Strict Parents

The article Overprotected Kids by Hanna Rosin was informative and eye opening on the fact that children nowadays are watched over much more than say when their parents were children. I completely agree, and not only did the article give many examples, it brought me back to my own experiences; when I was a young kid. It’s understandable why parents are protective over their kids when they obviously just watching out for them and their well being. But overshadowing your kids can affect them more than is realized. I believe this is not parents intention, but the fear of something happening to their child has caused them to become what is considered “overprotected”.

My parents are kind of a mix between permissive and authoritarian. My dad was a cop and he is strict with the rules. On the other hand, my mom is more permissive. She lets me stay out later than my dad would, and she is far more lenient. She does, however, have rules and sees to it that I follow them.

* Authoritative parents set clear and consistent limits for children. They are flexible but firm, whichs leads to children who are responsible, cooperative, and self reliant.

It is beneficial for people in high authority to have high expectations for teens because the teens will want to achieve those expectations and it will make them more stable and emotionally ready for adult life. In the article “Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really The Answer?” Hara Estroff Marano who is the author of A Nation Of Wimps and the editor-at-large of Psychology Today magazine speaks about the benefits of raising children with strict parenting. Marano states, “ Children who have never had to test their abilities, says Marano, form into “emotionally brittle” young adults who are more vulnerable to anxiety and depression.” (Paul 4). This quote shows that high expectations is beneficial because kids who grew up with lower expectations

In my life, being hovered over is an everyday, every hour, and every minute kind of thing for me. Since I was a baby, my parents have been highly overprotective. Like Louise, I am looked at by my parents as dependent and helpless. I am very much independent, but I am some what confined. Though I live by myself in a whole different state than my parents; it sometimes feels like they live right next door. The fact that my parents pay all of my bills, and on top of that pay me an allowance of someone with a full time job every Friday, seems to give them a right to barge in on my life. Having no complaints about any of this, I

The hypervigilance of parents where they dictate everything that their child does actually does damage to the child because it stunts the development of internal motivation in these students (Margolies, 2016). If my parents had told me what clubs to be in, what sports to do, what classes to take, and what homework to do at what time then I never would have developed the motivation to choose for myself. It would have actually made me less capable of choosing things for myself, thus causing more stress in my life as more responsibility would fall on me as my schooling continues. The other dangerous way that this forced culture of perfectionism damages these youths is when they seem to be the perfect student, excelling in their studies in high school, and then without this constant support they crash in college and can quickly spiral out of control, not knowing how to handle this new stress as they no longer have the hypervigilance or the praise of their parents to keep them going. Helicopter parents think that by controlling these aspects of their child’s life will benefit them and create the best possible outcome for them. This is very obviously false as it is creating the situation of a severely underdeveloped child.

Trust, the way to a close bond with other people, is a very important factor in life. I hate it when my mom is overprotective. Is it just me or are other parents overprotective too? Sometimes, my mom can be way too overprotective, skeptical, and negative. During seventh grade, my group and I worked on a social studies project. We worked really hard by sleeping late and meeting up outside of school. Eventually, we ended up with a very satisfying result. Therefore, there had to be a reward for this which was going to Lotte World altogether with no parents. It was my first time going to an amusement park by myself without adult supervision. Thus, my mom was extremely worried. She kept on saying negative possibilities such as someone kidnapping

For some reason when we are younger society and authority figures (such s parents) play a bigger role in our lives. It probably is because

Since I was a child, I have always listened to what my parents have told me to do like a soldier receiving orders from a commander. My mom and dad have worked long hours at their job and I love them for always caring and looking after me. But as I got older, I began to develop a mind of my own. In middle school, my parents would forbid me from watching more than an hour of television or they would refuse to let me hang out with my friends more often. It vexed me that they could not be more like other parents who let their kids do whatever they want. Next thing I know, my parents and I would always argue about everything I do. I refuse to do my chores and would constantly pick a fight with my siblings. Slowly, it got to the point that I would

Arguments between parents and their kids is one of the most common flaw in modern families. Parents who force their kids to do an extracurricular activity is also known but what about the kids who don’t want to do what their parents want? Why is it important for kids to comply to their parents’ wishes? The answers may vary since all others have different ways of operating their family. The story, “Two Kinds,” by Amy Tan, writes a debatable story of a parent who forces her daughter to do difficult activities.

Authoritative parents “set standards, but also give their child choices. They recognize the good things that their child does, but they do not overlook the bad things. These parents are more confident and nurturing. They set standards that their child can meet. Usually, this type of parenting leads to a positive self-image in the child (Black, 2008). Permissive parents “do not control their children, it is more like the other way around. There is no discipline, and the child grows up knowing they can get whatever they want. When the parent does try to discipline, the child doesn't take it seriously. These parents give in easily and avoid confrontation whenever possible” (Black, 2008). In general American parents raise their children to have an individual personality, and to be independent from a very young age. “Firm disciplines are directed toward the infant and these are gradually relaxed as the child grows” (Suzuki, 2000).

My parents are very important part of my life. Their presence in my life have brought many significant events that have change my way of thinking

Everyone remembers fighting with their parents at some point in their life, whether as a young child who wants a toy or as a teenager who isn’t allowed to go out. It’s normal to want to challenge authority when growing up, because it helps young people to make their own decisions and become individuals. Teenagers rely on few close friends and the last people expected to be confidants are their parents.

Everyone in the family knows what is expected of them: my father goes to work, my mother works a little and cooking. The children must obey. I have to listen to everything my parent says, discipline and physical punishment were acceptable for disobedience in the family tradition. For example, one time, I tell my parent that I am going over to my friends’ house to do some group project and that was a lie. After my parent knows it, I get punish by kneeling down on the floor for one hour, and that not the worst yet. In addition, my family also had a high regard for education. They want me to study and excel in my education, which goes for the rest of my sisters and brothers. At first, I don’t like these rules but I do now because it’s what makes my parent happy and me too, a

My parents where very overprotective which sounds good on the surface, but this caused me to feel unequal to my peers since my parents would not let me play sports or even go on a field trip one time because