Study To Find Romaticism and Family as Perceived by Japanese, German and American College Students

Love is rarely the motivating reason for marriage, and Stephanie Coontz’s article, “The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love,” discusses this. Coontz brings forth a lot of information and many examples to inform the reader of how the western idea of marriage isn’t really as common as we believe that it is. She starts her article with a quote from George Bernard Shaw, who says that people who marry for love are, “under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions…” Many of the cultures that Coontz goes onto talk about later in the article share this viewpoint. The author writes about the history of marriage and touches on societies that have obscure views of it now. She does a great job of organizing the information into a timeline starting with marriage in the ancient times, love in African tribes, adultery throughout history, monogamy, and marriage now in Western society. Most of Western society bases getting married on the idea of “love until death.” Coontz argues that this Western invention is and has often been seen as radical.

The concept that marriage can occur, endure, and succeed without the factor of love seems to be common in many other places in the world. “Who Needs Love! In Japan, Many Couples Don’t,” by Nicholas D. Kristof published in the New York Times in 1996 explores the aspects and success of loveless marriage in Japan beginning with Yuri Uemura of Omiya, Japan.

Prince Charming, Romeo Montague, and Edward Cullen—all create a hopeful image in a young girl’s mind of finding her own fairytale prince and have a happy ending. However, can a person really spend the rest of his or her life with the same person? Sometimes, the qualities that seem appealing at first can turn traitors when the bond lasts long term. Marriage—the official name given to the life-long relationship two people choose to go into—provokes deep-thinking. Though people have confidence in their relationship, they are often proven wrong. A love-based marriage should not present an option when choosing a life partner. Define love. A feeling? A psychological problem? An illusion, perhaps? The cycle goes on: People get married, divorced,

Disney’s “love at first sight” concept, eludes the viewer to conclude that by simply making eye contact with another, it is possible to instantly fall in love. According to psychologist Robert Sternberg’s “Triangular Theory of Love”, there are three components of a loving relationship: intimacy, passion, and the decision or commitment (Sterberg). “Love at first sight” falls under the passion category, characterized by the physical aspects of a relationship, including attraction and sexual consumption (Richardson). Despite the fact that passion is important, these relationships, lack intimacy, or all of the emotional aspects of an accord. Without intimacy, it is near impossible to sustain a happy and healthy relationship as both partners do not practice empathy, make attempts to understand their mate, nor do they show proper compassion to their lover. Furthermore, the relationship also lacks decision or commitment, a vital aspect of any marriage. The commitment to sustain a relationship and marry another individual for life is the foundation of marriage. Without this foundation, a marriage cannot mature and develop as the companions change through the years. In order for a marriage to work, all three components must be present, and collectively work together to ensure a loving and structured

There are other cultures that marry because they are told to do so in pursuit of power, property, or allies (Sigelman 450). Marriage is a big step in an adult’s life as they take on a new role as a husband or a wife. A couple’s self-esteem may rise and some of them may feel more secure inn attachment as a result from marriage. However, some adults find themselves compromising with their partners to adapt to one another’s preferences and personalities. The “honeymoon phase” is short. In a study, couples become less favorable to one another in the first year of marriage. They say “I love you” less, are less likely to give out compliments, and express little interest in communicating (Sigelman 450). This is not to say most married couples are unhappy. It is just to show that with marriage comes strain and adjustment. It is a common misconception that happy couples turn sour. Yet, a study proves that couples that remain married were unhappy and had a poor relationship in the beginning (Sigelman 451). The couples that were more negative toward one another remained married

Society has conditioned us to believe that love equates to romance. Western society has plagued love with the ideals of fairytales and romance. We all have seen and heard the cliché and trite sayings, “True love is once in a lifetime” or “Love is blinding”. As discussed in “Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person” author Alain de Botton asserts that society’s idea of love is impractical. He explains how marriage in the western world was once a marriage on convivence but is now since a marriage of feeling. This idea however, is challenged in the article “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This” where author, Mandy Len Catron claims that who you love is your choice. By highlighting the imperfections of love, de Botton makes the assertion that

