Love is unique in its striking ability to be a driving force in dictating interpersonal relationships. It patterns behavior and orients individuals towards their distinct, unique attractions. According to Velleman, love penetrates deeper than one’s qualities; it extends to one’s rational will, or the essence of a person. To him, though love appears to have particularity, it is also a moral emotion. Kolodny subscribes to the relationship theory, asserting that an ongoing, interpersonal, and historical relationship with a relative is a part of the reason for love. In Kolodny’s view, the existence of the true self is irrelevant, as is the morality of love. Both Velleman and Kolodny disprove the quality theory; however, their perceptions of love and its morality differ. I believe that Kolodny is correct in his view that morality is irrelevant to love and that there must be factual reasons for love. Although it is enticing to believe that one is attracted to the essence of another, the essence is not motivation enough for love. The relationship theory takes into account the motivation needed to love a particular person from a historical, interpersonal, and ongoing perspective.
In Hesse's novel, Siddhartha the title character, Siddhartha leaves the Brahmins in search of Nirvana - spiritual peace. The journey he endures focuses on two main goals - to find peace and the right path (http://www.ic.ucsb.edu/~ggotts/hesse/life/jennifer/html). Joseph Mileck, the author of Hermann Hesse: Life and Art, asserts that Siddhartha focuses on a sense of unity developed through Siddhartha's mind, body, and soul (Baumer). Hesse's Siddhartha revolves around three central journeys - a physical, a mental, and a spiritual journey.
Love is a powerful emotion that every human being has experience at least once in their life. There are numerous connotations that refer to this emotion, but there is only one kind of love that can make a person change completely in unexpected ways. It is the kind of love that consumes the soul and everything within. Mixed with excitement, adventure, heartbreak, happiness and joy; it is a big ball of feelings, all concentrated in one simple, yet extremely complicated necessity to have, protect, please and give all of oneself to that one person. In certain occasions, love can grow very intense and, consequently,
As Haddaway once said, “what is love? Baby, don 't hurt me, don 't hurt me - no more.” Everyone has a different perspective of what love really is. People can fall in love or believe they are in love because of physical attraction. Some may believe that lust can become into something more. In the short story, “Lady with Lapdog” by Anton Chekhov translated by David Magarshack, the main protagonist Gurov is married with a twelve-year-old daughter and two sons. He is not extremely happy with his family life so he likes to have small affairs to get away from it. As the plot develops he meets a girl named Anna, who he falls head over heels for, making the womanizer, fall in “love.” Even though what the did is immoral, it can be a good thing for the pair. They may have gotten out a situation that was not making them happy. Love can control the way people dictate their lives. Is it for the good of the people? Is it just some emotion that causes mischief? As seen in “Lady with Lapdog,” love is a powerful emotion that can alter people 's motives as well as can change other’s lives in an instant.
Siddhartha had always considered love inessential in his life because he categorized it as a worldly sensation that the common people simply experience. The wisdom and knowledge of the love differs greatly and both play a large role in Siddhartha's quest for finding the Atman. Siddhartha understood that love was the act of loving another human being, but it was just another word in his language until he had experienced it for himself He found out that he still had much to learn after he went through the worries, the heartaches, and the sleepless nights that one goes through when they worry for a loved one.
What is love? Love is can be consider as emotion or feeling to pleasure or affection. Sometimes people choose our own partner or chosen by our family. Love can be also conducted by destiny, when both peers don’t know why they attracted to one another. When a person loves someone just for a day, or not feeling that they will be together forever, we can consider it as a lust. Love stories are dominant in our generation as people might have experienced different kinds of love in their lives. In Love in time of Cholera, “Why I Live at the PO” and “A Rose for Emily” are the example of love stories, which the flow of the story is about the protagonist’s problems. Lust can be considers as the main reason of conflict in most relationship. Love is complicated and comes in differente forms, can be chosen, destine or lust. Sometimes, loves can create conflict with everyone.
