Tension In Working With The Butler Family

Children and young people may find themselves going through a parental divorce or be part of a single parent family or they may have become part of a step family. They may

Divorce is one of the most common happenings in the world experienced by children. Most children go through different adjustments to become comfortable with the fact that their parents are not together anymore. Children of divorced parents are prone to lifelong effects. Seventy-five to eighty percent of children have divorced parents and twenty-five percent of those children have serious social, emotional, or psychological problems for the rest of their life. Most adults think that it is best for parents to stay together for the sake of their child because having two parents in different households can become difficult for the child socially and academically.

ensure that the parent or parents know that the child is still part of their family and they still hold

     In years past, the American Dream for most young girls’ is to grow up and be married to Prince Charming and to “Live Happily Ever After!” Although this may be expected - it is rarely fulfilled. Marriage is the legal and binding union between a man and woman. Yet when couples marry, they vow to stay by their partner’s side ‘till death do us part.’ Currently that vow seems to have little or no value in today’s society. The current statistics for survival of marriage are quite grim. The divorce rate in the United States is somewhere between 50 percent and a startling 67 percent. (KSL News) One contributing factor the growing epidemic of divorce is the parting of different family

For instance, within the primary dysfunctional family, many relationships are developed, which include two unbearable children, a power hungry dad, a hectic wife tending to her baby, and an unendurable grandmother. These relationships bring out other dynamics within the characters and the family (Lambert 2009). For instance, although both the father and grandmother are strict in ensuring that the children be respectful, on their part, they do not set an example that can be emulated within the family. First, the grandmother advises her grandchildren to be respectful, and then she goes ahead, making a profane racially prejudiced remark almost immediately (McCann, Jr 2011). At the same time, the head of the family—the father of the children, Bailey, requests the children to conduct themselves accordingly. However, confronted by a tense situation, Bailey loses his temper and threatens the family telling them that if they did not shut up, they would not go anywhere (Katharina 4).

Both parents need to reassure the children the divorce is not their fault. Parents need clear verification that the divorce is a final decision. Encourage a stable and good relationship with the child at visitation; both parents need to be civil towards each other, which prevents the child from having to be pulled in the middle and having to choose sides and one parent. Allow your adolescent to remain an adolescent and not feel they have to fix things or take care of

Billy states there are no concerns in the home. The children are still give Sarah a hard time. Billy has spoken with the children about being respectful to Sarah as they are to him. Worker questioned about age appropriate talking because of Joslilynn being nosey and bossy. Billy has not noticed Josilynn being bossy lately and they could have break her from being nosey. Worker mentioned that it was noted by the mother of Billy being mean to the children. Worker informed Billy that the worker told the mother he was not mean to the children but strict. The children do not over run the foster parent as they do the foster mother or their

Dr. Hart wrote in his book, ?Helping Children Survive Divorce,? that ?Every divorced child is likely to be an angry [in a clinical sense] child.? He also wrote on page 77, that divorce is a major learning experience with far-reaching consequences in regard to the child?s personality, attitudes, behaviors, and abilities (Hart, 1996). It is important for parent?s to relinquish any self-serving attitudes understanding that they are not the only ones affected by the divorce. Modeling is one of the ways that children learn appropriate attitudes and social skills. There are methodologies to improve the resiliency of children of divorce.

Tasks during this stage include, selecting a partner, developing a relationship and deciding to establish own home with someone. This stage can be most difficult for adult children of divorce. Just the thought of taking on the responsibility of having their own family can be overwhelming. Complicated by their parents’ divorce, such accumulating pressures

The consumer that I have been assigned to work with is the Blake family. This family consists of the father John, aged 32 and his wife Sherry, aged 30. John has recently received temporary custody of his three children. A previous relationship with a woman named Alison has given John the three children. John and Alison’s former relationship is also the reason for DCF involvement. The children are named John Jr., Jessica, and Jefferson. They are age seven, six, and one. Sherry also has a child from a past marriage. Sherry’s daughter is named Beth and is nine years old. The six of them currently live together in a three bedroom apartment in central Massachusetts. An attached genogram, figure 1, and ecomap, figure two, help understand this family unit. The household is Caucasian and are a working class. John and Sherry are both working full time.

In fact, the fate of the child after a divorce, and not 'how much child support will I have to pay' should be the prime concern of parents going different ways. Family lawyers can appropriately guide couples on how to prevent the child from feeling lonely after the separation. They also play a crucial role in determining child custody. The court, by itself, cannot decide which of the two parents is better suited to win the custody of the child. A family lawyer however, with his/her insight and argument, can enlighten the court on this matter. They can present the right information, such as the child's affinity and expenses, as well as the history of violence of either parent to lead the court in the right direction.

The debate of a child’s involvement in divorce and child custody mediation is one that involves “family empowerment” and comes at a time when children “experience considerable modifications in the construction of their family unit.” It is then at the mediator and the family’s discretion the degree to which children are involved in the process. It is the mediator’s role to ensure both parents have their input on this decision.

In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties. “Will my mom or dad remarry and who will I live with?” are concerns children express while going through divorce. Many

Carolyn, I appreciate the fact you would like to provide support to adolescents going through divorce. I also advocate for children going through divorce because they desperately need the emotional support by either a group, a counselor or therapist. You mentioned that each child handle divorce differently which is an important point to make. Coming from personal experience with my two daughters who went through a divorce a couple of years ago. My youngest was 5 and oldest was 8 at the time. My youngest was least affect than my oldest. It is critical that the parent are part of the process because they need all the support they can get even at first they seem to be fine. There can be a delay in processing the affects of the divorce.

As a result of all these emotional issues, it may be necessary for children of divorce and separation to seek counseling. Group counseling can benefit children of all ages. In most cases of divorce, it tears up the child’s sense of safety and security of their home. When a child in ripped in half in such a matter, you need to replace it with something that may be equally supportive. There are many different types of counseling that children can take part in. Group therapy may be the first type of counseling to have a child partake in. “Therapy groups that