Rhetorical Analysis Of Why Is It So Easy To Hold A Grudge

People are taught to “forgive and forget” in order to be happy, afterall living with a grudge can being a serious damper in ones life.

Grudges only hurt those involved; forgiveness can save those from a life time consumed with anger. Forgiveness is benificial because "forgiveness of ourselves and others leads to increased feelings of self worth and decreased psychological stress." For example, In the interlopers "and what peace there would be among the forester folk if all ended our feud tonight." Grudges can cause you to dispise a person and when all that anger builds up it could cause irritability along with other psychological

Forgiveness have important medicinal effect on health. Researchers and study have shown that people who forgive have less chances of health issues like heart attack and brain tumor. “People who hold tolerance views of human nature and don’t seem to nurse grieveness unduly tend to have blood pressures in the normal range” (Callwood, J. 2007, p. 153). Writer in the above findings tells her readers the medicinal effect of tolerance. She beautifully explains the positive effect of forgiveness in contrast with unforgiveness where her contrasting finding says “Unforgiving people, some studies show, are three times more likely to have heart diseases as people who don’t carry grudges”(Callwood, J. 2007, p.153). Writer here is addressed to people who cannot or do not forgive and tells them how harmful holding grudges are to their health. She beautifully explains the finding by telling first the negative effect of not forgiving in comparison to

Thematic Statement: Forgiving someone for their mistake can make yourself free of anger and bitterness.

This paper is a comprehensive evaluation of an article entitled “Forgiveness: A Perception and Motivation Study Among Married Adults.” The researchers of this study are Jose Orathinkal, Alfons Vansteenwegen, Roger Burggraeve. This paper will attempt critique and evaluate all pertinent and assigned elements within this article. DDuring this comprehensive evaluation we will disclose the strengths and weaknesses of this research, its methods, results its possible limitations and future uses. This paper will seek to disclose the viability, structure and the construction of this article as it pertains to the

A study by Karremans et al. (2003) indicated that forgiving was positively associated with psychological well-being.

In Understanding Forgiveness by PBS it states that, “...research is finding that [forgiveness] can...reverse effects of holding a grudge” (PBS 14). As shown, a grudge can be canceled out with forgiveness. To clarify, a grudge, like many bad feelings, are like diseases and it takes medicine to heal the body from its hold of desperation. As illustrated in The Tempest by William Shakespeare, it states that Prospero and Miranda where kicked, “...out of dukedom and confer fair Milan will all the owners, of my brother”(Shakespeare 126-127). To explain, Prospero and Miranda were forced out of their home by Prospero's brother, Antonio.

In fact, I continue to hold grudges for a while. For example, a long time ago at my softball game, the umpire made a bad call. He called me out as I slid into 3rd base when it was clear that I was safe. My coach and I started to use the projection method by yelling at the umpire, not to mention the bad decision that took place of getting him angry at my whole team. All in all, sports can get pretty intense. After that night, I thought that being mad at the umpire was not the best settlement we made. Using the intellectualization and rationalization method, I reasoned with myself thinking that different umpires are always around and that situation will most likely not occur again with the same umpire. Similarly, me and my sisters argue and yell at each other all the time. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people interrupt me, and they are the best at doing that. Normally, I leave the general area where the argument is, go to my room, call my grandparents, and tattle to them like a little child. In other words, this is known as regression. Unlike being childish toward my siblings, I will try to be rational when I am mad at my

Being able to forgive and forget allows people to continue to move on with their lives instead of dwelling on a situation. However, would one be able to forget about a situation more easily if they have forgiven their transgressor first? Saima, Bierman, and MacLeod (2014) proposed a study to address this question. They believe this is an important question to address because if forgiving makes forgetting easier, it will allow people who are able to forgive to release offenses, empowering them to preserve valued relationships and move on with their lives.

Forgiveness and hate are two of the strongest and hardest emotions of humans. Each emotion is connected by a power of control, and can be determine by an individual action. Forgiveness has the possibility to allow someone to move beyond hate, resentment and the desire for revenge on settling the score of those who caused the harm and pain. Forgiveness is a positive act that releases the power of hate and angry for the other person and gain all power within themselves. It also leads to a life of spiritual, mental, physical and emotional peace, and joy. One cannot force forgiveness. It takes the mental capacity of being anger free which come at each person’s personal time.

I know this is the reason I picked the article, hoping to find the appropriate method for me to deal this unresolved, buried time in my life. What stood out most was the fact that resentment could lead to unhealthy conditions like depression and anxiety, which can influence ones emotional health and decision making. I never really thought about how that past situation could have or can be impacting my relationships and/or health. In my mind I had let it go and moved on, getting out of the predicament was the best and pretty much only move I needed to make. I can admit some anger still remained, but I honestly thought it was normal and healthy. There isn’t any hate towards the person, just not someone I would choose to be around. But it bothers me that from that experience I could judge others in a way I may never had. Or I may over compensate in situations to cover up my feelings of weakness because of the abusive relationship. This article has led me to better understand myself and realize that forgiveness was more than just moving on, it is about not holding on, actually wanting good for the person who did you harm, and using all that you learned as a positive to enrich your life.

Why hold on to emotions and memories that cause us pain? The reason we hold onto grudges is because we are unable to let go of that anger we feel towards those who did us wrong in the past. All we really are doing is strengthening that identity as the victim, the one who was wronged by someone. You will continue being that victim but of yourself, because you are keeping yourself miserable with the memories. Truth is sometimes it is an attempt for us to get comfort, compassion, or empathy. Something we didn’t get in the past. It is like we are letting those around know that we are in need of extra kindness. It is a cry to be cared for and treated special because of what we endured. The only person that can truly change those emotions is ourselves.

I believe in always forgiving others, but never forgetting what they’ve done to you and I’ve learned to forgive no matter how hurt I may have been. Holding a grudge against anyone in life for any reason isn’t necessarily hurting them if they don't care, it's only hurting you. You have to learn how to move on from things in life and grow from those certain problems.

In the second article I chose to read, Hall and Fincham (2005) discuss the concept of self-forgiveness. Their analysis seeks to get to the heart of what it means and essentially what it takes to forgive oneself for wrongdoing and reckless abandon. Enright (1996) defines self-forgiveness as “a willingness to abandon self-resentment in the face of one’s own acknowledged objective wrong, while fostering compassion, generosity, and love toward oneself.” Hall and Fincham (2005) argue that self-forgiveness is an internal and volatile aberration that results in both a retaliatory and benevolent

To forgive from the heart is to take someone off our own hook and put them onto God’s. There are endless benefits and healthy components in doing this. They include restored relationships, restored peace of mind (which extends to restored mental, emotional and physical health), decreased feelings of revenge, ability to let go of resentment and bitterness, it brings us closer to God and allows us to receive God’s forgiveness.