Sisters Changed My Life

One can say my relationship with my sister is umm... complicated; one minute we’re fine and the next we want to rip out each others eyeballs. But yet, so many other siblings are like that too, so my sister and I are nothing spectacularly out of the ordinary. In fact, one can say we have a healthy sibling relationship, because of this weird love-hate complex. One great example of an average sibling relationship comes from Harper Lee’s book, To Kill a Mockingbird, where Jem and Scout Finch have a very iconic sibling relationship. My relationship with my sister is extremely similar to Jem and Scout’s relationship.

As the youngest of four siblings, it has put more pressure on me to do greater than them. My siblings were alike in the sense that they all had a dream of attending and graduating college, however was not the case in the long run. What they all had in common was that they encountered obstacles that led them further from what they knew was success. Within my four siblings, I have three brother and one sister. All of my brothers have attended college, however later dropped out due to self-doubt and finances. As for my sister, she decided to enroll in the army with the mentality that college was not worth the money.

Few relationships are as special as the bond between sisters. Siblings know us greater than even we know ourselves sometimes; it’s through this insight, their insight, that we can see ourselves better and grow into who we aspire to be. My relationship with my sister is no exception; she’s my best friend. She’s a part of why I am who I am today, and it all started with a name.

Life. A simple but extraordinary gift that should be cherished and treasured. A gift that can be seen as worthless to some but priceless to others. A gift condemned by certain individuals for the path it is following, while others turn the cheek of its sins. Life, is priceless and every man or woman is valuable no matter their beliefs, their finances, or their wrong doings in this world.

Growing up in a house full of girls had its challenges. My two sisters and I argue on a daily and me being four years older definitely put an hinderance on our relationship. Being four years older made it difficult for our relationship because we went through difficult defining times in our life at the same time. When I was starting high school they were starting middle school, when I was trying to find my place in the world as I go through college their still living in la la land as they make their way through high school. Those difference of the point we were in life made it difficult and still makes it difficult for us to understand how each other feels in the situation it makes it hard to understand why

Sibling rivalry is not the only issue that was triggered by birth order, child’s personality and his or her intelligence is also involved. Some researchers say that first-borns are smarter because they are pressured to set-up the boundary for the younger siblings. They are more enthusiastic in their education for them to be role models of their other siblings. As for the younger ones, life may be or may not be easy, depending on how they will view it. They may view it positively by keeping in mind that since their older sibling get through it, they also can. Otherwise,

To begin, I was my mother’s first born. I am the oldest of the biological siblings and for 5 years I was an only sibling, I was treated much different and knew I could get away with more for these first years. After 13 years, my parents adopting my older sister. I was the oldest sibling for 13 years then I was the middle sibling. I was no longer the “rule setter” and instead had more strict rules due to my older sister’s behavior. She also came from a much different background than me and she helped shape me and open my eyes to how different people can be raised.

According to the article “7 Ways Your Siblings May Have Shaped You” written by Lindsay Lyon, siblings: buffer stress, provide good practice, help raise our vulnerability to mental-health issues, raise the chance of bad behavior, inspire us to be different, increase romantic jealousy, and impact a person’s love life. Siblings play a vital role in the way a person will act and carry themself in their day to day life. 80% of children today grow up with a brother, sister, or both. Something that is interesting to me is that children are more likely to grow up with a sibling than to grow up with a father.

“Sibling relationships in particular are among the longest lasting and most influential relationships in an individual’s lifetime” (Shalash 288). Relationships with siblings definitely affects emotions. Emotions vary when it comes to siblings; they can range from anger and jealousy to joy and gratefulness. Siblings can go from calm and loving while spending time together to fighting physically or verbally within moments. With multiple siblings, favorites are often chosen by parents or siblings so the other siblings may feel like an outcast. When two families are combined different routines can cause great conflict. If a child faces conflicts continuously with their family it can make complications for their love life.

Even though youngest siblings always try to do what they can to not be compared to their siblings, being the youngest does not always have perks. We do not get as much attention like our older siblings do and we sometimes do not feel the same love the parents give to their first-born.

If you have siblings you will have to share everything, so you get less; but you also get less of the bad things. Siblings can support and comfort each in times of trouble. The elder siblings learn to care for the younger ones and the younger ones learn to respect their elder siblings and have someone to look up to besides their parents. You are more balanced person than an only child.

I come from a four-person family. My mom and dad have always been in my life therefore they are the people who raised me. After seeing my parents have a successful marriage, it has influenced me to want the same thing in life and having my first marriage be my last. I have an older sister who is 23. While growing up, me and my sister had a very close relationship. As we grew up, we started to drift apart. I learned a lot from being the youngest child. While being 3 years younger than my sister Taylor, watching her grow up and deal with situations taught me many personal life lessons. Watching her grow up taught me the good and bad things in life and helped me follow the right path. While going through school, I already knew what to expect when it came to the class description and the teacher just by having my sister go through it just a couple years before me. Even though being the younger sister, my whole life is all I know, I couldn’t imagine

Looking backing on childhood filled with so many memories, I wish I could say they all had that warm and fuzzy feeling. Being one of seven siblings wasn’t easy, in fact each and every sibling had to make some type of sacrifice for our family. I have a sister, she is the second oldest, who is a diagnosed schizophrenic. Having a mentally ill sister who was never complaint with any type of treatment made childhood especially difficult and set up many opportunities for disappointment. Disappointment came in many forms throughout my childhood whether it was not being able to go somewhere, being forgot about, or the constant embarrassment and anger I had to deal with internally on a daily basis.

I love my three sisters with my huge heart, but sometimes being the man of the house can be too much to handle, especially when my sisters think they are always right. I am an older brother to Macey and a younger brother to Kalee and Kelsey. Having three sisters and no brothers is harder than most think, but it can also have the greatest advantages. Annoying, emotional, and loving are just three of many qualities I believe best describe my sisters on a day to day basis and this can make for a fun, love-hate relationship with them.

I thought myself to respect all people even if i didn't like them but still had aspect them and saw everyone as equal to each other and not have one dominant the other. What i am saying  I know how it feels to have more limitation based on who you are. I know where they’re coming from. But overall having siblings had made more laughter, more learning opportunities and learning from their mistakes, and most all forever lasting friendship. I am very thankful to have family and friends to encourage me in my goals on what I want do and who I want to become.