Story Of Nene And Nnameka's Marriage

Starting a church and building a church was a lot harder than I expected. Many of our projects and efforts just did not work. But I tried to take the high road. “Well that didn’t end the way I expected, but at least no one important died.“

As far as relationships go, people believe there is an ideal match somewhere out there in the world that was made for them. Most of the time this conspiracy becomes a reality, but only for few. In the story The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri, the main character, Nikhil and his ex-fiancé, Moushumi seemed as if they were the kind of couple that would have lasted forever. Unfortunately as we continue to read through the story, we realized that they were not really meant to be. Even though they seemed as a perfect puzzle piece, various factors contributed to the end of their marriage.

Mary Anne Fitzpatrick is the developer of the three original types of marriage. The three types include; Traditional marriage, Independent marriage, and Separate Marriage. When she was studying, she noticed that not every couple was the same, and that age played a factor in it as well when it came to categorizing couples in what type of marriage they are. “Couples can be differentiated on the basis of their “independence,” the extent to which they share their feelings with one another. Some couples are highly interdependent, depending on their partners for comfort, expressions of love, and fun. Other couples are more reserved and do not depend on their partners for emotional sharing and support,”(345). This shows Fitzpatrick’s theory of different types of marriage is true and each couple is different form another and that they should be put into different categories and not just one.

Marriage is an essential contract between a husband and a wife. In the past, marriages were arranged between relatives and the parents of the couple were the main leads in discussing the ceremony.

The only negative that both the men from Nisa and Saheri’s Choice had was that their wives didn’t like them. Arranged marriages are different from us because it’s not our normal standard, we are, use to consensual heterosexual serial monogamy. We also don’t have arranged marriages in our country so we don’t experience them.

In this story there is an ongoing struggle between following the rules and expectations of a strict society to marry the proper person, or get

Two contrasting entities often clash when met, forcing their differences to arise between them as time passes. This is exemplified in Doris Lessing’s work, “Marriage is a Private Affair”, among characters that represent traditional values and modern beliefs. These values divide the characters and lead them to make their own decisions for the betterment of each party, resulting in consequences on both sides. In Lessing’s work, Nnaemeka proves to be a hero within society as he chooses paths to gain the affection of many and restore broken ties between all.

    In the time frame that this story is set, many major life decisions things are made taking into account one’s duty to family - including the selection of a husband or wife.  It is possible that each of these couples may not have been in love,  when their vows were stated.  They have a duty to society; they must not marry outside of their social class.  They have a duty to their family;

“Like the Matching of Spouses and the Naming and Placement of newchildren, the Assignments were scrupulously thought through by the Committee of Elders” (62). One would think that the people in the community get to choose who they marry or give their child their name, but in fear of making the wrong choice, the leaders make those choices for them. In order to maintain balance, the excessive rules take away being able to make

Boy Gramp, I understnd that men marrying one another is just-

As clearly stated throughout The Giver by Lois Lowry, balance is everything. In our society, a family is created through a spouse’s choosing of another. But in the communtity of The Giver, balance must be achieved everywhere as Jonas ,the protaginist, states,“ all of the factors... had to correspond and interact perfectly” (Lowry 62), even in the “family units”. Jonas later states that mothers and fathers have no say on who they shall marry. The choice is given to the government to decide on who a person should marry as shown on page (,Lowry), “ (You don’t get a saying in your choice of a spouse instead a) Matching of Spouses was given”.

I don’t love her” (Achebe). Nnaemeka does however feel sorry that his father is affected by his decision. The narrator says, “Nnaemeka was deeply affected by his father’s grief” (Achebe). Although in modern culture people are allowed to marry whom they choose and love, in Nnaemeka’s culture that is not allowed. Absalom grieves over doing wrong and Nnaemeka does not feel wrong about his actions; therefore Absalom deserves forgiveness over

Several arguments had occurred, however the answer remains various according to different perspectives. Marriage is a sacred phase in our lives consisting of a man loving a woman; thus, they come to be married by means of choice. [The Article, “Should It Be More Difficult To Get A Divorce”] states that no person should be enforced to make life decisions based on what others might think what is best to do. Kids age up healthy with both parents at their side, in spite of this they do better with ones that are not strained to act a fake play. Obligation will never exist as an answer if it was not

This jump to conclusion makes the church seem literal-minded and inattentive to others. After days of doing nothing but torture the old man and the church not doing anything about it, the old man flies off implying that the “wisdom” of the church was never really needed. Society was not

On his way home, Nnaemeka is thinking about how he is going to confront his father. The fact that he cares so much about his father’s reaction tells us that he has great respect for his father. We even see that he at one point feels kind of bad for his father, who has put an effort into finding a girl for him. This respect is also reflected in the conversation between Nnaemeka and his father. Nnaemeka finds it hard to tell his father about the situation with Nene, especially because of his father’s lack of understanding of which we see several examples through the text. A very good example is on page 2, line 14, when Nnaemeka wants to talk with his father about “the marriage question” and his father replies “Which marriage question?”. In this quote we see that in the father’s opinion Nnaemeka has no other option than to marry Ugoye, nothing needs to be discussed. Nnaemeka on the other hand, finds it impossible to marry someone that he does not love, but when he tells his father that he does not love Ugoye, he simply answers, “Nobody said you did. Why should you?”(p.2 l.19) at this point his father makes it clear that