Self-Monitoring According To Interplay: The Process Of Interpersonal Communication

Chapter One of Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication is largely an introductory section, acquainting readers with some of the foundations of communication – our needs, models and characteristics of communication, and the world’s newest form of communication: social media. One of the needs detailed during this chapter was titled “Identity Needs,” and this is the particular section to which I wish to respond through this “Biblical Response” paper.

To demonstrate effective communicational skills one must use one to one interaction for example to communicate. This was done through acting skills such as hand gestures that can be used as a stimulus or signal to the other person to listen or to calm down. For example if two people are conversing and one is speaking in a loud aggressive tone, the other person can use hand gestures to make them calm and quieter. Furthermore to use interactive

Personally, self-examination is an integral part of my life, without self-examination a looping process of failure occurs. I cannot grow without self-examination. I love growth, as a human being I believe that it is the most important part to becoming a contributor to society and compassionate individual. I cannot fully understand my mistakes without examining them first,

Communication 103 was initially a class I chose to meet my transfer requirements, but throughout the course I gained valuable information that will help me in my daily life, I learned that the way I was handling conflicts was inferior to other methods, how to improve upon my communication ability by enhancing my listening ability, and ways in which I was thinking irrationally.

These skills have helped me a lot because I am in situations where I have to communicate, but I didn't really know how. Now I do thank to the DARE program. So, nonverbal communication. What is it? Nonverbal communication is physical actions or body language that goes along with what we are saying. An example of nonverbal communication is facial expressions or a pat on the back. Sometimes when you are communicating, you can be unsure, demanding, or confident. Being unsure is when you are not really sure about something. You get really nervous and can't keep your voice steady. Being demanding is exactly how it sounds. You demand, such as yelling or screaming. Being confident is when you are not too demanding and not too unsure. You are strong with words and stable. But I've told you about communication, but what is it? Communication is when people express their thoughts or feelings with each other. Communication is helpful when you are in tough situations, but remember what you do in your actions and say in your

One of my evaluations in my interview profile is self monitoring. It is the tendency of an

Being Self-Aware . Being self aware while teaching meant that I was aware of what I was saying, what I was thinking and how I was responding to the leaners’ and the instructional material. I was self-ware of the decisions I made in and out of class. This is also what I encouraged in my students. Encouraging students to be self-aware, they consciously paid more attention. The learner proactively viewed themselves from the position of their higher self, through their feelings thoughts, decisions, and actions. I expected no less of them than what I expected of myself.

Self-awareness is the key to understanding the reasons why some interactions are successful and why others are not. Realising how much previous experience can affect us and how certain triggers can produce a response that surprises us, is a process that can take a long time. Issues of transference and counter-transference bring understanding as to why some

Self-awareness involves the ability to understand and evaluate your own emotions through reflection, self-comparisons and feedback from others (Steiner, 2014). Self-awareness aims at enhancing self-knowledge, behavioral, and emotional improvements, and accommodating weaknesses (Steiner, 2014). It allows individuals to understand how they think, behave, and respond to situations that they encounter. To achieve this, feedback from other people is required. People who are self-aware are self-driven, resourceful, eager to learn, self-motivated, and problem-solvers. They also portray independence of self-concept (Steiner, 2014). Self-awareness helps an individual to practice effective self-management.

However, there are cases people can refuse self-awareness. According to Maslow (1962), people avoid acquiring new knowledge about themselves because of the uncertain and uncomfortable feelings they can receive (as cited in Whetten & Cameron, 2011). Whetten and Cameron (2011) believe dis-closure is the key for people to overcome that panic. By discussing one’s own aspects with others, people can reduce the ambiguity of problems. For instance, through exchanging results of self-analysis toolkits in Developing Self seminars, people can be more aware of their own strengths and weaknesses as well as receive feedbacks from others. Their Johari Window of what I know and what others know can be more extended.

Self-Monitoring is my first conceptual issue that I have had problems with for as long as I can remember whether it be with school, work, or time with friends. Self-Monitoring is the ability to adapt your behavior at any situation you are in. These kinds of people can portray the image they want to their peers and colleagues. Since they have such a great ability to adapt they are able to understand the environment and therefore already have a great advantage in knowing what is required.

I scored a 6 on my self-monitoring test. Out of a total of 25 points the results show that I am a low self-monitor. One thing I noticed to be true about the results is that I have a hard time masking my facial expressions. This is contradictory to my analyical communication style. For instance, If I am at a social gathering and someone makes a comment that I find distasteful it is hard for me to hide the emotions on my face. While I will most likely not address the person or speak of the comment my nonverbal communiction can be easily identified. I also struggle to empathize well with others. I don’t always see how my actions affect someone or how they can be offensive. I find myself saying “well if it was me…”, when in fact it is not me and

Throughout this semester in communications I have learned a lot about myself, how to deal with others, relationships, and more. There were some lessons that stood out to me the most, and that I thought about after class. The first was in chapter 3 about interpersonal communication and the self. During this chapter, we took a piece of paper and put four people that we knew down. We chose someone who we were just getting to know, and then others that we knew very well or that were very close to us. In this lesson, we were discussing the social penetration theory. The first step is the breadth which is a volunteered amount of information that we tell someone as subjects are being discussed. The second step is depth which is when we began to go deeper into personal information. The four people that I chose were a girl I had just met at work, my sister, my dad, and my boyfriend. After completing the circles and filling in the amount of information that I have covered with them, the girl I work with had the least, and my sister had the most filled in to the core. After completing this lesson, I looked at my paper and realized that almost everyone was more filled in to the core than my relationship with my father. This lesson struck a major cord with me because I never realized how surface level my relationship with my dad was until talking about this lesson. I knew that my father and I were not that close to begin with, but I never knew why. After this lesson, I understood that my

Verbal tracking is another skill I would like to say is one of my strengths. I understand the importance of listening. This is the one skill that I have tried to hone. At first I noticed myself interjecting my own ideas and stories, taking over conversations and making them about me. When I became aware of this, I began listening more to others. Verbal tracking has made me a better listener and I feel that I am better at following my client’s train of thought.

For me personal , my self-assess of interpersonal communication skills are very effective. I will sit back and listen to what people have to tell me and then give my thoughts on what should be done or what can't be done. I will also work with people to get a better understanding of a situation when it arises.