Stick-Up To Your Family

In my freshman year of college I met a young man with autism. I was not discouraged from becoming his friend based on his diagnosis, but instead I felt a strong need to be his friend. I could tell how badly he needed a friend because he seemed isolated by our fellow peers. I decided to turn casual run-ins with him on my college campus into weekly lunches. I offered him guidance with many of the difficulties he experienced and tried to show him a new outlook on various life situations. A year into our friendship he told me that I saved his life. While he believed I saved his life, he was actually the one to give me a sense of purpose to believe I was put on this earth to help and save more lives. Our friendship taught me about the importance of helping members of my community, and how

Some of my family norms are the love of many sports such as Football, Baseball, Basketball, and Golf. America norms are choices that are not demanded by specific cultures. I believe they are choices you can make but will not be reprimanded if you do not choose one. Some of the frequent Cultural foods that were eaten with my family growing up as a child were rice and pinto beans. I believe this comes from the different cultures rooted within my family. My culture experiences many misunderstandings of who we are and what we stand for in society. Some examples of police brutality, racial profiling, style of dress, and the slang used when speaking. Historically, racism existed and continues to exist in today’s

When immigrant families move into the U.S. the culture shock is significant. Families can easily become overwhelmed by their need to fit in. This is especially true for young children. It is easy for the kids to get caught up in the American way of life, and because of this, the culture can be forgotten. That is why the adults in these families need to enforce their cultural norms on their children, so they can make sure that their culture is not forgotten.

Dysfunctional families tend to develop unspoken rules that govern the way the family operates. Rule 1) Rigidity – Dysfunctional families develop ways of operating that become entrenched over time. There is an expectation to always act in a certain way. Roles are defined and members are expected to stick to them. Rule 2) Silence – Dysfunctional families encourage and enforce a conspiracy of silence in the family. Any issues or problems are not spoken about. Rule 3) Denial – Dysfunctional families tend to operate in a state of denial about the problem the family is facing. If they deny the problem hard enough and long enough they may begin to doubt their own perceptions and intuitions. Rule 4) Isolation – Dysfunctional families tend to hide the

As a child, I lived most of my life in Mexico. My family was two sisters, my brother, mom, dad and me. We used to do everything together, trying to help each other in whatever was needed. While I was living there, my family was always united, except for my father, who was always traveling because of his job, therefore I never felt close to him. But when he was there for me, he taught me lessons having a big impact on me by changing the way I thought and the way I saw the world. The day I graduated from elementary, bad news came to my house. My father had lost all his money, leaving his business in bankruptcy. People in our town made jokes about him. They said he was a fool who didn't know how to handle a business. Even his parents went along with the town. But he never gave up and he kept working and working until he got over himself. He is the most hard working and caring person I know and I am lucky to have him as a father. From his experience, I learned I must never give up and always go forward. I need to let other people, who have more knowledge than me, help get me on the right track. But at the end of the day, I should always listen to myself, knowing that my decision will help me. I learned

St. Teresa of Avila (1515-1582) is a well-known reformer of the Carmelites. Her desire in life was to suffer fully for Christ at any cost. One of the costs was whether she would be taken seriously about her determinations since she is female. For being such a brave, strong-willed woman in the 16th century, current feminists would adore her. “Her practical intelligence and vivacious charm helped her often enough to slip out of those tight Spanish cords that kept Castilian women tethered to their small proper sphere” (Dorgan p.155).

How did this story speak to you? How does it connect with events or people in your life?

There are many different things that are learned only by observing what other people does. In times of need people can quickly seek help from their neighbors. It is the parent’s responsibility to make his or her children understand that they mean lot of them. They should be reminded how important an individual is to the other one. What are you have the same responsibility to make the relationship stronger and better.

