We seek relationships for many different reasons. There are romatic relationships and friendships we seek and form, to name a few. The factors on why we form relationships are appearance, similarity, complementarity, recipricocal attraction, competence, disclosure, proximity, and rewards. We say appearance doesn't matter, but it does, especially important in the early stages of relationships. The more the phsyical attractive a person is the more that person will be desirable. Similarity is something we look for in a relationship. Research shows we like people who are similar to ourselves. I agree, but I think when it comes to romatic relationships similarity is not always good, because if the person is too similar to the their partner; then
In Sula, Toni Morrison questions what true friendship is by putting Nel Wright and Sula Peace’s friendship to the test. Morrison tests the phrase “opposites attract” in this novel. Nel and Sula have two different personalities yet they are able to compliment each other. They are opposites in the way that they relate to other people, and to the world around them. Nel is rational and balanced; she gets married and gives in to conformity and the town’s expectations. Sula is an irrational and transient character. She follows her immediate passions, completely care free of the feelings other people might have about her. To Nel, Sula’s return to Medallion is like “getting the use of an eye back, having a cataract
Bigelow and La Gaipa (1975) observed children’s friendships by asking a number of children to write an essay about their best friend using the approach called “content analysis”. William Corsaro however dictates that in order to study children you must study them in the context of their own peer culture, he used the “ethnographic approach”. In this essay I shall attempt to compare and contrast the approach used by Bigelow and La Gaipa (1975) and that taken by William Corsaro (2006).
I'm sure you have not only heard, but also used the famous phrase "opposites attract." The statement stands true not only in physics and chemistry, but also in relationships and friendships. We tend to be attracted to people with personalities that differ from ours, so life would be more interesting, and desire the opposite of what we have. A perfect example of this, is Sula and Nel, best friends from Toni Morrison's novel, "Sula", where the conventional ideas of good and evil are turned upside down. The two girls are like opposite sides of a magnet, strongly attracted toward one another and useless when split apart. Life puts their friendship to the test by toying with love and sex, life and death, and good and evil, eventually
During Adolf Hitler’s conquer over the Jews, a long-term brain washing effect named propaganda, monopolized Germany. Propaganda was what Hitler loved to use because it worked so well for him! He controlled everyone’s lives by: what they did, how they did it, whom they could be with, and what jobs they could have. It got so bad to the point where he had cameras everywhere and could see what people were doing in their private lives—they did not have private lives. While Hitler had many obstacles and accomplishments, his biggest and most successful of them all was the promotion of Anti-Semitism.
In chapter ten, multiple concepts/theories are mentioned. The two concepts/theories I will be focusing on are, The Nature of Friendship and Pressures on Friendships. The nature of friendship has to do with the fact that unlike any other relationship friendship is voluntary. Also in any friendship, there is “five basic expectations,” (Wood 283). These expectations have to do with what a friend is and what happens between friends. They are the willingness to invest, emotional closeness, acceptance, trust, and support. Another concept/theory is pressures on friendships. When it comes to pressures on friendships, there could be internal or external tensions occurring. Internal tensions include: relational dialectics, diverse communication styles, and sexual attraction. While external tensions include: competing demands, personal changes, and geographic distance.
Similarity is the highest factor that influences success in a long-lasting relationship. Similarity involves that people in a relationship have equivalent elements related to interests, attitudes, values, background and / or personality. The most decisive factor of whether we like a person is the degree to which we judge
“That the very reason that you shouldn’t. You have been here before so you might be recognized as being connected to Fisk and folk might clam up about things more. Also if word has gotten back here about Fisk and you were known to be with him the night before he died, you might very well find yourself with a belly full of lead or a rope around your neck and I still need you alive. Let me handle this and Ill meet up with you Ok partner?” Ben said and Jeb know deep down that what he was saying was right. They headed off toward their own tasks, each hoping the other would be safe before they reconnected.
