Subgoal Analysis

Fredrickson’s entire basis for what love is, is that it is “positivity resonance”, and any sense of negativity is not part of that definition. Fredrickson states, “As you interact with one person after another, they gently nudge you to attend to these others more closely and forge connections when possible. They shape your motives and behaviors in subtle ways, yet ultimately, their actions serve to strengthen your relationships and knit you in closer to the social fabric of life,” (Fredrickson 110). The usage of positive language like strengthen and knit, along with the idea of forging connections, is indicative of what she is trying to say when it comes to what positivity resonance is, that the interactions between individuals should have positive benefits that will make their lives better. Fredrickson understands that love should be a valuable bond, shown both in her definition of love, and how it’s explained using science. However, the cadets in The Citadel do not seem to gain anything valuable from their interactions, at least at first glance. Faludi uses the school to show how a rigid environment with a power structure can lead to the abusive acts between the students. Faludi states, “…the Corps of Cadets once again seeks to obscure a domestic male paradise with an intensifying of virile showmanship and violence. The result is a ruthless intimacy, in which physical abuse stands in for physical affection, and every display of affection must

John Van Epp who has a Ph.D. in Counseling/Psychology, is a therapist, former professor and lecturer wrote the book How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk. This book is a guild about how to fall in love without going crazy in the process. Throughout the book Epp explains his RAM Plan (Relationship Attachment Model) which is an interactive model developed to illustration parts of relationships that create important connections. Included in the model is: Know, Trust, Rely, Commit and Touch. “The five fundamental dynamics are the depth to which you know, trust, rely on, have a commitment to, and have sexual involvement with another person. The RAM portrays these five dynamics in a way that explains their unique contributions to the bond

Do our relationships with others define how caring and loyal we are as a person? In the stories What of This Goldfish Would You Wish?” by Etgar Keret, “The Lottery” by Shirley Jackson, and “Without Title” by Diane Glancy; the characters and their relationships with people define how the relationships can be an influence on us. Our relationships with people define if we’re caring and/or loyal we ACTUALLY are.

The first article I chose to evaluate is Retreat from Intimacy, written by Levine and Jeanette Cureton. This article discusses numerous examples of fears and hurts that students have experienced, that may divide and isolation them (Mayberry, 2009, p. 237). There are many examples presented in this article I will primarily focus on the fear of falling victim to random acts of violence. Each example is used to support the claim backed by citing, in efforts to sway the reader to agree. The writer’s augment is that students are coming to college overwhelmed and more damaged than those of previous years (Mayberry, 2009, p. 237). These fears have lead students to intimacy issues and feeling of isolation.

Mental health and its relevance to different relational settings has become a more widely discussed topic in recent times, especially so in American culture. Collectively, as a society, we have slowly begun to acknowledge that even the “everyday” factors in life, such as school, work, and family, create some amount of stress that could affect an individual’s mental health in a multitude of ways. The mental health of an individual affects not only the self, but the relationships formed with all those who come in contact with said individual. For example, an individual with “good” mental health might experience less tumultuous relationships with family, friends, and significant others, while an individual with “poor” mental health might struggle

Human nature is a very complex thing and one of the complexities found within it, is our ability to form and maintain relationships, as well as build them to be stronger or break them apart. I find this area to be very interesting, so I decided to explore the complexity of relationships and what love has to do with that. Within that subject, I wanted to explore the subject of family and how they react to any kind of trauma because I personally have had a few experiences within my family that could be considered traumatic. I wanted to discover why things turn out the way they do, which lead me to the question as to why we respond to things and how do those responses affect a family. While the strength of the family’s bonds plays a role in whether

Similar to other several species, human beings possess an innate need to feel attached, to belong, to have a feeling of intimacy as well as to attain a sense of communion and identification with other people. Such human need evolves to act as vital adaptive endurance values that included acting and organizing in groups, courting and selecting prospective mates and sustaining family togetherness during the process of bringing up children. Within the broad context in which the human communication processes evolved, there are two fundamental functions that have emerged: affiliation and power (Wood, 2013). Every form of communication explicitly or implicitly seeks in influencing or responding to attempts to seek connection or disconnection and to influence or rather to be influencing. During such process of seeking influence, being influenced, or influencing other individuals, connection as well as disconnection with other people, communication process may become abusive. The paper provides an examination of the different ways whereby communication alters or exploits the fundamental human functioning (Wood, 2015). To be specific, the paper provides a review of the communication forms that are commonly unwanted in regular relationships while paying special attention to the processes of communication in relationships

The items were written in a way that allows them to be used for a variety of interpersonal targets (not just romantic relationships) and for a variety of age groups. (Fraley et al, 2011). The Relationship Structures has shown to have high internal validity (Schwarz & Scheuring, 1988).

