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Same Sex Dating Paper

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When choosing dating or sexual partners, we automatically have a certain “type” to which we prefer. Our type is made up of specific attributes to which we presume to be attractive, some of us exclude certain races within our dating radar. Throughout this paper I will examine how gay and straight communities use race to exclude potential dating or sexual partners, find a common theme to which groups are excluded and desired, what I think makes certain races more sought after and if having a racial preference is racist.
Gay and Straight communities both exclude certain races as potential dating and sexual partners. We often hear about stereotypes about certain dating partner’s in the straight community, as discussed in class, in regards to online …show more content…

The biggest difference is seen in the Asian community. Asian men are seen to be unwanted and often are the most oppressed in both gay and straight communities. Asian men are discriminated against and are oppressed the most. Han brings up the notion, “gay men of color have had to build identities along the margins of both race and sexuality"(pg 65 Han 2007.) This makes Asian Men in the gay community oppressed in many ways and deemed the least desirable in the dating world. The other least desirable partners are African American women, this group is oppressed in both communities and are seen to be unwanted, specifically African American women with darker skin. In the documentary, “Dark Girls” produced by Bill Duke and Channsin Berry, “41.9% of black women have not been married. 20.1% of white women have not been married” (Berry & Duke 2011). This brings up the integrated colorism inside and outside of the black culture. It also mentions how dark skinned women are discriminated against within their own race. This happens within all races; often Asian women will discriminate against Asian men and would rather date a white or African American man. While Asian men are least desired, Asian women are seen to be one of the most desired. Asian and White women are the most desirable and sought after. Asian women are seen to be pure and submissive while sexually

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