Should We Live Together

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Should We Live Together? 1

Should We Live Together?
What Young Adults Need to Know about Cohabitation

Alita Lyon

Utilizing Information, COM 125

Professor Verdi

June 17, 2007

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Should We Live Together?
A Review of the Literature
Cohabitation is replacing marriage as the first living together experience for young men and women. When brides walk down the aisle over half have already lived together with a boyfriend. For today 's young adults, living together seems like a good way to achieve some of the benefits of marriage and avoid the risk of divorce. Couples who live together can share expenses and learn more about each other. They can find out if their partner has what it
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And many if not see cohabitation as a way to test marital compatibility and improve the chances of long-lasting marriage.
Their reasoning is as follows: Given the high levels of divorce, why be in a hurry to marry? Why not test marital compatibility by sharing a bed and a bathroom for a year or even longer? If it doesn 't work out, one can simply move out. According to this reasoning, cohabitation weeds out unsuitable partners through a process of non commitment. Over time, (hopefully) perhaps after several living together relationships, a person will eventually find a Should We Live Together? 5 marriageable mate. So they believe. Be aware of the dangers of multiple living together experiences, both for your own sense and wellbeing. For your chances of establishing a strong lifelong partnership you do not learn to have better relationships from multiple failed cohabiting relationships. In fact, multiple cohabiting is a strong predictor of the failure of future relationships.
As a goal of social change, therefore, perhaps the best that we can hope for is to contain cohabitation in ways that minimize its damage to marriage. With that goal in mind, there are principles that we might give to the young adults to guide their thinking about living together before marriage. If couples decide to live together they need to consider some facts and understanding. Couples should limit cohabitation to the shortest possible period of time. The
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