His ability to develop deep romantic relationships are greatly hindered by the client active engagement in maladaptive coping mechanisms. The client demonstrates behavioral patterns of emotional withdrawal from reality, by distancing self from the world around him. The client reported a history of trauma and negative family dynamics. Specifically, a family history of substance abuse and incarcerations. In childhood, the client disclosed a relative died by suicide and subsequently, his parents’ obtained a divorce. With regards to his uncle’s suicide, the client stated, “That one event haunts me because its secondhand effects altered my life.” It could very well be the case that the client internalized this traumatic experience, as well as the negative family dynamics, and experiences of thwart belonging among peer groups which manifest into the conscious mistrust of others and unconscious fear of intimacy. In effort to protect himself from others, the client engages in dysfunctional coping patterns. As evidenced by the clients statement, “I survived by detaching myself emotionally.” This resulted in the client’s negative and dysfunctional capacity to manage his emotional experiences. The client’s maladaptive coping style, tendency towards emotional withdrawal and retreating into oneself, directly interferes with the client’s ability forming deep romantic

Taking this class has helped me learn and grow in many ways within my relationships. Taking this class, I am now aware that changing distorted or absolute self-concept can be a good thing, common tendencies in perception also leads to attribution errors more often than we realize, appreciating the value of empathy when understanding and enhancing my relationships, knowing and fully understanding the use of relational stages, how to manage dialectical tensions efficiently, and how family communication patterns affect children’s future relationships. Family communication patterns and the types of ineffective listening really sparked my interest. While reading about family communication I found the whole chapter interesting because it is most

and how people decide how much attention to pay to who (Gergen 2002). ‘Relationship’ is a nominal variable and because of this, I could only look at the mode, or most common relationships (doesn’t make sense to look at mean or median). I found that the majority of my interactions in descending order were with friends (14 out of the 43 total interactions or 32.5%), professors, tutors and UofT administration grouped into ‘school’ (7 out of the 43 total interactions or 16.2%) and people that I had either not met before or weren’t in my personal network but I interacted with (6 out of 43 interactions or 13.9%). Further, there was an equal frequency of interactions between myself and co-workers and my boyfriend (Jay) which accounted for 5 out of 43 interactions or 11.6% each, respectively, while roommates and family I also had an equal amount of interactions with (3 interactions each out of 43 or

When people hear the term “loving” the first thing that pops into their minds is a relationship. Essentially, they aren’t wrong, but relationships don’t have to be solely romantic. Acting as a loving person doesn’t have to be tied to a romantic connotation, in fact, the act of becoming a loving individual as a Prep grad at grad usually centers around being a loving individual in the eyes of friends, family, and most importantly, loving yourself. Much of the confusion surrounding the high-school setting that plagues incoming freshman year after year is learning how to act in front of a relatively new community. At least for me, the majority of depictions of high-school life on popular mediums such as television shows and movies horrified me as a child. High-school seemed like an environment filled with rampant drug use, drinking, and unwarranted fighting about seemingly useless things. I specifically remember staying up late one night while I was in sixth grade and watching the Owen Wilson movie, “Drillbit Taylor” in which three bullied students in high-school hired a body guard in order to protect themselves from other students. This movie completely terrified me as I wondered if I too would be physically bullied for no reason in high-school. Now of course most of the things depicted in mainstream media about high-schools are

Satisfaction in Close Same Sex Friendships: An Examination of the Underlying Principles.” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, vol. 22, no. 1, Feb. 2005. Doi:10.1177/0265407505049322. Accessed 1 Mar. 2017.

A recent article in Cosmopolitan addresses a most vexing uncertainty to those in friends with benefits relationships (FWBRs) in the aptly titled “Will Becoming Friends with Benefits Ruin Your Friendship?” As a college student in a culture that has evolved to embrace ambiguity, I was not surprised to find yet another popular culture piece offering advice on FWBRs. Upon reading the article, however, I was intrigued by the discovery that there is an array of actual academic research devoted to understanding this particular kind of relationship.

The key element to build up a strong relationship is the right composition of dependence and independence. With independence it brings responsibility and isolation also. Therefore, human beings desperately aspire for independence when surrounded by others but needs others to get rid of an isolated life. Talking about the delicate bonding among human beings Deborah Tannen said “We need to get close to each other- to have a sense of community, to feel we ’ re not alone in the world.- But we need to keep our distance from each other to preserve our independence, so others don ’ t impose on or engulf us. This duality reflects the human condition. We are individual –and social creatures. We need other people to survive, but we want – To- survive as individuals.” 1.