The 5 Love Languages Essay

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Je T’aime or “I Love You”? They say that French is the most romantic language of all, but after reading Gary Chapman’s bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages, I would have to disagree. This international bestseller written by the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. has revived the love in millions of marriages around the world by uncovering the five specific languages that successful couples use to communicate their love for one another. These couples share a priceless love due to their understanding of the language that the other uses daily to show their affection for one another. These love languages include words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. In the book, Chapman…show more content…
Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. We must understand that forgiveness is a commitment and choice to show mercy and not hold things against our spouse. The final way you can show love through words of affirmation is with humble words. We have to be sure to make requests and not demands by knowing one another’s desires and expressing those desires in loving way. Requesting your desires gives your spouse the choice to love you. If your spouse’s love language is words of affirmation you can compliment your spouse to others when they are not around, tell them how much you appreciate them, and write them love letters. (pages 37-50) Quality time is the second love language. This involves giving your spouse undivided attention, talking, and listening. It is not enough just to live with your spouse and be in the same room with them; it means spending time together without any distracions. You must not only have focused attention, but also quality conversation. This is sympathetic dialogue where you share experiences, thoughts, feelings, and desires without distractions. A spouse who feels loved by spending quality time with you will want you to spend time in conversation, listen sympathetically, and ask them questions with a genuine desire to understand their thoughts, feelings and hopes. (pages 55-70) The third love language is receiving gifts. After Dr. Chapman traveled around the world examining the cultural patterns surrounding love and marriage, he

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