There are two kinds of people that lead a victim to killing themselves: bullies and bystanders. According to Source 3, students are bullied because the bully thinks they are weaker in some way. Also, they may have insecurity, depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem. A student may bully someone else repeatedly and intentionally. They also use different tactics such as cyber, verbal, and sexual bullying. But, which is worse the bully or the bystander? Bystanders are worse than bullies because they don’t intervene, encourage the bully, make the matter worse, and could, but don't save the victim and the bully from suicide.
To begin with, bystanders don't intervene with the problem at hand. According to Source 4, 50% of the time bullying stops
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According to Source 2, bystanders just watch and that sends a message to the bully that their behavior is acceptable and they continue. They also gather round and give the bully an audience. With an audience the bully will start to go even harder on the victim. Also according to eyesonbullying.org, bystanders make comments that makes the bully do worse things to the victim. So, bystanders encourage the bully and he does worse things to the victim.
Furthermore, bystanders always make the matter worse. According to Source 2, bystanders laugh and make crude comments to the victim. They also make videos and make viral. That leads to the victim seeing this and getting depressed. According to Source 3, bystanders most of the time fell the victim deserves the harsh treatment. So, bystanders make matters worse when someone is getting bullied.
Moreover, a bystander could, but don't save the victim and the bully from suicide. According to cdc.gov, they make the victim feel more pain by not helping out. That leads to the suicide. They also don't get help for the bully who might have problems at home. They make the victim feel no one cares about them and then they kill themselves, which makes the bully feel bad and he kills himself and then everyone dies. So, a bystander could save the victim and the bully from suicide, but choose not
In the book "Bystander", written by James Preller, it talks about not just the bully and victims but the other roles, such as Bystanders and allies. In chapter 20, a gathered group of boys discuss their responses to Griffin's unreasonable and illogical behavior. Their reasons for doing nothing include "The unreliability of authority figures to respond", "The threat of retaliation", "The victim, at least on some level, deserves it" , "It is human nature, the law of the jungle, and it will always persist", "It's better to stay out of it", "No one should rat out another student". These are ridiculous and absurd reason to be a bystander to such a unspeakable act. The main idea I would like to another reader to consider is advise others to not
The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the
A bystander today, will normally stand-up for the victim, or report the situation to a superior. A bystander in the 2010s have been well informed about the causalities that occur due to bullying, or how the victim reacts due to the bullying. The victim in the 2010s would normally report the situations themselves, or stand-up to the bully. Some victims will keep the bullying to themselves, but that is different compared to the bully keeping the bullying to him or herself. The emotions created from being bullied will cause the victim to become suicidal, or
When allowing it to happen, the person getting bullied could end up killing themselves. I mean, why would you allow such thing to happen? Also, the victim may feel like the bystander is supporting the bully because they’re allowing that to happen.
Chapter three - How people can prevent bullying from happening. What can you do if you are the Bystander?
Many bullying scenarios have resulted in self harm or even suicide. Just this past June, a girl in Tampa, Florida, committed suicide because of a friend taking a naked picture of her without her permission and shared it on social media. A reporter from Channel 8 News, quotes a psychiatrist, Dr. Walter Afield: “Teenagers are very nasty to each other because they’re so nervous and so forth.When they bully, well you can yell, you can shout, you can shoot back but when it comes on the internet so quickly and so instantly and all around. It gets very aggressive.” 15-year-old was found dead by her aunt from a gunshot in her
A 2023 statistic by Jannik Lindner, a social issue statistics writer, writes about how bystanders can help stop bullying. He writes Bystanders intervene in bullying situations only 20% of the time, and 60% of bullying situations stop when a bystander intervenes. When the bystander becomes an upstander, it appears to the victim that the upstander values their security. Upstanders stand up to injustice, and being an upstander is a way to show others compassion and empathy. When we see bullying in the world, we should choose to stand up for those who are unable to, instead of watching it happen.
If you happen to be the bystander, your success comes from knowing not to get involved or not to get too involved, lest you yourself become an actual bully or a victim. You may even be blessed with the cherished gift of self-denial, and in such case, you are able to dismiss any vague notions that your inaction makes you complicit in the bully's trespass. Still you are human: you have an opinion, you have feelings about the matter. Maybe you sympathize with one of the sides. Maybe you wish you had the guts to be that way. Maybe you're just afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe you have something to lose; maybe that something is so valuable you're not willing to gamble it. Maybe you simply feel guilty for not getting involved. Or, maybe all you feel is relief -- relief that it's not you. Makes no difference, the bystander just stands there. Hence the name. Oh, you may be emotionally conflicted, but being a bystander is really the safest place to be. Consequently, bystanders often opt to remain bystanders.
Bullies and bystanders Did you know bystanders gaze at bulling take place and do nothing about it? Bystanders also encourage bulling in different ways. Bystanders are worse than bullies. They let the bully feel good, they don’t care about the victim and might just be trying to fit in.
To begin with, bystanders choose not to help the victim. According to Source 4, they just stand by and watch. They usually do this because they are afraid to get in trouble or become bullied too. This tells the victim that they don't matter and that this is okay. Making the victim feel upset may cause them to harm their self or even become a bully. If someone does decide to help the bully out, the bystander will exclude them from their group of friends. That is how bystander choose not to help the bully.
Bystanders accept bullying by watching and doing nothing to resolve a conflict. Just like how the U.S. knew the Holocaust was happening but didn’t get involved. Even though no one got involved, it still contributed to the problem. It contributed to making the one causing it feel powerful.
Suicides happen more often in America because of bullying. Bullying needs to stop. Bullying is worse than a bystander because there depressed, mad, or sad.
Millions of kids’ are suicidal because of bullying, and half of why kids do this is because of bystanders. Also, students may be bullied, because a kid, maybe has talked about someone behind their back. Why or how a student may become a bully, maybe a kid is having troubles and they want to take out their stress on another kid and for somewhat reason they enjoy it, that’s how a student might become a bully. Being a bystander is worse than being a bully. Bullies are bad, but my opinion is that bystanders are worse.
What we know as of today is that; bullying will always remain a concern, mostly on children growing up. In Canada, statistics stated that approximately 15% girls and 18% boys are reported to be victimized at least twice in the previous month. 12% girls and 18% boys are bullying others at least twice in the same period. As for bystanders, they spend 54% of the time watching a child who was bullying, 21% of the time participating in the act and only 25% of the time watching the child that is being
When they witness someone being bullied, a bystander’s first instincts are to remain silent and try to slip away from the bully as he/she throws another student against a locker or calls them names and teases them for being “different.” Although the child may empathize with the person being targeted, they retaliate to avoid embarrassment if they speak up, or they may feel as though they do not have the power or social status to challenge and to change what they are witnessing. Other assumptions why kids don’t get involved is because they may not want to become the next target, they have been told to “mind their own business” in the past or fear the reputation of