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Spring 2016 : Theory And Practice

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CNCM 515:185: Spring 2016: Theory and Practice; Experiential Paper

CNCM 515:185: Spring 2016: Theory and Practice; Experiential Paper
Ebelechukwu P. Elochukwu
University of Baltimore
Spring 2016

In this experiential paper, I tell the story of a mediation I conducted; involving a couple whose marriage is at a blink of collapse. They were already talking about divorce in every conversation with me. Every time I see either of the couple, it is always something going on with them. They blame each other—finger pointing each other in their complaints. They have been receiving individual therapy for over a year but their marital relationship continues in a downward spiral. I explained to them that therapy takes time. I encouraged …show more content…

It is also important to note the contribution of Bush & Folger (2005), that, “A Mediator is someone who intervenes to help when people are in the midst of conflict.” P. 15. The couple asked me if I know anyone or a place where they can get help because they still love each other and do not really want a divorce unless it is inevitable and for the purpose of raising their son jointly. I told them that I am a mediator and has been doing mediation since 1984, shared information about some of my works, successes, and also informed them of other resources in PG County. They told me that they will like me to mediate the dispute between both couples. So, I scheduled them to meet with me at my office on March 14, 2016 at 6.00 PM. I am going to name the mediators John and Kelly (which is not their real name) for the purpose of this paper. On March 14, 2016, at 6.00 PM, I welcomed John and Kelly into the conference and started the mediation by offering them sit in well-furnished family room—asking them to feel free to sit wherever they want. The environment is styled like a family environment. Seats are arranged around the room and mixed with tables and drawers. There was no round table or office-desk arrangement to avoid any hierarchical presentation or feeling of superiority or barrier to anyone. Beer and Stief (1997), stated that: “Seating sends strong nonverbal cues to people about what to expect and how to behave in a

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