My parents left me when I was 3 years old and they came to to America. My grandmother and her husband. My grandmother had 7 kids plus me and my big brother and they had to feed all of us. My grandparents did not had a lot back then but I was bless enough to survive with them. In Guinee I used to get up 5:30 to walk to school , the school i used to go to was 1 mile away from the house. My teachers in Guinee used to always beat me up every time I came to school late. I knew it wasn’t my fault that i lived far but I still tried to manage my time everyday to make it on time on this day. When school is finish and I walk back home, when i come back home, sometimes like 5:30 or 6:00 the food is already finish and my grandmother is cooking another meal. In my grandparents house , there is always time and periods for breakfast, lunch, and dinner after the last prayer and all of that the family comes together and eat together in one plate .If you don't make it to the exact time, then you have to wait till the next one to eat with the family. My grandmother never lets someone eat by oneself, she always taught me that family is the background of life. In my life there were situations that arose that I would not have made it through without my family. when my mother used to call home to check on me and my brother , i always used to complain about the family and how i like them But no matter what choices

Last December I was volunteering for a club in school, we collected gifts for orphan children of all age groups. A few days before Christmas we all gathered at a local church and we began serving food and giving out gifts for children. As the day went by so did all the presents, we began to realize there was not enough for everybody however we had just the right amount in the end. Suddenly, a group of kids my age walked in I glanced at the section where we had placed the gifts for teenagers but there were no more presents. I looked over to our sponsor and we began to think of a way for these boys and girls to receive a gift. In that moment one of the church members walked in with gifts that were meant to be given to us as a thank you for coming to help the church pass out gifts and serve food. I looked over at the group of teenagers and saw sadness in their faces I then offered if I could give the gift to one of them. My peers agreed and did the same.

Throughout my entire life, it seemed as though everything was centered around my family’s collective core morals and an unwritten ethic code instilled in me as I grew up. My family’s principles remain a major part of my life, especially as I begin the transition to independence in the adult world. Considering my family has always been one of the most important things to me, I have always placed value on what I have learned from them and where we come from. My big, small-town family gave me a sense of what it means to help others, how we can accomplish this goal, and for what reasons. Being raised in a close-knit, Christian family with strong values will assist me in understanding how to be successful in terms of compassion and

Loyalty is one of the simplest moral traits to understand. Either someone is loyal, or they are disloyal—there are not many shades of grey in between. For this reason, loyalty is one of the most desired traits in our friends, family, and partners we have in our lives. Loyalty weaves hidden bonds among people that in some cases can never be broken. Such is the case of Pak Chesang, devoted servant of Nulji, 19th king of the Korean kingdom of Silla.

Ezequiel Pagan  Patrick Williams  English 111  16 October 2014   Family Value and Truth  Family in society is a social structure. Family plays a key role in human life because it can give  people a sense of home, or a loving and supportive group. In most cases when people think of families  they think of having a mom, dad, brother, sister.  However, nothing in life is perfect. Today, we have  separated , same sex, extended, and blended families. Society tries to explain these more contemporary  families but has a harsh way of doing so. In the essay, Stone Soup, by Barbara Kingsolver, she  discusses how society views families and in the essay, Family Values, by Richard Rodriguez, he talks  about American family values. Both

If we talk about Christianity point of view Holy bible lays down “Wives submit yourself into your own husbands as unto the Lord.”

Not only do I support my parents, but I also support my younger cousins and brother. As an eldest brother and cousin, I feel I must be a good example for the young ones. There are numerous methods of showing my cousins and brother support. One main way is by providing advice on making the right choices. For example my brother had a problem at school with one of his classmates. As a mature and responsible older brother, I advised him to use the non-violent approach. I told him to go discuss the problem and try to resolve it peacefully. My brother then asked me why he shouldn’t fight his classmate. I explained how violence is the answer to anything. I advised him to first talk to his classmate in a professional manner. If then things get out of hand, I told him to let the teacher know the situation. In the end, my brother didn’t need to get the teacher involved. In fact, their conflict was resolved by talking through with each other. I also am very supportive of my little cousins. One way I help them out is by tutoring them once in a while. They come over to my house and I assist them with their school work. Not only I help my cousins with their homework, but I also support them recreationally. I play various sports and activities with them. As their older cousin/brother, I feel I should be a good role model to follow.