Self Confidence And Self Esteem

Positive relationships with children and young people are important as when children feel comfortable they can separate more easily from their parents and children are more likely to participate in the play and learning activities if they are secure emotionally.

Whenever a child makes a negative remark about him/her self, I try to encourage to rephrase it to a positive one, so that he/she can form the habit of being positive about him/her self. Again, ‘praise’ is preferable to ‘negative’ remarks

The skills needed to communicate with children are both verbal and non-verbal, getting down to a child’s level and maintaining eye contact and asking appropriate questions, making the child feel secure and developing trust. A smile, a nod or a thumbs up will also show you are interested in what they are saying. Listening and not interrupting them when they are speaking is vital so they can express their points of view and develop confidence in themselves, making sure that if someone is talking to you to give them your full attention, even if that means finding a quiet suitable place with no distractions. Being supportive to the child’s needs can build respect and trust between the child and adult also giving feedback in a clear, constructive way, so the child can feel they can develop with confidence.

Most people face self esteem problems at different levels. At some point in life people face this problem without realizing it. In the essay The Trouble with Self-Esteem written by Lauren Slater starts of by demonstrating a test. Self esteem test that determines whether you have a high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The question to be answered however is; what is the value and meaning of self-esteem? The trouble with self-esteem is that not everyone approaches it properly, taking a test or doing research based of a certain group of people is not the way to do so.

Self confidence is the foundation of success, achievement, and happiness. Unfortunately, the foundation of self confidence can become shaky and unstable if someone that you look up to as a role model hurts your self esteem and courage. One of the biggest role models in my life used to be my first club soccer coach. He seemed brilliant, passionate, and willing to work with my team. This man soon became the complete opposite of what I hoped he would be. I soon realized that he was a two faced liar and one of the most awful people I have ever met. Little did my ten year old self know he would be the downfall of my self confidence and he would slowly destroy any passion I had for the sport I loved all with only a few words.

Managing feelings and behaviour: children talk about how they and others show feelings, talk about their own and others’ behaviour, and its consequences, and know that some behaviour is unacceptable. They work as part of a group or class, and understand and follow the rules. They adjust their behaviour to different situations, and take changes of routine in their stride.

❖ A child’s self esteem and confidence can be affected by negative experiences at school or other aspects of their life

For this to be most effective, it is important that children understand why praise is given. And that the praise is given when the child has done something right like sharing.

There are two ways of communicating with children and young people , conventional and body languages , communication may be formal (adult-led activity) or informal (playtime or social situations). In order to communicate appropriately with any child or young people I need to show that I understand them. Using my body language; eye contact to make sure that I am at their level, try not to invade their space, avoid

When communicating with children, it is important to talk at their level while maintaining eye contact and use positive body language. We must give them time to understand and absorb what is being said to them. This will make the children feel respected and develop trust and thus they will feel confident to communicate with us. The child’s learning and development will benefit if the adults in their life can communicate effectively about them.

The way in which we interact with each other demonstrates how much we value each other’s opinions and input. Through the art of positive communication children can be made to feel part of the school community. Our behaviour and communication needs to be adapted according to the age of the child or young person. This is because they require different levels attention and reassurance depending on their age and any added factors which may be affecting them at the time. For example when they transfer to secondary school young people can feel fragile and emotionally vulnerable – as a result they may require a gentler approach and may also need to have more physical contact .The older a child gets the more they may need help with issues such as puberty and hormonal matters.

To build a good relationship with children, it is important that you encourage them to interact with you. This should be in a relaxed and natural way. Sometimes rather than telling a child what to do, you may ask them what they think and allow them to make suggestions. Listening plays a vital role here and teaches the children how to listen.

● Give eye contact and actively listen. If you say that you are listening, but are looking away and are busy doing something else, this gives the child

Body language is very important for communication, getting down to a childâ€TMs level will make the child feel at ease and that they are being listened to and not being rushed.

Eye contact and being able to listen. Making sure that when children are talking to you, you are able to make constant eye contact, as looking away may give an impression that you are not listing to the child. It is important that to remain focused and paying attention to whatsoever they may talking to you about in order to find the best solution and equitable answer.