The Absence Of Unresolved Father Issues In Children

It is during this time a father needs to be present to father, shape and mold his children (Jones, Kramer, Kim A., Teresa L., Armitage, Tracey, Williams, Keith, as cited in Wallerstein, 1980, 1987). On their 10 year follow up, Wallerstein and Kelley found that regardless of the time spent with a father or not, the father continued to be a significant presence psychologically to adolescents, particularly to boys (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein, Kelley, 1974). On Kelley and Wallerstein’s 25 year follow up of their now adult participants in their longitudinal study, they have found that the effects of fatherlessness and divorce during their adolescents were long lasting. The participants in the study by Wallerstein et al. (2000) noted that “The impact of divorce hits them most cruelly as they go in search of love, sexual intimacy, and commitment” (p. 299). These same participants also stated in an interview that they had anxiety issues about relationships and intimacy problems into adulthood (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein et al., 2000). Wallerstein et al. (2000) participants of the research also stated that they had resentment towards their parents, particularly the fathers who were seen “selfish and faithless” (p. 300).

Family is the first contact an infant experiences and the environment child is raised determines their behaviors and social development. Father figures just like mother figures are important in raising and socializing children in becoming responsible people as they grow. Numerous researches to determine importance of fathers in early child development have been carried out and majority of them found out that just like mothers, the role fathers play in early childhood development including mental, psychological and physical development are crucial. The studies show that, children raised by single mothers are likely to have problems such as drug abuse, engagement in early sexual behaviors and other unsocial behaviors as compared to those raised by both parents. The paper will explore the role of fathers in child rearing, discussing strategies in raising children and exploring pros and cons of such strategies.

The key research question in this study is what are the long term effects of parental divorce on a child’s relationship between their parents and their siblings? They took into consideration variables such as age of divorce, gender, and living arrangements so they can see what influence they may have on the present study results and compare it with previous studies. They gave 3 different surveys to 102 students with married parents and 107 students with divorced parents to be able to observe the differences in relationships between the two types of families. Some of the key findings of this study are that females actually have better adult relationships with their siblings and that divorce caused the children to have better relationships with their mother, and worse relationships with their father. They noted that the age when their parents got divorced was not a variable that affected whether or not they had a good relationship with their siblings. For the relationship between their mothers, it was better unless there was a variable of pre-divorce or post-divorce conflict between them. For their fathers, it showed that daughters had worse relationships with their fathers compared to sons. Living arrangements showed effects for both of the parents depending on which parent they lived with. When it comes to remarriage, it had a positive affect on mother-child relationship when the father got remarried and no affect when the mother was remarried.

Some scholars have argued the notion that fathers are important contributors to their children and adolescents’ psychosocial development (Mandara, Murray, & Joyner, 2005). According to Allgood, Beckert, and Peterson (2012), researchers are beginning to understand the importance of examining children’s perspectives and the relationships and levels of involvement children have with their fathers.

The data was collected in the Netherlands. “...highly educated divorced fathers were better able to maintain high-quality relationships with their children than divorced fathers who had a lower level of education” (Kalmijn, 932) meaning the upper-middle class fathers have a better chance of a relationship with their child than the lower-class. The Netherlands divorce rate is similar to other Western European countries but lower than in the United States. In 1998, arrangements for after divorce agreements changed in the Netherlands, and ensured in more frequent visits of children to divorced fathers. Gender roles in the Netherlands are becoming more considerably democratic in the past few decades and is now more equitable than the European average. However most of the respondents that were analyzed, experienced their parents divorce before these changes occurred.

The absence of a fatherly figure in each Wes’s life is significant for different reasons but coherently shapes their futures. Joy’s husband was a role model for Wes, he supported his family and taught Wes how to act like a respectable man. Unfortunately, he died due to illness. Mary on the other hand had the job of raising Wes on her own because Wes’s father was not present. Wes only had his brother Tony to look up to, Tony had followed a path of crime and uncertainty. Although in Tony’s best effort he tried to steer Wes down another path so he did not follow in his footsteps, however, Wes chose to live a life of crime. In Mary’s defense she was blinded by her motherly intuition and made excuses for Wes and believed his word in times of doubt.

