Sex And Love Has Changed The Last Few Decades

     Traditional Dating has changed over the years. In my generation the girls can ask the guys, there is no telling where they might go on a date, or they might just hang out at home, which did not happen as much 25 years ago. My generation's moral values are changing too: sex on the first date happens more frequently now. Many Years ago a guy would go pick the girl up at her house, was introduced to her parents and have a talk with them before taking their

Modern dating and relationships, as they are today, would never be considered a social norm for past generations. Other, earlier, generations were much more conservative. For instance, today’s version of dating is ‘Netflix and chill’ and online dating. Dating as a social norm changed nearly every decade. In the 1900s and 1910s it was considered a social norm to ask permission to date a woman from her parents and be supervised by the woman’s parents when they were together (Dating 2). In the next decade, the 1920s and 30s, dating had a significant change in what would be considered socially acceptable during that time period. Young people of the time considered dating a relaxed way to get to know another person (Dating 2). Dating at this time was more about social status than the person themselves. In the time of the 1940s to 1950s, women were significantly more concerned with a man’s likelihood of surviving the war than his social status (Dating 2). During this time, there was more of a chance that people would have premarital sex within a committed relationship (Dating 2). Teens and young adults “went steady”, which was the precursor to getting married (1950s 2). The final intention of the relationship was marriage, so more individuals had premarital sex. Around the mid-1960s, birth control made an appearance, and this time was also considered the end of dating

Elizabeth A. Armstrong, Laura Hamilton, and Paula England explain that millennials are not hooking up more than baby boomers were when they were in their 20s, it is just that more attention has been drawn to casual sex. Paula England surveyed 14,000 students from 19 different colleges and universities about their sex lives and only 72% of students had hooked by their senior year of college. 80% of those men and women had had less than one sexual encounter per semester. These statistics are quite different from what we are led to think about today’s twentysomethings.

The reading that interested me most was “The Decline of the Date and the Rise of the College Hook Up” by Paula England and Rueben J. Thomas. The initial motive for this research was that an undergraduate student of England’s “wanted to do a research paper on why students on campus didn’t date much anymore” (pg 69). The two researchers, England and Thomas, then began questioning students on Stanford University’s campus about what they thought about the increasing occurrence of hook ups as compared to going out on dates.

Dating focused on consumption. Couples would attend the movies or go dancing, but with the shift in focus, couples entered dating into the public sphere. Because they could leave the watchful eyes of the family at home, many couples would spend the evening out in the town going to a movie or a restaurant. Public appearance increased the male control because it allowed them to be both host and the economic benefactor of their date. The home was were the woman would have had control, but in public, the male was the dominant figure based on societal standards. Often the female was dependent on the male for transportation, food, and entertainment. This increased control led to dating being a way to obtain popularity.

I agree with the NPR story regarding the hook up culture where it is stated that dating is a dying phenomenon. I agree with their claim that relationships have been a major shift in the culture for the past decades especially with young people. I believe the culture is this way because college students are not focused on marrying or having children, but rather focused on establishing their independency and success. Another reason is because for most college student marriage is the last thing on their mind. According to the NPR, men marry for the first time around 27, and women marry around the age of 25. Students realize that they have a long way before settling down and that’s when they start hooking up. Another reason why young

In the article, Is hooking up bad for young women, can be summed up by saying that young girls having sex is nothing new. The term hooking up has a both negative and positive aspects for girls. With the negative side, young girls are labeled more as a whore and a slut by their peers if their casual encounters are made public. While reading this article the thing that caught my attention the most was women who have had more sexual encounters with men have less desire for sex, then women who have been in a long term relationship. Many people who have been in a long relationship, feel like because they've been with that guy for so long, they must have sex, as opposed to the girls who aren't in a relationship don't know who to have sex with. The

People who are not in a committed relationship also known as hookups or friends with benefits. The controversial issue of casual sex are adverse effects of hookups may consist of emotional entanglement, psychological harm, sexual violence, sexually transmitted infections, and or unplanned pregnancy. People who have experience hook-up behavior has linked with a variety of mental health factors (Garcia, 2013). Additionally, although some individuals are having casual sex, not all enjoy being in that type of relationship. Which may cause some to have low self-esteem, anxiety, and feeling of being pressured and discomfort (Paul et al., 2000). As a result feeling guilty and resentment. Women were more likely to feel guilt and have negative feelings than men (Garcia, 2013). These negative sense of guilt and resentments may connect to individuals wanting a more intimate and committed relationship.