The five factors that predict interpersonal relationships are: proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical appearance, and reciprocity. Proximity refers to the geographical location of persons. People are more likely to initiate, engage, or maintain relationships if someone’s geographical location is near or convenient to the person they are to pursue. Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, are not as likely to be initiated if the proximity does not allow individuals to cross paths or maintain a certain level of communication. As well, familiarity plays an important role in the fostering of relationships. People are said to have an increased attraction and fondness for individuals that they see more often than those they do not. In lay terms, similarity can be summed up by saying that people enjoy the presence of those like (or similar) to them. Individuals are more often drawn to and feel less intimidated by others that share their culture and belief systems; thus, are more likely to form relationships with them. Next, is physical attractiveness; which can be defined in two different ways. First off, people tend to believe that beautiful things equal good things and are more likely to seek out relationships with individuals they find beautiful. However, people are also likely to form relationships with people they believe to be on
When one watches Spongebob Squarepants, one gets the double deal of Patrick the Star, loyally warbling behind him. When one spies the mysterious Batman, they see the sidekick Robin, diligently copying his every move When one catches the invasive Han Solo, they can’t miss the looming Chewbacca, glaring down at their captors. These unbreakable bonds of fiction have always been the object of envy because they were so wonderfully pure. However, the selfless actions that characterize friendships may be precisely what makes this relationship impossible. In the heart-breaking tale Of Mice And Men, author John Steinbeck follows the treacherous tale of George, a small, clever man, and Lennie, a large, senseless giant with a dream to own a small farm. As they work on the land for money to snatch their place, they are faced with the raptorial nature of society. In this predatory place, old friends are gunned out of their uselessness, wives are callously ignored, and the innocent are driven to do terrible deeds. When Lennie finally does something unforgivable, George can only obey when Curly, the husband of the woman he killed, condemns him to death. Carlson, the owner of the gun that takes down both Candy’s dog and Lennie, represents society’s predatory nature which makes friendship unsustainable, since society does not understand the value of friendship and can only act on what is most efficient.
A mutual relationship, a win-win relationship. These two relationships are the same thing, just different wording. A mutual relationship can also be displayed as two or more people that have their struggles but decide to help others and try to make another’s life better. However, for this relationship to be considered, “mutual,” all parties must contribute. Take these two boys as an example. Kevin Dillon is a boy that suffers from a type of dwarfism called Miquorio Syndrome. This type of dwarfism is 100% fatal. With Kevin’s appearance, children would often call Kevin, “Freak,” which means that Kevin does not have friends. Alike Kevin, Max also does not have friends. Max Kane is the son of Kenny Kane, a known murderer. Max’s peers have harassed Max not only as a result of the incident but also due to Max has failed the seventh grade. Twice. To put the whipped cream on top of the pie, he is not only harassed by his peers but also by adults. Together, Max and Kevin decide to help each other get through life, and become, “Knights,’ by doing what’s right, and bringing justice to those who have been dishonored. Together, they have a mutual relationship because Kevin helps max with school and is a good friend, Max helps Kevin do good deeds and is a good friend, they help one another get past their limitations, and finally because they work together.
Friendship plays an incredibly important role in our lives. Friendships provide a sense of belonging and emotional stability (McCornack, pg. 357). Friendship, as defined by McCornack (2016), is a “voluntary interpersonal relationship characterized by intimacy and liking.” Friendship is a key part of life for everyone and no two friendships are alike. Like any interpersonal relationship, all friendships must overcome conflict. Conflicts are created from the use of destructive messages, serial arguments, differences in culture, physical violence, gender differences, and a different understanding in power currencies. With each conflict comes its own set of solutions and ways to change and adapt to ensure a healthy and happy
“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together” – Woodrow Wilson. The dictionary definition of a friendship is a relationship between two people who have become friends through mutual interests. However, friendship means so much more than just similar interests. It is a strong bond that had been grown over a period of time that is hard to break.
When I was young, I didn’t have many friends. I was not very socially outgoing, but I had three great friends that were bound to me by the virtue of meeting at an early age. While I was not a popular young man; my three friends and I managed to create our own niche .We made our own little group that could become our refuge, our own world where we could be each other’s strength, entertainment, support in school, and eventually life itself. Acquaintances, coworkers and schoolmates came and went, but our friendships remained. Eventually, this came to be the foundation of a belief of mine in life. I would always believe in and gave my loyalty to my friends and was given back faith and enduring companionship. If only I had known that years later I would experience something that would shatter my faith in friendship.
As I rush to the hospital, l almost crash many times as I am trying to text and drive. I swerve the corner of the parking lot trying to find an empty spot to park. I end up parking in the way back because it’s packed. I park and jump out almost tumbling over on the hot cement. The doors swing wide open as I rush in to the front desk.
Friendship is the best thing that can happen in life to every one of us. It is wonderful to have a friend with whom you can spend lovely time, go shopping, drink coffee, cry, laugh, share happiness and sorrow. A friend gives a sense of happiness to the joy of belonging, often security. It makes us feel less lonely and more valued. Friendship helps meet the basic need of being human. In my opinion, friendship is based on mutual kindness, sincerity, and trust. It involves the ability to count on someone in any situation.