We all want to believe that our individual personalities and beliefs are a result of our personal choices and experiences. However, this isn't entirely true. As much as many of us would hate to admit, we are greatly influenced by the choices of our parents and the major events in their lives that shaped them. As children, we internalize our parents’ words, actions and beliefs. By the time we are adults, these values have already been integrated into our own on a subconscious level. Angie Cruz’s “Soledad” illustrates this through its presentation of Olivia’s relationship with her daughter regarding the topic of men. Olivia’s memory of her past, and husband, influences the way in which she advises Soledad to deal with men. This affects her subsequent …show more content…
Giving her the rundown of acceptable sexual behavior, most sex talks went along the lines of, “….men only want one thing and if I [Soledad] know whats good for me, I better not give that thing up or else my life is ruined” (64). Olivia continues to tell her that, “Men listen with their eyes and not their ears. They see a woman with a short skirt on, and in their own distorted language they hear, c’mon baby easy access. Or when a woman says no, if they see a glimpse of flirting or lips that are smiling, no echoes yes, yes if you try hard enough you will get me. Yes. They see yes, like they hear, touch me when a women wears tight jeans or her hair’s down, or even when she wears sweats and sneakers, yes. Men hear yes. I know guys around the way who are thirty years old and have no problem dating fifteen-year-olds.” (Cruz 135) While Soledad doesn't know about her mother’s past or Manolo’s sexual abuse, she is aware of her parents’ marital issues. This, combined with her mother’s talks, instills a sense of fear regarding sex and men, especially Dominican …show more content…
Soledad, finds her mother’s discarded romance novels. To her they demonstrate a great irony, as she perceives the relationships in the book to be unattainable, and to be in crude distinction to the romantic realities that most Dominican women experience. Soledad develops a preconceived notion (from her mom), that instead of raising men who aid their women financially, remain faithful and wait for sex; Washington Heights assists Dominican men in cultivating a tiguere reputation (Tiguere typically referring to men who are “womanizers” or “players”). Thus, she concludes that it is men who prohibit many girls from escaping Washington heights. As this is something that Soledad wants more than anything, she decides that she does not want to have a relationship with a man similar to that of her mother and father. She rejects any men from the barrio, “It’s because he’s not my type, he lives in the hood. I want something better for myself” (Cruz 76). The men that surround her are unable to nurture a nonsexual relationship. To her, they have only one thing on their mind. Soledad is under the impression that if she associates herself with men from her neighborhood, she’d have to accept a relationship full of uncertainty and violence (problems her mother often faced). She believes that relationships based on desire have no true
Lola experiences a period of change in her life where she felt the need to alter her physical appearance to create a new identity because she did not like being the perfect Dominican girl for Beli. She says, “I looked at the girl in the mirror for a long time. All I knew was that I didn’t want to see her ever again… So now you’re punk? Karen asked uncertainly. Yes, I said” (Díaz 59). Lola is not comfortable with her life in Paterson, New Jersey and her identity as a young Dominican female, which comes with the responsibility of upholding their societal standards to please her mother. A woman’s hair in the Dominican Republic is a symbol of her beauty, and removing her hair shows her refusal of the beauty standards set in place by the men in society who determine what makes a woman beautiful. Her mother’s visceral response to her decision to cut her hair proves how deep-rooted the beliefs that a woman’s beauty is dependent on her physical appearance is in Dominican culture. Díaz writes, “The next day my mother threw the wig at me. You’re going to wear this. You’re going to wear it every day. And if I see you without it on I’m going to kill you!” (Díaz 59). Beli, like most other Dominican women, is conditioned to believe that the level of attention they receive from a man is a reflection of their beauty. She fears that Lola will embarrass her by disowning the values and ideas she upholds about a woman’s
Castillo demonstrates injustice in patriarchy by using symbolism. In the novel, Caridad is cheated on by her boyfriend Memo. Caridad starts to heavily drink after work, and while doing so she decides that Memo isn’t the only man she wants to give her love to. Following the drinking, Caridad begins to have meaningless sex with the random men she meets at bars. One
In Drown, women are simply perceived as objects. The Dominican Republic culture lets gender norms dictate behavior of both men and women, encouraging the practices of machismo. Machismo is defined as a strong sense of masculine pride. Diaz details Yunior’s journey in dealing with masculinity as well as the misogyny women face through the stories “Aurora” and “Edison, New Jersey”. Critics would argue Diaz should be assessed for the sexist portrayal of women in Drown. However, in Drown, Diaz acknowledges the deep misogyny within the Dominican Republic society; thus he cannot be criticized for the portrayal of women because he simply depicts a vivid reality.
In The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, the reader gets a sense of what the expectations are of Dominican men and women. Junot Díaz uses Oscar in contrast to the other male characters to present the expectations of the Dominican male. On the other hand, Díaz presents the women in the text, especially Belicia, La Inca, Lola, and Jenni, as strong characters in their own rights, but the male characters, with the exception of Oscar, have a desire to display their masculinity to maintain power over these women. It would be unfair to say that the women bring the abuse unto themselves, but rather it is their culture that makes the abuse acceptable and almost to a certain extent—expected.