On most college campuses and in the lives of most young adults of the college aged group, it is typical to find “hook up” culture running rampant. Instead of typical dating routines, young people are turning to casual sex or other casual flings after college parties or in bars. Though it does not affect only college students, this practice is becoming more and more widely accepted in American culture, and in fact is becoming an alternative to normal dating relationships. Kari-Shane Davis Zimmerman, in her article “In Control? The Hookup Culture and the Practice of Relationships”, presents however that this practice cultivates characteristics that are discordant with long term relationships. Taking part in the practice of “hooking up” compromises

Dating has changed so much over time. With advances in technology, it’s easier than ever to strike up a conversation with someone new. However, in the past there have been scripts to follow, or an order to do things in. For example, someone would ask the other person out, they would start dating, get married, move in together, and then have kids. In today’s world, there is no set script. Many people are doing things differently, and in different orders. As people are becoming more and more tolerant of differences, dating is evolving to include things it never used to. With this all happening, dating and hooking up in today’s world is as messy and confusing as ever. Learning about it while also experiencing some of the same things first hand while at college has been interesting.

Comparatively, college students are not actually having sex like the media has made them out to be. In fact, many college students do not even engage in sexual intercourse for the reason that they are not that interested in having a high number of hook ups while in school. Interestingly, the baby boomers generation feels that the committed relationships have been replaced with the “friends with benefits.” aIn the same fashion, the media has also been confusing older adults about the way the young people are living their love lives. The authors say that the young people are balancing fun and risk through sexual experimentation. Even though society has been more acceptable to women’s sexual liberation, they are still double standard issues that remain unchanged. For instance, one of the interviewees stated in the article that men can have sex with many women without being judged, while women are judged harshly for their high sexual body count. Another double standard situation is that men tend to care more for their girlfriend’s sexual satisfaction than their hook up

In this week’s readings Kelly B Smith discusses the popularity of “hook ups” or “casual sex”, for reasons not related to emotional factors. In today’s society, the hookup culture is the new normal, and monogamous relationships are becoming outdated. Smith explains how this prominent hook-up culture is due to the “historical and social changes [that] have helped make it more convenient and acceptable for young people to participate in such partnered sexual activities.”  It has become popular, especially for college and university students, for reasons that include physical gratification, fulfillment of emotional needs, and the allure of having “no strings attached". However, a lot of these hook ups never lead to romantic relationships

There’s no doubt about it that there are substantial shifts in attitudes towards sex within each generation. Today’s Millennials are more accepting of sexual expression, premarital sex,

Through-out America adolescents are exposed do many different ways and ideas about their sexuality. Looking back over the past many years, the views on sex have changed drastically. Those many years ago, sex was a private experience for married couples. This was an act of love between the married man and woman. This act of love they shared would then start their family. They gift of a small, sweet, lovable baby is what they had always dreamed of. They would paint a picture of how love was to be, one day at a time. The love they had for each other would build their lives together for worse or for better, through the good and the bad. This is a story my grandmother shared with me as I grew up. However as the years have passed, the act of love my grandmother spoke of, turned into something vastly different.

By the 1960s, the sexual revolution dramatically changed the dating environment, and for many, the goal of courtship was no longer marriage. Cohabitation was a popular choice, however, during the mid-1980s, this notion of free love began to erode as concerns over the spread of HIV became more prominent. This in turn, lead to a greater emphasis on monogomy.