Strict Parenting: Chinese or Westerner

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Strict Parenting: Chinese or Westerner There are many different parenting techniques; each culture has their own way of raising their children, the end result is the same, we want what’s best for them and we want to see them happy. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua, Chua talks about how the Chinese way is the best way to raise a child. She compares her style against “Westerner parents” in which Hanna Rosin defends the “Westerners” in her article “Mother Inferior?” Chua is a very strict mother, she considers herself what is called a “Chinese mother” which is a parenting style most Chinese mothers live by. Rosin is what Chua would call a “Westerner”. Who is to say one parenting technique is better than the…show more content…
She does all of this to “motivate” them, instead of encouraging them to do better and believing in them, she shows it in a different way. Rosin has a softer style, she believes that there is a better way to motivate her children and calling them names is not one of them. Rosin mentions, “children of this generation still have giant superegos and a mad drive to succeed”, so they just need encouragement to strive to be the best, not forced. “Westerners” may care about how their children feel and their “psyches”, but at least as a parent they know their child is truly happy and that they did the best they could to protect and raise their child to be the best they can. This “Chinese mother” parenting style puts a lot of pressure on the mother. Putting forth hours of training with their child, and if there are multiple children, that’s even more time and commitment. Perhaps the reason “Chinese mothers” are able to do this is because they are stay at home moms. They have the time to focus on their children. In most American families, both parents work. Therefore, time is critical, not to mention time for their self. Rosin even states, “such vigilant attention to how my daughter spends every minute of her afternoon is time-consuming and exhausting”. (Rosin, 2011) Through the differences there is one main similarity in these two parenting styles, and
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