The poem "Not Bad, Dad, Not Bad" and the book Farewell to Manzanar have a lot in common about fathers and their kids. One thing that I realized in comparison between these two texts was that kids feel that their fathers don't love them, but the only reason why they are hard on you is cause they do love you. One example of this is in Not Bad, Dad, (7-8) when the speaker says, "you wouldn't win any medals, Dad, but you wouldn't drown. " This quote shows that even if your father isn't the best he still truly cares for you even if it doesn't seem like it.

The tort of intentional infliction of emotional distress may be negligently, intentionally or recklessly caused. The tort ordinarily includes four elements: 1) the defendant must act intentionally or recklessly; in some jurisdictions, where negligent infliction of emotional distress is recognized the defendant may also act negligently; 2) the defendant's conduct must be extreme and outrageous; and 3) the defendant's conduct must be the cause; 4) of severe mental distress. Jurisdictions vary as to what which form of infliction of mental distress they recognize.

Rough times can turn a dysfunctional relationship into an unbreakable bond, however, they can also shatter the sturdiest of relationships, forever. In Elie Wiesel’s legendary book, Night, Wiesel vividly describes his and his father’s lives in the concentration camps during the Holocaust. During the book, the connection between Elie and his father, Shlomo Wiesel, slowly transitions from a broken father-son relationship to the point where they would risk their lives for one another. Initially, when their lives are rather laid-back, Shlomo and Elie do not find much in common with one another, and Shlomo blockades Elie’s highly sought-after scholarly dreams. However, once the Wiesels find themselves in the camp, the impending death of those around them brings life to the bond between them. Finally, the text illustrates many other relationships between fathers and sons being broken by selfish acts. In Night, Elie Wiesel illustrates how stressful times can change a relationship through the Wiesels ruined tie in their hometown of Sighet, the rapid development of their bond in the camps, and the failure of numerous other relations.

“You’re acting like your mom” Alisha says, “I know, I’m sorry, I really don’t mean too.” and Aaron doesn’t, but when you’re raised by a narcissistic, codependent parent you can't help but pick up some of the traits. Being raised in a codependent environment children will not understand the unhealthy relationship habits their parent(s) possess until they form a relationship of their own later in life, and by then the unhealthy habits they’ve picked up from the parent(s) are what the child/young adult has grown to know as normal. It’s up to the children of those types of families to break the codependent cycle and break the bad habits on their own or seek help from a professional. Learning the signs of being a codependent and working to break the habits you've formed in childhood are the only way we can combat the codependency epidemic.

Most mothers and fathers love their kids with all their heart. As a child begins to age, parents begin to influence their kids and will mold them as they mature. However, parents without much care for their kids will leave a long-term effect on their children and in this study, the main impact is the father.

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.” --Sigmund Freud, Standard Edition, 1956

“I hate you!” Most mothers have heard this at least once, as an expression of anger not sincerity. However, a few children direct undeserved rage at previously cherished parent due to a derogatory campaign from the other parent. Parental alienation is the term used to describe behaviors, chiefly during high conflict divorce, of one parent to coerce his child into cruelty against the targeted parent for reasons not based in reality. Because this is such a complex subject, this essay will focus on only some of the tactics alienating parents employ to vilify the other parent and create a loyalty conflict for their child, specifically; disparagement, enmeshment and gatekeeping.

Dailey,( 2009). Studied challenges and conformation from mother and father and their effect on adolescents. Personality of an adolescent is significantly affected by confirmation from father. And self esteem is significantly affected by challenges from mother. Though there is a father confirmation affect on self esteem but it is at earlier stages of adolescence. Greater significance is observed mother challenges at later stages of adolescence. Father influence on adolescent is more at earlier stage of adolescence. As the age increase importance of mother challenges increase . This suggestion made as to why the father‘s confirmation is more influential during the earlier stage of adolescence is the idea that fathers are

I absolutely think that fathers can take care of infants and young children as competently as mothers can. Caring for a child is hard no matter what but I think that a father is just as capable as the mother in caring for a child. I think it has less to do with gender when it comes to caring about a child and more to do with the level of support and willingness to care for the child. I think that society has played a large role in the way that we perceive parents. There are definitely certain gender roles that we expect from parents. Typically, we view the father as being the bread-winner and the mother as being the more hands on parent. I think for these reasons there has been a stereotypical view on the type of care that fathers and mothers