me some time to feel comfortable enough to speak out. In a group, I am the quiet one, unless it’s a group of friends. Then I tend to be more extroverted. Not surprisingly, my shyness manifests itself in the classroom. When I see the participation grade, I experience a mild panic attack because I know that even that small percentage can affect my grade” (Alan Duran). Alan Duran represents a good chunk of the thought process of introverted students in classrooms nowadays: either the students are afraid that the answer is wrong, or they believe that their classmates will judge them harshly. In the sixth paragraph of the same article, Alan talks about just that, “The issue isn’t that I don’t have anything to say. I have plenty to say, but getting it out can be hard. The irony is that I’m comfortable speaking in front of a group of people when I’m prepared and have to make a presentation. If I’m doing something simple like an introduction or answering a question, the connection between my brain and mouth fades away like bad Wi-Fi.” Duran is most likely a decent student in college, but his personality

Deference and demeanor have similar values in comparison to the world and how people interact with one another. Simply, one can look at deference as an illustration of one’s demeanor and vice versa, superior demeanor can show deference in society. The overlapping terms correlate in perspective of society and personal day-to-day interactions.

Realistic conflict theory: Mufafer Sherf’s analysis of science collected from previous works like: Einstein’s and Infields’ The Evolution of Physic written 1942. Despite that probabilistic reasoning influenced Sherif, he infrequently found time to administer analytical test to his information because the information to be extremely conclusive beyond analytical finding (Koslin,

When meeting new people, my heart rate increases. I must be deliberate in my speech, or else I will stutter and mumble. I’ll get butterflies, and sometimes even freeze up. This is an example of fearful shyness. Fearful shyness involves being upset about social interactions or fearful when interacting with others (Buss, 1986). This study differentiates the two types of shyness: fearful shyness and self-conscious shyness, and explains where each type of shyness is present in what situations. An example of self-conscious shyness would be anything damaging to the self-esteem, such as going outside naked and being laughed out. Furthermore, this article explains what type of organisms experience each type of shyness; while human infants and other mammals can experience fearful shyness, only older children and adults can experience self-conscious shyness.

You are considered to be a part of a generation (the baby-boomer) that is known for working extremely hard and sacrificing a great deal to attain their accomplishments at work. With that being said, when you look at the work ethic of other generations like Generation X and Millennials how does that make you feel?

People are quick to notice how I can get along with nearly everyone, have conversations with strangers, and make almost everyone feel comfortable and at-ease in my company. During my internship at the College of Charleston School of Business, my social skills fostered cooperation and teamwork, which allows to work efficiently, communicate easily, and learn quickly. Among friends, my extroversion fosters conversation and keeps conversation flowing. I take great pride in my people-skills and natural ease in crowds and conversation, understanding that good people-skills are vital for nearly all relationships and careers.

I, am a very private person, as well as a student. As students we are faced with the ever present threat of teachers who call on us even when our heads are down taking notes and our hands are not raised. As a student and a very private person I have come to detest these occurrences. However while doing some research I came across an article written by Dr. Travis L. Russ professor of Communications and Media Management at Fordham University in New York about communication apprehension and learning styles. In this article Dr. Russ says that there is a coloration between people with high communication apprehension and learning better from reflective work and thinking, while people with a lower amount of communication apprehension prefer to do direct experiments (Russ, 2012). When I share things that I am thinking there is usually a long pause in between the questions asked and my answer, which is caused by me making sure that what I say is not especially revealing towards my inner thoughts. When I was in Advanced Public Speaking the hardest presentation for me to give was the speech of introduction. I hate doing those even if I am just sitting down at a desk posting a recording of it I still get extremely anxious over what I have said, “what if I offend someone?” “did that sound too harsh?” “I hope they don’t think I’m weird.” These things are a constant when I am preparing to talk about myself. I believe that by looking at Social Penetration Theory we can better

For instance, most people have felt shy or insecure on occasion, however, it does not interfere with their daily routines. On the other hand, people suffering from social anxiety disorder experience severe emotional, physical and behavioral symptoms. These symptoms hinder the person from functioning normally on a daily basis (Smith/Jaffe-Gill, 2014). Emotionally, the person fears being criticized and judged by others in everyday social situations. He or she is scared that they might embarrass or humiliate themselves. Frequently, when speaking in public, a person with social anxiety disorder might think, “Was that a yawn? She thinks I’m boring!” (Stein, 2007). These negative thoughts lead to serious physical symptoms, such as shortness of breath,