In the basic fundamentals of Christianity, love is a driving force more than it is in any other religion. Christianity also speaks of the relationship between the deadening flesh and the rising spirit. On his new quest, Siddhartha meets a young woman by the name of Kamala. The introduction to kamala is also Siddhartha’s first introduction to lustful and sexually driven desires and temptation. He considered kamala another teacher, but in all reality, kamala was simply a link to the secularism that Siddhartha had been trying to escape. Living a life with Kalama had caused Siddhartha to become consumed with the worldly pleasures life had to offer; the same pleasures he has spent the early stages of his life trying to relinquish. Giving in to fleshly temptations in all aspects for years disassociated Siddhartha from the true goal he was trying to reach. And the acknowledgement of this drove Siddhartha almost of the edge. “he was full of misery, full of death; there was nothing left in the world that could attract him, that could give him pleasure and solace.”(p.87) Siddhartha knew that the riches of the life he had been living were simply fleeting. “ I have lost them, or have they lost me” (p.94) it was then Siddhartha concluded that the things in which he sought could not be taught, but they would have to be learned on his own, and upon Siddhartha’s last meeting with Kalama, she bare his son. But upon Kalama’s death, the spoiled and arrogant nature of the boy Siddhartha began to realize that no happiness and peace had come to him with his son, it was more so a feeling of sadness. But the love that Siddhartha had for his son willed him to “prefer the sorrow and trouble with the boy, than happiness and peace without him” (p.118) this situation is an example of the unconditional love that if often spoken about within the Christian faith. And when his son left, Siddhartha knew that with
In the search for enlightenment, both in Siddhartha and Notes from The Underground, the main characters fight inner conflict to find happiness. In the journey to find true happiness at the end of both books is arguably not full contentment after all, in fact both characters go through self-denial to achieve their idea of enlightenment. The underground man deals with a hyperconsciousness while on the other hand Siddhartha pushes himself to be detached. Both characters compete with their own minds to condemn themselves for their actions. The ongoing fear of death in most people is not portrayed in these books due to the promise of reincarnation allowing for multiple chances in separate lives.
A wise man once said, “And in the end, we were all just humans, drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness.” Most people either choose to chase love with every fiber in their being, or they run from it as fast as they can. The classic story, “Siddhartha” by Hermann Hesse describes a young Brahman named Siddhartha and his quest to enlightenment, and in this story almost every character represents something. Siddhartha believed that love was an earthly matter that must be forgotten to transcend the world and reach Nirvana, but that could not be further from the truth. Siddhartha experienced love many times, and many of the people he met were symbolic of love. Whether it be his father, who symbolized his rejection of love;
“Love is complex: considered simply in itself, it is neither honorable nor a disgrace-its character depends entirely on the behavior it gives rise to,” (Plato 183d). There are two different types of love that Pausanius refers to, which are the common and heavenly love. The common love is based on your love for someone for their body, sex or beauty making it physical love and desire for a person. Heavenly love is love for the mind such as your intelligence and strength, someone you can benefit from making one more wise. Any love that is encountered has a purpose whether is it the love between a mother and daughter or the love between a husband and wife. In the end, all love leads and is directed to virtue and improves the loved ones.
Notably, after spending many a night learning the art of love making from Kamala, Siddhartha mentions to Kamla a relation he made that “Perhaps people like us cannot love. Ordinary people can -- that is their secret.” (Hesse 73). If we accept facts like that in our own lives such as, not being very good at public speaking, the fact that no matter how much effort put forth math is still a difficult subject to understand, etc.. Then we will be able to make our own realizations at what we are able to accomplish, for example being able to cheer people up, or maybe it’s the fact that you can ace history without even trying very hard etc.. What we need to do is accept the fact that we can’t do something and focus on what we can do and find other
Hesse emphasizes the important role that love plays in being genuinely happy and finding peace in life. He does this in Siddhartha, by showing throughout the book how Siddhartha isn’t genuinely happy in the beginning of the novel. For instance, Siddhartha doesn’t feel content where he is born with his family; Siddhartha feels that there is nothing more for him to learn at his home. Another example of his unhappiness is that in the middle of the book Siddhartha let materialistic things take over his life and it made him incapable of love and because of this he felt like his soul was dying. Love is an emotion that brightens each and every life it touches, without love the world would be a dark and lonely place, and that’s exactly what Hesse expresses in Siddhartha. “Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forgive the ones who don’t, and believe that everything happens for a reason”.
Love has many different meanings to different people. For a child, love is what he or she feels for his mommy and daddy. To teenage boy, love is what he should feel for his girlfriend of the moment, only because she says she loves him. But as we get older and "wiser," love becomes more and more confusing. Along with poets and philosophers, people have been trying to answer that age-old question for centuries: What is love?
Upon reading Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving, I gained a better understanding of what love really is. Fromm’s book puts love into perspective. He begins with several facts with regards to the attitude in which people treat love. They are the problems of how to be loved, the object to love as well as the confusion between the initial experience of falling in love and the permanent state of being in love, which had a great impact on me, as far as thinking about what love is.
To begin, the experience of love teaches people to always improve oneself, people with significant others always have a person they can talk too and that love can make people cherish others. Starting off, Relationships teaches people to always improve oneself. This is shown in the novel when Daniel, in response to more men starting to notice Daniel’s girlfriend: Karla as a women he starts to go to the gym and improve himself. This is proof of how love can teach people to improve themselves because Daniel is scared that Karla might get embarrassed to be with him due to his appearance, so he decides to improve himself to make him more presentable when they go