Skills Project--Shyness Essay

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INTRODUCTION:      All my life I have been shy. Also, all my life I’ve been hearing people say, “She will grow out of it.” I’m 20 years old and the shyness is still here. As a kid you can get by being shy but as an adult, shyness can hold you back in many aspects of your life. DESCRIBING PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR:      After two weeks of recording my behaviors I’ve come to realize in what situations my shyness comes into play most often. There are very few situations that I feel comfortable with myself, allowing me to speak freely. The only people that I ever feel at ease with are my own family and friends. Even my own family and friends can turn me silent in some situations.…show more content…
(Ch.2 – Communication and the Self, p.37)      One of my biggest weaknesses in communication with others is eye contact. Eye contact is a nonverbal way of regulating verbal communication. Nonverbal regulators help control verbal interaction with others. (Ch. 5 – Nonverbal Communication, p.119) In almost all situations I have a very hard time looking at people in the eye when I talk or they talk. In all of my two weeks of journaling other than my online situations I had trouble with eye contact.      Computer-mediated communication provides others with another way to react. (Ch.1 – Interpersonal Process, p.17) Internet has been proven to be an effective way for quiet communicators to make contact. Chat rooms, instant messaging, e-mail, and computer dating services all provide a low threat way to approach others and get acquainted. (Ch. 7 – Emotions, p. 177) The only time that I don’t feel a constant nervousness around new people is when I am online. When I was online I was able to get to know Michael and Adam better because I was able to express myself and self- disclose information about myself. Self-disclosing communication is information about yourself that is purposefully communicated to another person. (Ch. 9 – Intimacy and Distance in Relationships, p. 240)      What I think that has
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