Sexual Intimacy : A Marriage For Happiness And Relational Satisfaction

RELATIONSHIP –  All relationship problems stem from poor communication skills, and the differences between partners will always be there as we are all individuals with different values, priorities and ways of dealing with issues.

Summary: Dr. Hawkins has done a wonderful job in presenting the essential elements of what it takes to have a Biblically sound intimate and committed marriage. In Strengthening Marital Intimacy (1991), he has captured the two foundational truths, intimacy and commitment, makes a good marriage into a great marriage. It is not enough to know the Word of God intellectually there must be a real surrendering to the sovereign will of God. To do it will transform a life of commitment to God and to the marriage. The key concepts presented in this book cover marital intimacy, commitment, wisdom, reality, God’s sovereignty, the person, sexuality,

Relationship satisfaction is an important part of romantic relationships. A lack of satisfaction can lead to consequences in other areas of life and eventually, the destruction of the relationship. For example, job performance is heavily influenced by romantic relationship satisfaction. In a study by Greenhaus and Beutell (1985), they argued that poor satisfaction leads to poor job performance and vice versa. They stated this was to because these two spheres are “interdependent.” Satisfaction can also influence quality of health. Conflict in a marital relationship is associated with higher heart rates and blood pressure (Broadwell & Light, 1999; Ewart, Taylor, Kaemer & Agras, 1991; Flor, Breitenstein, Birbaumer & Furst 1995; Frankish & Linden, 1996; Kiecolt-Glaser, 1993; Mayne, O’Leary, McCrady, Contrada & Labouvie, 1997; Morell & Apple, 1990; Shwartz, Slater & Birchler, 1994; Thomsen & Gilbert, 1998). It is also strongly associated with depression and depressed syndromes (Beach, Fincham & Katz, 1998; Fincham & Beach, 1999). This relationship between marital conflict and depression seems to be bidirectional meaning depression is not only a result of conflict but also is caused by the conflict (Beach, et. al., 1998; Fincham & Beach, 1999). Because a lack of relationship satisfaction can negatively affect so many important areas of life, it is important to understand what influences the level of satisfaction held in romantic relationships.

Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).

book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, the author writes about the importance of communicating with your spouse in a language that fulfills their love tank. Throughout the book he uses real life scenarios in couples to help them examine what their primary love language is through various acts and experiments. Love and marriage are the primary topics of the book, and the author illustrates how to understand their construction, and how they function in society. Love is needed in all areas to fulfill the needs of a human and to succeed in marriage. Society plays a big role on ideal marriages and how it should be based on the defined responsibilities and rights of husbands and wives.

Is your relationship lacking communication? You’re not the only one! There are many people who could benefit from better communication within their relationships. Communication is crucial when living or spending your life with someone. The article,“Sex, Lies, and Conversation” by Dr. Deborah Tannen, touches on three key issues among men and women when it comes to speaking with one another. Lack of communication is the first thing mentioned in Dr. Tannen’s article. Another issue which causes problems among people is body Language. Body language is just as vital as knowing how to speak to your significant other. One other issue the writer touched on was, understanding how the person you’re talking to communicates. When you discover the way

This book provides more insight on how communication is a tool you need to work on constantly to achieve happiness in your marriage. Communicating and listening to your partner will show that love, respect towards them, and help solve conflicts that will occur.

This article presents the role of partner responsiveness in experiencing sexual desire in partners. The absence of sexual desire is considered an important index of disrupted relational harmony. This study examines the impact of partner responsiveness and intimacy building behavior and the effect on instilling desire for one’s partner. This article provides excellent background research and fundamental information on relationship factors that affect desire within a couple.

Over time sexual intimacy waxes and wanes leading to an estimated one of every three married couples struggling with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire. A number of self-help books attempt to explain the reason why a sex-starved marriage is happening, but The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Libido by Michele Weiner-Davis focusing on why being complacent or bitter about mundane sex life might cost couples their marriage. Weiner-Davis herself is a marriage counselor and an author of additional books on marriage and relationships, giving

The Impact of Intimacy “Intimate relationships are a gold mine for literature to explore, to understand, to describe.” ~A. B. Yehoshua Whether due to the discomfort surrounding the topic or the fact that most feel it should be a private matter, sex is widely considered a taboo subject. Perspectives on sex can range from celebrating its intimate nature to feelings of disapproval and shame. Interestingly enough, as Yehoshua once held, it is rather common to write about it, pushing the limits on what is socially acceptable.

These are couples that are still together, despite their problem. Even if they strongly desire recovery, they may subconsciously fear that cure might destroy their relationship. This is a frequent condition in which the help of psycho-sexual therapist may be helpful. sexological therapies are still used without substantial modification of the original definitions and format. The field of psycho-sexology has only recently taken seriously the task of scientifically demonstrating the efficacy of sex therapies (Heiman and Meston, 1997). Following this way, talking therapies will continue to play an axial role in sexology, not as an alternative to, but probably in conjunction with medical treatments. However, some points need to be addressed by

Communication is one of the most important aspects in romantic relationships and different communication styles can affect relationships differently. Relationships can be both positively and negatively affected depending on the level of communication between the partners.

The adult-entertainment industry erupted in the late twentieth century and has expanded recently due to improved technology. Millions of men and women alike watch these films and arrive to the conception that what is portrayed on the screen is how a relationship should be. In a recent article in the New York Times, it was reported that 80% of men and 50% of women feel that their sex life is lacking due to pornography, and 40% of the people within the same poll have broken up with their spouse or partner due to the “lack” of love life. Clearly, the adult entertainment gives both genders a false conception of how a relationship and sex life should be. Pornography portrays sex as overly exciting and thrilling, which can lead to dissatisfaction with one’s partner. Such a situation can cause a rift between couples that can result in divorce and break-ups, which leads to fewer

The concepts of sexual literacy and well-being are going to go hand and hand in everyday life. When working through situations the better your sexual literacy is the better you will be able to solve the problem. Sexual literacy is simply, “the knowledge and skill needed to promote and protect sexual well-being”(2), this is any information you have on sexuality as a whole. Just like in school, the more literate you are, the better you will be at the subject. Which leads to your sexual well-being, this is “experiencing good health, pleasure, and satisfaction in a relationship.”(2) Anything that is not harmful to you or your significant other falls into this category; it is the well-being of your relationship. More specifically, I will be connecting it to my personal situation of communication and the difficulties of being in a long distance relationship.

A Prominent saying state – “Good Communication is the key to a healthy relationship or marriage”; whether it may be verbal or non-verbal. Many marriages end up in divorce, because of neglecting to communicate