Saranell has come face to face with one of the most emotionally draining, depleted feelings
that any eight year old has to deal with. Geneva was talking to Saranell in the wagon about how
hard it is to be in a town with no handsome men around “Saranell did not smile”(Carr 84).
Saranell being only eight years old, hearing this from her own mother had to be difficult to
comprehend. When being as young as Saranell, the normal mindset at her age was mommy and
daddy together, forever. However, that's not always how it ends up, and coming to that
realization was rough. Little milestones is what makes a childhood valid, although, it can also
break it. “Go make those paper flowers of yours and have one of the servants bring in a tree
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It's a different level of pain and hurt. For example, if some random stranger starts dating an ex
boyfriend that someone still has feelings for versus the individuals best friend dating that ex
boyfriend that someone still have feelings for. They both hurt, however, one did it
unintentionally (death) and the other did it knowing the pain and hurt it would cause someone
(emotional abandonment). In Phoebe Stone’s The Romeo and Juliet Code the character says “Not
belonging is a terrible feeling. It feels awkward and hurts, as if you were wearing someone else's
shoes”. Saranell had a constant feeling of not belonging. Emotional abandonment is the feeling of
being alone, insecure, left behind, totally ignored. Not belonging in her case, meant facing
neglect with her own mom. It is almost impossible to think about a mother not wanting their
child. How can an eight year olds mom be alive and not be at the same time? It's like she was completely out of touch with reality. “This whole war is so inconvenient, so ridiculous” (Carr
118). How can a person be so belligerent and arrogant when people are dying? Geez,
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There's no way that Geneva can be in touch with reality if she thinks a
war is a vexation. When Saranell comes to a realization that her mother wasn't all there, she
must have felt even more empty and pushed away then before.
It would be easier for a parent to die, then to be emotionally neglected. The feeling of
knowing that a parent is alive, and them not acknowledging an existence is mentally draining. It
makes a person unsure of themselves, takes a toll on everyday life. It's a different level of hurtful,
it can make someone feel totally alone and make an individual push everyone else away, simply
because they fear letting anyone in, since the person that was supposed to be closest to them,
pushed them away instead. When a parent dies, it is now not a choice to cut the child off but it
has been decided by God, it is easier for the child to cope with. Since Saranell was emotionally
abandoned by Geneva, she knows what it's like to be empty, left behind, confused as a young girl,
however, she will thrive and mature because of her awful circumstances as a child. She will
All these can impact greatly on gathering information and making informed choices, it can lead to individuals feeling isolated and depressed, they may become withdrawn which may lead to loneliness and it may have a detrimental effect on their health and well being.
describing her anguish I felt she neglected to realize how this could come off to fellow parents
and even have an effect on the person in a psychological manner due to self-
Not only is she lost, but she is also feels like her life is out of control. After all, she is at a meeting that she had no control over attending. She is in a purse that she did not put herself in. Her surroundings and placement have always been her antagonists. They always worked against her and hindered her from finding her way, keeping her lost and blinding her from locating her family. She wanders aimlessly, but she is at the will of others. The control of others suffocates her dreams and keeps her from getting what she needs; however, being lost and pushed around does not discourage her from continuing to search for a family.
Losing a parent in your most crucial years of needing love and encouragement can really have a huge impact on a kid whether it is good or bad. Sometimes its feels like the world is crumbling beneath your feet and other times its as if it was meant to happen in order to make you the strong independent person you are today.
The multiple stresses and risk factors experienced by adolescents whose parent(s) are expired include fear, worrying, observing and caring for ill parents in pain, social stigmatization, hospital visitation and shattered hope (Wild, 2001). These effects have the potential to cause anxiety, poor self- esteem and depression (Germann, 2001).
The cognitive, physical, and socioemotional developmental issues that Sara can develop can be serious if not corrected. The first five years of is key to shape d the physical, cognitive, socioemotional development. These years are very important any negative early experience can impair children’s mental health and effect their cognitive, behavioral, social emotional development. Environmental factors when children can understand there less then desirable environment. These negative effects can cause poor emotional intelligence and attachment
become detached and/or alienated from others. It can lend itself to a degree of narcissism that
Why do parents abadoned their children, to have the courage to place their child on the cold ground and leave, or to disband and drop them off to the firestation or hospital. Kids each year gets abandoned goes to foster care, become homeless with no-one. Having to learn to grow up at a young age, and to disband there childhood just to take care of themselves, some worries about how they're going to eat each night, or struggles mentally contemplating on suicide, and consuming drugs to hold the pain.
1. It can cause damage to a persons self-esteem and alter their sense of safety.
* Physiological – increased stress levels, mental health, decreased sense of self worth, as well as creating many other health issues.
The feeling of loss was nothing new to Sara. It was an indescribable feeling that can leave the beholder, cripple emotionally in a state of unimaginable pain. She felt a similar pain like this before that nearly shattered her being, after losing her husband-Marcus’s father, seven years earlier.
For the parents, as they age, the child is the one who will take care of them and be their security in their old age. The child is also the one who ensures their parents are not alone or unsafe. If the child has passed away, there is no one to take care of the aging parents. So the loss of the child is very devastating for these families (Xiao-Tain Feng, 2014, p. 26).
In the novella “Leaving Gilead” Pat Carr describes Saranell's life in a way that made it seem as though it was his own life he was writing about. Saranell lived in a place where emotions weren't expressed to often. She was very mature and intelligent at such a young age,so when it was her time to have an understanding of reality she was ready. Even though Geneva had come face to face with they lies she had been living only moments before she passed,the only thing that really matters is the fact that she had told the truth in the very end. Both Saranell and Geneva are on the same path to face reality.
Imagine yourself as a young child, just starting the first year of junior high. You sit on the floor with your siblings in your living room on the weekend, playing Sorry, Monopoly, Clue, or whatever game spikes your interest. You do not have any other cares in the world, as you turn around to see a parent or step-parent leave for work. You tell them bye and that you love them, as they walk out the door, but receive no response. You feel hurt by this and think that you did something wrong, but soon find out that you will never see this parent again. They left your family, for a “better life.” This takes an emotional toll on your whole family, but particularly you. You begin to experience uncontrollable anger, depression, you begin to blame