Not only that but her questioning of gender role was a concern for her. After her parents were separated, her father’s expectations of her were no longer there and did not speak to one another. After a while, blaming one-self after a separation of the parents is always expected from young children and so Roberta’s feeling that the separation of her mother and father was due to her misbehavior at home allowed her to be not happy. The separation of her parents did not only cause Roberta to feel not happy but also her thinking was shaped in ways that blamed all men to be the exact same way and that on one could be the same. This can be related to what each child feels and thinks if that were to happen to their own family, and unfortunately in our current society there are people that still the same way as Roberta’s father and
Sofia's ongoing conflict with her father represents a struggle for control of her sexuality. Their arguments also illustrate the cultural differences between the United States and the Dominican Republic. In traditional Dominican culture, a man's honor is determined in part by his ability to protect and guard
Family relationships and society play fundamental roles in how a child grows and makes their own choices. How they are seen and treated by society can influence how the child acts. From how they are raised, to what values and morals they are taught will determine the child’s reactions to obstacles that come up in life. I will be discussing some major events in the book that stood out to me as to why two men who basically grew up on the same block, ended up on very different paths.
In “Lieutenant Nun: Memoir of a Transvestite in the New World” by Catalina de Erauso, a female-born transvestite conquers the Spanish World on her journey to disguise herself as a man and inflicts violence both on and off the battlefield. Catalina discovers her hidden role in society as she compares herself to her brothers advantage in life, as they are granted money and freedom in living their own lives. Erauso decides to take action of this act of inequality by forming a rebellion, as she pledges to threaten the social order.The gender roles allotted to both men and women in the Spanish world represent the significance of societal expectations in order to identify the importance of gender in determining one’s position in the social order in the Spanish World.
To practice machismo, also known as masculinity in a Dominican culture, males have to hide their flaws and act a certain way. If men express their un-masculine nature, they will be seen as expressing their weakness. In Drown written by Junot Díaz, contains many stories about Dominican Republic male struggles as an immigrant in America. One of the struggles Díaz expresses in his text is appearing masculine in society’s eyes. From the story “Drown”, the unnamed narrator expresses what it means to be masculine. “Boyfriend” is a story about another unnamed narrator observing his neighbor’s relationship, and comparing it to his own past. Yunior, the narrator of the story “Negocios”, explains the history of his father Papi, also known as Ramón. Society creates many definitions for what it means to be masculine, leading the narrator from “Drown”, the narrator from “Boyfriend”, and Ramón struggling to choose between doing what they want for themselves, or do what society wants to see.
describes the young Dominican American man who is looking for to date either a Latina girl, black girl, white girl or half girl how to judge and approach girls from various social classes and ethnicities differently based on his opinions. Throughout the story, the author uses the second person omniscient point of view to make it easier for the reader to relate to the story and assimilate the case because it’s the referring to something we have all done no matter what our ethnicity is. This point of view is necessary to the story because both he is talking to himself and giving advice to himself by using “you/your” throughout the text, therefore, as a reader, I personally, can easily put myself in the narrator’ shoes and, also, the author addresses the reader or listener directly as if he were talking to them by sharing his observations.
In analyzing portrayals of women, it is appropriate to begin with the character of Margarita. For, within the text, she embodies the traditionally masculine traits of bravery, resilience, and violence as a means of liberating herself from an existence of abuse and victimhood. Even more, the woman plays upon stereotypes of femininity in order to mask her true nature. The reader witnesses this clever deception in a scene where the character endures a “wholesome thrashing” from her huge, violent, and grizzly bear-like husband, Guerra (81). Although Margarita “[submits] to the infliction with great apparent humility,” her husband is found “stone-dead” the next morning (81). Here, diction such as “submits” and “humility” relate to the traits of weakness, subservience and inferiority that are so commonly expected of women, especially in their relationships with men. Yet, when one
Yunior’s attitude regarding women and relationships is an inadvertent consequence of observing his own father’s degradation of their family unit. The little interaction between Yunior and his father seldomly, if ever, give the impression of a loving and nurturing father figure. Yunior himself even goes so far as to mention: “he said little to us that wasn't disciplinary” (Diaz 129). As a result, Yunior’s developing sense of kinship or lack thereof is directly affected by the actions of his father,
The narrator who is a teenage boy often describes and categorizes these women by their looks and what they are willing to do sexaully. Diaz in a variety of ways makes this short story as a guide for teenage boys by causal language and slang throughout. Given that the narrator is from a inner city, the story initially comes off as stereotypical. Diaz often shifts words from positive to negative by describing the girls social class and ethnicity to show how the narrator treats the girls he's with. This shows how the influence of stereotypes on the narrator can influence his decisions regarding how to treat the girl. For example, the stereotype of dating a White girl will mean that she comes from a family of wealth and privilege. By attaching these stereotypes or assumption only put women in a certain light to be objectified. Diaz also highlights how the stereotype of White girls being easy and giving it up on the first date (Cite). While the narrator categorizes African American and Hispanic girls as different from the White girls. The initial tone of the short story comes off as a guide or instruction manual for young boys who are beginning to date. In the second paragraph, the narrator instructs the reader to hide his real social class by hiding the government cheese in the cabinet or the
Family. It is a very fluid yet rigid idea. It has a wealth of definitions, all of which range in degree and magnitude, and vary from person to person; yet the concept of how a family should work and operate is very concrete in most American minds. Family is a bond that is crafted every second of everyday until it is powerful, and this can shape beliefs, outlooks, and confidence. A study found that children with father figures that are highly involved benefit because an immense range of emotions are modelled to them as children, and consequently they will be more adapt at recognizing and expressing their own emotions. In contrast children
Diaz progresses into detailing the necessary steps the young man must follow to get an actual date with a woman dependent upon her race and background. The young man is led to believe that for each type of girl he must present himself differently to not offend her or her parent’s fragile sensibilities and receives instructions on how to properly illicit a date “The directions were in your best handwriting, so her parents won't think you're an idiot” (256). Clearly, careful psychological manipulations of a girl’s parents are a vital component in achieving dating success. To this point, the young man has only received instruction and it is here that the reader receives some insight into which type of woman the young man is wanting to date “The white ones are the ones you want the most, aren't