Essay about Sex, Lies, and Conversation

926 Words Feb 4th, 2008 4 Pages
Tannen: "Sex, Lies, and Conversation" #2 The first thing that comes to my mind when reading an article like this is, "Has this writer maybe encountered frustrating situations like this before?", or "Is the writer possibly trying to express personal emotions in the topic discussed?" Whatever the case may be, the point she is trying to make is clear to me. It is the events and relationships that happen early on in life that may interfere and have effect on the intimate relationships that occur later on in life. This holds some truth in my opinion, and must be examined carefully to make sure and read between all the lines. Let us not neglect important detail and variables. The way she describes the differences in being raised may …show more content…
Even myself, I feel the need sometimes to be more macho than I should just because I can't help it. I believe that's why males choose to converse in the way they do. It's the DNA I tell you... In understanding the way that conversation affects couples later in life, we must examine the past. In the article Tannen explains that males seem to think that in conversation, the female is only trying to interrupt and express her own points of view. While the male is seemingly not interested in what the other has to say. I believe this all is a matter of perspective. Tannen also explains how females see conversation as a means of emotional rapport, rather than just sorting through the events of the week. In comparison to my personal experiences, this seems to be true in may aspects. I for one have a hard time staring at a girls face when talking, especially if I don't even know the girl. This must be true in some way during marriage, I know that I am paying attention but I just can't seem to stay focused on the face. As a matter of fact, even when I'm conversing with my guy friends, I still can't focus on the face. I don't know, I guess this is one of those default characteristics. This doesn't mean I'm not paying full attention. I can see how this may cause conflict during the latter years of marriage and so on. Just how Tannen described the college couple about the guy that covered his face and seemed to fall asleep.