Rudeness

Politeness is able to show a person’s feelings towards others and awareness of a social custom. There are many purposes of politeness including: creating a public self image, creating solidarity, threatening people to send a negative message, not threatening people or upsetting them, indicating social relationship, showing awareness of social context, and power dynamics. The value of polite speech in a culture has the purpose of creating solidarity. Polite speech in a specific culture is very important and should be practiced as much as possible.

Humans have several ways of communicating with one another, whether that is written, spoken, facial expressions, or through body language. We use all of these forms all the time, it would be impossible to live a day without speaking, writing or reading, making facial expressions, or using any body language to communicate with others. While all these forms of communication are commonly known, another form, not as intuitively obvious, is silence. Like all forms of communication, silence will change with reference to different cultures. Just as different cultures speak differently or have different languages, and have different body languages, cultures also have different meanings behind silence. Native American cultures have been described as reluctant to speak or lacking in personal warmth simply because their culture views silence differently than most Americans. Apaches use silence for situations of uncertainty and unpredictability, Americans prefer that silence does not happen at all but will accept it for situations of comfort or in some cases when they want to avoid small talk with strangers. These difference in the use of silences are simply due to the cultural differences between Apaches and Americans. As Apaches’ use of silence reflects their cultural values of recognition and respect, Americans use, or lack of use, of silence reflects their cultural values of directness and urgency.

The speech that I attended and will be writing about is a campaign speech that Devaughn Williams gave while running for president of Phi Delta Theta Ohio Gamma chapter here at Ohio University. The audience was consisted of initiated members of Phi Delta Theta around 40 members were in attendance for the speech, for the elections, this was a formal event that the nominees and audience members dressed up for and at the end of each speech there was a Q&A session between the audience and the Canadettes. There were 3 people that were running for president. During his speech I noticed that he complemented the current president before he talked about what he would do differently giving the current president the respect that he earned during his term which gave him credibility and connected with us in the audience.

Conversation is a ritual every person must encounter throughout their lives in order to function properly with one another in today’s society. However, every individual has a “different idea about what’s appropriate” when approaching someone in any sort of conversation; that is why we are referred to as individuals (Tannen 327). There are thousands of diverse languages to speak to one another with, in fact that means there are thousands of different ways to offend each other with our words. Within those languages there are several contrasting gestures that can offend any single person, such as the amount of times individuals apologize in one meeting, giving criticism too harshly, or thanking someone so often it does not seem genuine. In the article “What Do You Mean,” Deborah Tannen touches upon apologies, criticism, and thank yous in further detail to explain where individuals go wrong within conversation and how they can fix their actions. Individuals find it satisfying to please others by being polite because it is the ‘right’ thing to do, however like myself others need to stand up for themselves and get directly to the point now in order to avoid conflict later in life.

People use polite speech to greet people or either to start something like a conversation with friends or strangers and to express their gratitude to someone. Some people don’t really like polite speech since it never helped them out or they thought of polite speech as something unnecessary to life; however, other people would think otherwise because polite speech is kind away to talk to someone or address someone or even get what you want from someone like making someone go somewhere or even tagging along to a party. This demonstrates that polite speech as a big function in today's society because everyone uses polite speech to get something. Polite speech can used as a way to persuade someone into doing what they want or getting something important. Polite speech can be used to start a conversation or keep the conversation going. Polite speech can be used to get information from someone or getting out of a sticky situation.

When the topic is that of a sensitive nature we don’t want to ask yes or no questions or risk being too blunt and possibly offend the person. We also don’t want to probe someone for one part of information we were after and become distracted or seem uninterested with the rest of the things they have to say. The idea is to be open, caring & empathetic. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, however, being able to assess the situation and knowing how far you can go with someone is a great skill to develop.

Attention getter: The Buddha once noted in Sutta Nipata, a Buddhist scripture, that “Speak only endearing speech, speech that is welcomed. Speech, when it brings no evil to others, is a pleasant thing.” This is one of the many teachings I follow from the Buddha, and this is the teaching I will be using today.

