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Stereotypes In Soledad

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We all want to believe that our individual personalities and beliefs are a result of our personal choices and experiences. However, this isn't entirely true. As much as many of us would hate to admit, we are greatly influenced by the choices of our parents and the major events in their lives that shaped them. As children, we internalize our parents’ words, actions and beliefs. By the time we are adults, these values have already been integrated into our own on a subconscious level. Angie Cruz’s “Soledad” illustrates this through its presentation of Olivia’s relationship with her daughter regarding the topic of men. Olivia’s memory of her past, and husband, influences the way in which she advises Soledad to deal with men. This affects her subsequent …show more content…

Giving her the rundown of acceptable sexual behavior, most sex talks went along the lines of, “….men only want one thing and if I [Soledad] know whats good for me, I better not give that thing up or else my life is ruined” (64). Olivia continues to tell her that, “Men listen with their eyes and not their ears. They see a woman with a short skirt on, and in their own distorted language they hear, c’mon baby easy access. Or when a woman says no, if they see a glimpse of flirting or lips that are smiling, no echoes yes, yes if you try hard enough you will get me. Yes. They see yes, like they hear, touch me when a women wears tight jeans or her hair’s down, or even when she wears sweats and sneakers, yes. Men hear yes. I know guys around the way who are thirty years old and have no problem dating fifteen-year-olds.” (Cruz 135) While Soledad doesn't know about her mother’s past or Manolo’s sexual abuse, she is aware of her parents’ marital issues. This, combined with her mother’s talks, instills a sense of fear regarding sex and men, especially Dominican …show more content…

Soledad, finds her mother’s discarded romance novels. To her they demonstrate a great irony, as she perceives the relationships in the book to be unattainable, and to be in crude distinction to the romantic realities that most Dominican women experience. Soledad develops a preconceived notion (from her mom), that instead of raising men who aid their women financially, remain faithful and wait for sex; Washington Heights assists Dominican men in cultivating a tiguere reputation (Tiguere typically referring to men who are “womanizers” or “players”). Thus, she concludes that it is men who prohibit many girls from escaping Washington heights. As this is something that Soledad wants more than anything, she decides that she does not want to have a relationship with a man similar to that of her mother and father. She rejects any men from the barrio, “It’s because he’s not my type, he lives in the hood. I want something better for myself” (Cruz 76). The men that surround her are unable to nurture a nonsexual relationship. To her, they have only one thing on their mind. Soledad is under the impression that if she associates herself with men from her neighborhood, she’d have to accept a relationship full of uncertainty and violence (problems her mother often faced). She believes that relationships based on desire have no true

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