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Sigmund Freud And The Psychology Of Parenting Styles

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There are many different parenting styles all over the world. Some parents may stay at home, while some work; some may be strict and have their children on an all organic diet and limited T.V time, while others might buy fast food every other night and let their kids run wild with imagination. Many mothers and fathers have different parenting styles and goals; but where do these underlying thoughts and actions come from? Sigmund Freud, a psychologist whose main work was dealing with psychoanalysis from the late 1800s to the early 1900s, would say it was from somewhere deep within the unconsciousness of these moms and dads. According to Freud (1915) the unconscious mind is the primary source of human behavior like an iceberg the most important part of your mind is the part you cannot see (Para 3). Meaning the unconscious part of your mind is the most important because it’s almost as if you do things unwillingly without knowing. The underlining emotions are the most important. I believe, parenting styles, actions, and goals, are all the unconscious mind of parents wanting to be better than their own mother and father; or imitating the same habits they have grew up with throughout their childhood.
I want to explain furthermore on Frued, that way you can get the bigger picture. Frued believed that our unconsciousness is what really ruled our actions, not our consciousness. Before I used an iceberg as an example, let me further explain. Above the water where the iceberg is visible is where our conscious mind lays. It’s easily readable. In the instance of being a parent you could say you take care of your kid consciously, feeding your child, bathing, and all other credentials you need to do to keep your child alive. Under the water, where the biggest and most dangerous part of the iceberg is, is your unconscious mind. This is the part of your mind where you imitate or learn from your own parents learning habits. This unconsciousness really makes who you are as a parent. For instance, the what you feed your child, how many times a week you bathe your child, how strict you are, how lenient you are. All of the reasons why you do the things you do are because of your parents because that’s all you have ever known

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