There are many different parenting styles all over the world. Some parents may stay at home, while some work; some may be strict and have their children on an all organic diet and limited T.V time, while others might buy fast food every other night and let their kids run wild with imagination. Many mothers and fathers have different parenting styles and goals; but where do these underlying thoughts and actions come from? Sigmund Freud, a psychologist whose main work was dealing with psychoanalysis from the late 1800s to the early 1900s, would say it was from somewhere deep within the unconsciousness of these moms and dads. According to Freud (1915) the unconscious mind is the primary source of human behavior like an iceberg the most important part of your mind is the part you cannot see (Para 3). Meaning the unconscious part of your mind is the most important because it’s almost as if you do things unwillingly without knowing. The underlining emotions are the most important. I believe, parenting styles, actions, and goals, are all the unconscious mind of parents wanting to be better than their own mother and father; or imitating the same habits they have grew up with throughout their childhood.
I want to explain furthermore on Frued, that way you can get the bigger picture. Frued believed that our unconsciousness is what really ruled our actions, not our consciousness. Before I used an iceberg as an example, let me further explain. Above the water where the iceberg is visible is where our conscious mind lays. It’s easily readable. In the instance of being a parent you could say you take care of your kid consciously, feeding your child, bathing, and all other credentials you need to do to keep your child alive. Under the water, where the biggest and most dangerous part of the iceberg is, is your unconscious mind. This is the part of your mind where you imitate or learn from your own parents learning habits. This unconsciousness really makes who you are as a parent. For instance, the what you feed your child, how many times a week you bathe your child, how strict you are, how lenient you are. All of the reasons why you do the things you do are because of your parents because that’s all you have ever known
While children are influenced by many things, there are no stronger influences than that of their parents. Parents are usually their children’s first playmates, and while there world expands with each passing year, parental influence is still one of the greatest factors in determining the ways in which the child will grow and develop.
Psychologists have always debated the role of parenting styles and their influence on the development of children. Parenting styles can be defined as the psychological construct representing the basic strategies that parent use in raising their child (Matsumoto, Juang 2013 p.69). Parenting styles encompass two major aspects of parting those being parental responsiveness and paternal demanding. Paternal responsiveness is essentially the extent at which a parent fosters individuality, self-regulation, and self-assertion. While paternal demanding is the measure of which the parent makes the child
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and
~My parenting practices and philosophy come from my experience as a child. I remember when I was young my parents didn’t really push me to succeed and learn new things. I want my child to explore and learn as much as she can. My parents were also lenient when it came to me getting in trouble which made me do worse things when I was older because I knew the consequences wouldn’t be so bad. That made me want to be a strict parent.
The question I would ask is will the parenting style your parents practiced determine your choice of parenting style? Are we as children already doomed to subconsciously repeat our parent's habits? or do we make a decision for ourselves to break the cycle? I would do a case study and a series of interviews in order to come to a conclusion.
Before having kids, everyone has an idealistic fantasy of what type of parent they are going to be. Will they be a Mary Poppins or a Mommy Dearest? These two women parented in very different but similar ways. Mary Poppins used an authoritative approach to parenting whilst Mommy Dearest used an authoritarian approach. Authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles are the most widely used styles in modern day parenting, with authoritative parenting being the one with the most positive results in terms of child development. They are similar in what parents expect from their children but differ in the way that parents respond to their children’s needs. The effects of the chosen parenting style can be seen in the way that a child feels about themselves and how they interact with the outside world.
Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the
Diane Baumrind’s typology has two major dimensions. The first dimension is responsiveness. In the text it mentions that responsiveness “refers to the extent in which parents respond to and meet the needs of their children.” (Knox 364). This is when parents support, encourage, and foster their children’s needs. The second dimension is demandingness which is “the matter in which parents place demands on children in regard to expectations and discipline.” (Knox 364). This is about how strict a parent is and how much control these use on their children.
Mr. and Mrs. HarshHeart believe in the importance of stern discipline and impose strict rules
by parents, and for the most part with children’s best interest in mind which is one of the main similarities. The parent does not choose a parenting style the parenting style chooses the parent. However, knowledge of the parenting styles and the effects of all three will help parents decide how they can raise their children in a way that is most
I view children as small individuals who need guidance, love, nurture, praise, and care. That’s why I aspire to help my children in every way I can. Without these things children are set up for failure. They will not be set up on a path to success if they are abandoned, and left to fend for themselves. At a very early age in life a child is able to form an attachment with his or her mother. I find it beneficial for a child to obtain a secure attachment that is why my philosophy on parenting is the way it is. I view children as active learners who want to gain knowledge. This is why parents need to be their lifelong teacher and coach. Children come out of the womb as a blank slate and it’s the parents job to help the child learn right from wrong, become independent, and to live a happy successful
The family system and parents are generally regarded as one of the most powerful forces in shaping adolescents. Parents have a great influence in the development of adolescents. The relationship of the parents largely effect the development of adolescents and is an important factor when looking at development. Well-adjusted adolescents tend to have intact families that are supportive and create a warm and loving environment with constant monitoring of behavior. The review examines the current research on adolescent development and how it is effected by parenting styles. Taking into account the changes that occur over time to parents this review shows the fluidity of parenting styles and the stressors that cause those changes.
It is difficult to summarize psychodynamic theory without a brief discussion of Freud. Sigmund Freud is the father of psychoanalysis, the father of psychodynamic theory, and in effect the father of modern psychotherapy. Freud's notions retain quite a bit of popularity, especially his ideas that things are not what they seem on the surface. Because of his understanding of the mind and behavior, Freud considered that overt behaviors were not always self-explanatory (or perhaps "not often explanatory" would be the better term). Instead, these overt or manifest behaviors represent some hidden motive. Sigmund Freud was trained as a neurologist and specialized in the treatment of nervous disorders. His early training involved using hypnosis with the French neurologist Jean Charcot in the treatment of hysteria, the presentation of baffling physical symptoms (mostly in young women) that appeared to have no physical origin (Hall, Lindzey, & Campbell, 1998). Freud also partnered with the Viennese physician Josef Breuer who practiced a revolutionary "talking cure" to reduce patients' symptoms by talking with them about how they felt as well as using hypnosis to remove emotional barriers to their feelings. He eventually abandoned the use of hypnosis in favor of a process he termed "free association" in which he had patients talk about what was on their minds without censoring their train of thought. This led Freud to develop his theory of the human mind as a complex system that is