My research paper will focus on measuring subtle attitudes about diversity against a diverse lifestyle. There is a certain amount of deception in the questions that I ask not because I am trying to trick anyone but because I believe that subtle racism is self-perpetuating and most people are unaware that they participate in it. Overt racism is less of a problem today than subtle racism. The questions on the survey are broken into two categories. The first categories would be subtle attitudes that use language of racism such as, I am colorblind. The second categories are questions about a diverse lifestyle. A majority of these questions were taken from campus climate surveys on diversity.

Simple things like saying thank you when someone holds a door for another or saying please when requesting a drink refill no longer seem to be the social norm. What has become the norm is to be waited on by a cashier, “all while having a conversation on her cellphone” (Weeks, 2014). In a telephone survey conducted by Rasmussen Reports, 77% of respondents believed that American adults were becoming ruder ("77% Think Americans", 2013). With society’s manners dwindling, the ease of caring only for ‘me’ has become easier. Hartwell-Walker (2008) believes that if you teach manners to children it will produce empathy. If one were to step back and put themselves into the shoes of the person that their selfishness is going to affect, they may be less likely to follow through with that

When talking to people like teachers, parents, or strangers in public, I typically speak to them in a way that I am suppose to rather than my normal way of talking. While discussing a topic they might not want to hear or asking them to do something, mitigated speech allows me to be compliant towards those authority figures. For example, I would say I use a more mitigated language with my parents the most. Between asking for permission to do an activity or telling them about a bad test grade, I completely downplay the situation to them. I agree with Gladwell that in this case using mitigated language is harmless, but I do feel there are certain times where it should not be used, like in a real

It is interesting to see some people think money is everything in life. They think that money can make them do and have anything that they ever wanted. All they think about is having a huge house, a fancy car, travel the world, and the latest and fanciest brands of clothes. With money, they could control people, having sex with whoever they want and have a lot of friends. They care more about appearance such as only hanging out with people who have one of those expensive sports cars, Ferrari, Lamborghini and so on. Sometimes having money changes the way people talk and behave with others like. Politeness is have very often been associated with wealth. Probably, this is because wealthy people have a better chance to go to the most

Some argue that we need to remember civility that we need to get back to basics: “Holding the door for someone is about manners, it's about time and it's about face-to-face interactions, even when the backward glance is in profile” (Budziszewski). being civil is not just for men to be nice to women, but for the little kid, the grown up, even the President. The US’s civility is failing because we are starting to categorize how certain sexs should act (Budziszewski). It’s this wild dance that most people are sick of

Well, I guess your trying to fight with me again. Honestly, just stop, you should know better than to try and start something, but you tell people "You think I can CONTROL MYSELF WHEN I HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT?" or "No, I can't and never will as long as she either annoys me, makes cringe happen, or makes these absurd things up that she can do." Don't you think that's fucking hurtful? Honestly, I'm done I've never tried to hurt you or have tried to make you fight, but if you wanna fight someone, don't fucking bother. I'm done, I've grown and done with people bossing me and pushing me around. It's hurtful when people talk shit about you with so much hate, but don't you think it's hurtful?

What we say is important in our society, when we speak we understand each other’s. Freedom of speech as Laura Kusisto say is that “we don’t have to approve of what the douchebags say – way just have to let them say it.” It’s very realistic what she says. If we don’t let someone say what he wants we will not guide him to the reasons of why things are happening. Speaking is like a door to a Person minds, when a person talks he open the door to his inner thoughts and his goals, just like when a student speak with his teacher when he has a problem the more the student explain his problem the better that student will become because of the right answer his teacher will give. “Speak so I can see you.” Very famous saying by Socrates and by this

It is important to listen carefully and to withhold personal judgement. This is especially true when the subject matter or the position taken by the speaker is making you angry. In this circumstance, your interjections, if not thoroughly thought through, may just make the person defensive. Problems can also arise if you are too nice and give a lot of positive comments. People like it when they are being praised. This can alter what the speaker is saying. If you continue to give positive comments the speaker will continue to want more of them from you. If you want to find out what the speaker is really thinking you need to listen and withhold evaluation.