Romantic Love Is Not Insane

In regard to the effect of love and attraction, the author has come to learn that there is a very big difference between the two. Attraction is what leads the beginning of a relationship whether it is a friendship or, a romantic relationship. On the other hand, love is a pure emotion or feeling that cannot compare to attraction in any facet.

It was really interesting that the author could pinpoint out these little feelings and describe what exactly happens in our body when we fall in love. Her reasoning she exhibited at certain places did that I was speechless and in other places it made me pensive and a bit skeptical of her reasoning. For many people who are not familiar with the scientific description of love is love a simple strong sensation when you meet the right person. Looking at it with a more scientific eye as Anastasia Toufexis does in The Right Chemistry, will tell you that love is a rather complex biological/chemical phenomenon something evolution has given us. Michael Millis gives the following explanation ''What seems on the surface to be irrational, intoxicated behavior is in fact part of natures's master strategy''1, which began in the African plains 4 years ago. This was according to me the key to human survival and it was here the romantic love started to blossom.Thanks to the fact that humans began walking on two legs and mad the entire body visible to one another developed this unique attraction forces, who developed the love into more than just a single reproductive act. Although assembly mates from behind was, and still is, the method favored by most animals, people began to enjoy face-to-face connections. Both appearance and personal attraction became a much bigger part of the equation.

David Maybury-Lewis gives us viewers some insight on romantic love, being in love and just plain old love. He says that being in love is a need for possession because we feel incomplete and this is usually why we marry. The problem we have is that feeling fades. He also says that romantic love threatens the family. Societies need people who will live for their children, not those who will die for love.

Love is the basis of our existence. It affects our every moment, dreams, and hope for the future. Love has caused wars, ended lives, toppled governments and has been expounded on by poets, musicians, philosophers, and literates throughout the centuries. Research from Syracuse University shows that it takes about a fifth of a second to fall in love and it affects almost every part of our body. Our brain releases dopamine, a natural chemical that gives us energy and optimism. Love is similar to a drug and can become an addiction because it affects our brain much like other drugs by triggering the dopamine reward part of our brain. Love even affects a persons’ heart when a person is in love their blood pressure will lower and has been

In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study made by the psychologist Arthur Aron over 20 years ago, which explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a

When someone meets a romantic interest for the first time, there is an instant positive connection between them that makes them feel in sync. It may be love at first sight, or it may due to the “brain synchrony” (110) between them. Through brain synchrony “your respective brain waves mirror one another, [and] each of you-moment by moment-changes the other’s mind” (110). Through conversation, the brains of the two-people involved begin to react and flow in a way that one brain almost predicts the pattern the other will take. This synchronization creates that instant connection between these two-people making them feel love for the other. People crave to be understood and be able to express their feelings to others without any sort of rejection. By giving them a platform to talk about and in turn sharing their own thoughts it creates this mental connection between them. While sharing emotions can run a deeper conversation, by simply paying close attention to what the other

When one thinks of the word “love,” the idea of romance often comes to mind.

Sumps account of Love. Stump begins her discussion on the nature of love by firstly making it known that she will be using Aquinas’ account. Stump is a notable Aquinas scholar and this is important to know as she goes on to contrast his view with more contemporary ones. I will analyze her arguments and discussions as to why she is correct in offering Aquinas’ account as the best that we have available to us. I will mainly focus on her telling of Aquinas’ account of love and will contrast it with what she writes about Kolodny’s and the other accounts that she mentions in her chapter..

After people have been in love for some time, the body develops a tolerance to the pleasurable chemicals. The attraction phase gives way to the attachment phase, when the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin permeate the brain and create feelings of well-being and security.

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix (1988) is broken into three parts: Part I- The Unconscious Marriage, Part II -The Conscious Marriage, and Part III - The Exercises. The first and second part provides the reader with an understanding of brain's’ involvement in the mate selection process. Hendrix writes about concepts related to love and relationship dynamics. Reader may have always wondered about their partner selection process or why they were so in love at one point in their relationship and are repulsed by their partner later on. Hendrix aims to provide the reader with a framework that aide in understanding many of the questions that people often ponder about romantic relationships.

Now onto more serious aspects on love from three different fields which are Psychology, Neuroscience, and Sociology. The article Are We Confusing Passionate Love with Irrationality? Putting Passionate Love into a Cognitive-Behavioral Framework , by Joana R. Podina, Lavinia Uscatesci, and Cristina Magoase discusses love to be related to irrationality. This article informs me with research that three academic fields have done while studying passionate love. To support their study on passionate love the authors include a study on people who are recently in love or were in love in the past, they test their passionate love, irrationality, and rationality. The description given by those three fields for passionate love is the following:” it is a transitional phase from lust to companionate love, while conceptually it is generally regarded as an emotional/ motivational state of “longing for union with another.” In the article, passionate love is described as

This is not typical of how most people fall in love. Most people start off as simply liking each other’s company and slowly interacting more and more until they are actively seeking each other out. As they get closer they being to share more about themselves, both positive and negative aspects. As the begin to agree on goals for their relationship, there reactions become more similar, their psychological well-being becomes tied to the relationship, and finally they begin to see themselves as a couple and not just to people.

The brain generates chemical signals to make people understand love. According to psychologists it only takes a person between 90 seconds and four minutes to determine if you fancy someone. The brain then releases serotonin, an important chemical which explains why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps on popping into your thoughts. MOst scientists even theorize that love is so powerful that it can even change the way how a person thinks, as a person’s ideal lover, or soul mate will often change the longer they live and the more challenges they go through. Scientists have also come to a statistical conclusion that when a person looks another person that they only exoress 55% through their body language, 38% through their tone and speed of their voice and only 7% through what they actually

For one to gain the feeling of deep affection, or love, there is a process that an individual undergoes. Lust stands as step one of this process, which is defined, an overwhelming desire or craving. Many will consider lustful thoughts or actions as a sin but each society has experienced these thoughts in one way or another. Modern day life has shown that today, to carry on a conversation, there must be something intriguing about the opposite sex, whether it is some feature that they carry or simply their appearance. The cliché of “Love at first sight” should be replaced with the word “Lust”, as it became a social norm, that lusting over one and becoming desirous of them is common. The action brings conversation and wherever this may guide them, the exchange conducts one of the last steps, love.

What are the chemical causes and effects of falling in love? There are three phases of love, which include the following; lust, attraction and attachment. Lust is a phase driven by hormones where we end up in an experience of pure desire. Attraction is a phase where you are overcome in new feelings. Attachment is a phase where you grow bonds and feel connected. As stated by Science Daily, "Blood flows to the pleasure center of the brain during the attraction phase, when we feel an overwhelming attraction towards our partner. This behavior fades during the attachment phase, when the body develops a tolerance to the pleasure stimulants, and in other words, becoming accustomed to your partner. Endorphins and hormones "vasopressin" and "oxytocin" also submerge the body at this point, creating an overall sense of felicity and security that are necessities to a lasting relationship". Although getting struck by Cupid's arrow may very well take your breath away and make your heart go pitter-patter, doctors caution that certain physical responses to love may work to our disadvantage.