Throughout my interview with BabyJean Vidas, I have learned that although her cultural norms were different for her while growing up, her reason to marry was very similar to mine. Love was the main factor in her choice to marry a second time, but she remembers how her culture and families’ beliefs affected her choice to marry her first husband. I believe love encourages all relationships in our life, we are social beings, but culture affects the steps in how the relationship progresses. Before Jean found love, she lived a story much different than many marriages in America. While a lot has changed in the Philippines, 20 years ago, it was very conservative. In the past, a common tradition that you still see today by many natives in the Philippines, is the practice of arranging marriage. According to Aguiar (2013) in an arranged marriage, elder relatives broker a young girl in their family. Elders seek a perfect mate with similar traits and in the best interest of the family. An arranged marriage also includes a viewing of the girl before a final agreement is made between

Love between man and woman is the precious one of human that people must spend a lot of time and effort to seek. However, there is a perceptive difference of love between Western culture and Eastern culture. Westerners find out freedom and satisfaction in love and marriage is a great importance of their life, therefore they often cohabitate to learn about their partners carefully to get a

Marriage or a relationship similar to, is a tremendous component of the human experience. Its function is practiced in every culture worldwide; but in very different forms

“Until recently a person choosing for themselves who to date for many centuries the parents of the spouses chose soul mates for their children. A long time ago affection was uncommon in most marriages; the marriages of the day were primarily economic arrangements.” By the sixteenth hundredth courtly love had change to have sexual involvement between the lady of nobility and her paramour. Sixteen and seventeen hundredth is when people started to value romantic love but still valued to be faithful to save oneself until marriage. Seventeen and eighteen hundreds parent setup and romantic love were competing side by side. The twentieth century it was proper for one to ask the girl’s parents permission to marry the daughter. “Another thing is that opposite attract because each person desires to get what is lacking.” Now day’s people are living as boyfriend and girlfriend having sex outside of marriage. People living as boyfriend and girlfriend are not an alternative to marriage. It is important to study the subject on what makes a marriage have a strong foundation because this society as a whole has failed to figure out just what makes a successful marriage. The ultimate foundation of course would be in Jesus Christ but there are also personality traits that play a part in people being attracted to one another. It is all a matter what attracts one to another and keeps it going.

There are widely varying culture and ethnic groups that possess distinct cultural principles and attachment styles which is believed to have a deep influence in romantic preferences (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995). Eastern and Western culture clearly varies in two basic principles, specifically, individualism and collectivism (Hofstede, 1980; Phinney, Ong, & Madden, 2000; Triandis, Bontempo, &Villareal, 1988).

The official language of the Roma people is “Rromanës,” or Romani. Where your patient may speak English to some degree, or even fluently, they still may not answer your questions because of the Roma “cultural prohibition [of] giving too much information to a Gaje (non-Romany)” (Galanti, p 42). They may look to older relatives to speak for them, and make decisions about, their care (Honer, 2004). It may be of a benefit to you to determine a spokesperson from among those family members your patient is referring to, to better respect their culture and wants, and to expedite their care.

The desire to both preserve love and seek social and economic stability drives the formation of domesticity. Kipnis writes, “It is our culture alone that has dedicated itself to allying the turbulence of romance and the rationality of the long-term couple.” Under such circumstance, love can be only accomplished through coupledom. More individuals are pressured by love as social and economic institutions than by love as a human emotion. With longing for romantic and sexual needs, along with social and financial stability, they are taught to believe the only path to achieve both is to get married. The nuclear family is traditionally assumed to be the combination of economic

Love is in the air. Although this may sound like a cliche it is true. Love is prevalent in every society all around the world. The feelings associated with love may be the same all over, but how love is approached can vary. Dating and marriage customs are different from country to country; Japan, in particular has very unique dating and marriage procedures. Japan is a located in Southeastern Asia. The Japanese tend to share some very different ideas concerning dating and marriage. However, some of our beliefs and morals have spread into the culture of the Japanese. Nevertheless, Japan holds strong to their roots and their unique culture. Similarly, we tend to narrow our beliefs on their ideas as

The subject of marriage is age-old- certainly not something as new as to be borne of the last few centuries. Debates as to the results of the institution, however, may be thought of differently. It has not been until as recent as the twentieth century that we have begun to examine the sort of effects that the institution of matrimony has produced on either men, or women. Perhaps amusingly enough, findings indicate the contrariness as to how Western society has trained both men and women to feel towards the thought of marrying another: marriage has a far more positive effect on men than many know, but unfortunately, the same cannot be said of women. However, that is not to say that this finding is universal. There have always been- and will be- exceptions, and beyond that, there are factors of not insignificant influence.