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A boy longs for connection at the same time he feels the need to pull away, and this opens up an emotional divide. This struggle between his need for connection and his desire for autonomy finds different expression as a boy grows. But, regardless of their age, most boys are ill-prepared for the challenges along the road to becoming an emotionally healthy adult. Whatever role biology plays (and that role is by no means clear) in the ways boys are characteristically different from girls in their emotional expression, those differences are amplified by a culture that supports emotional development of girls and discourages it for boys. Stereotypical notions of masculine toughness deny a boy his emotional resources. We call this process,

The literary pieces, Bad Boy and “I Was A Skinny Tomboy Kid”, are similar and different in many ways. Both present common themes that girls and boys are expected to have certain roles. Girls are expected to play with dolls, wear dresses, and care about makeup. Boys play sports, hate books and schooling. As a child, it’s hard to be yourself and show your true colors. Being different is quite difficult. Everyone is expected to be this way or that way, we are all special and unique.

This environment reinforces the adolescent's need to construct a masculine identity as Les Banlieues is a dangerous, threatening society to live in so this reinforces the need for a masculine identity because the adolescents feel that they have succeed in certain situations that requires physical strength and fitness and also tend to express themselves verbally and physically. This is shown after the beginning when Vinz has a banter with Said.

Masculinity is a quality of a man, a man who empowers strength and expertise to achieve goals easier. The essence of being masculine, illustrates powerful behavior, such as courage, and audacity. Stephen, fifteen-year-old pulp-cutter trying to fit into an environment, feeling extremely honored, as his father modeled, "become a man", impels a decent reputation in his father’s

The short story “Nilda”, by Junot Diaz, depicts the ever changing and complicated inner workings of manhood through its two male characters, Yunior and Rafa. The characterization of the two lead to very different outcomes when considering how they both behave initially, and respond to social and emotional stimuli within the story. They both conform to stereotypes within the male gender, and sometimes attempt to escape that confine. Both Rafa and Yunior give the reader a unique insight into what it is like to become a man, and also the way society labels you in ways that may not always apply. The different areas of manhood discussed are both broad in range, yet specific in considering the consequence of each aspect. The range of actions discussed in the story also creates juxtaposition between the two brothers in the story. They are in a similar living and social situation, yet their respective outwardly demeanor and outlook on life is vastly different from one another.

High school, the best years of your life with everyday shaping and molding you from a feminine boy to becoming a respectable masculine adult, in truth its surviving everyday without being called a fag. In C.J. Pascoe’s ethnography she examines the dynamics of masculinity carefully exploring gender conformity that’s extracted from a collection of humiliations, fears and anxieties among high school boys. Within the eighteen months that Pascoe tediously studied the students of River High, she opened my mind to reminisce about my high school years. From the pep rallies in the gym to the weight room discussions, however, Pascoe’s research expressed a deeper meaning to the formation of gender

In the coming of age novel by Gary Soto, A Summer Life, the author writes, “I sprained an ankle, limped for two weeks until the sparks of pain stopped, then I decided I should limp the rest of the summer because girls seemed to notice hurt guys.” (Soto 82)this passage appealed to me tremendously. The main reason being the different ways that the reader could anatomize the text. The sheer syntax of this sentence holds a plethora of meaning. There could be readers who perceive Soto to be writing this excerpt for the sole purpose of proving the point of Gary’s self-consciousness. However, some people might analyze the quote, and read it as a demotion of women because of the way they are said to view men in this specific text. Whichever way the reader might analyze the text, the fact is that Gary immaturely exaggerated his injury for the attention of others.

High school, the best years of your life with everyday shaping and molding you from a feminine boy to becoming a respectable masculine adult, in truth its surviving everyday without being called a fag. In C.J. Pascoe’s ethnography she examines the dynamics of masculinity carefully exploring gender conformity that’s extracted from a collection of humiliations, fears and anxieties among high school boys. Within the eighteen months that Pascoe tediously studied the students of River High, she opened my mind to reminisce about my high school years at El Capitan. From the pep rallies in the gym to the weight room discussions, however, Pascoe’s research expressed a deeper meaning to the formation of gender identities in

What was just imagined was a simple game of dodgeball, but in the mind full of toxic masculinity it is inseparable, it is not a game, it is the real deal, the final stand. The need to feel adequate can overtime cause a deficit internally, making a hollow feeling that the teen cannot express, because it is a sign of weakness, this leads to depression, and possibly suicide. On the flip side, if the boy does try to acknowledge the problem, then he does show his weakness, and others make fun of the boy for it, because he was weak.

How did a boy’s jelousy made him to use drugs to grow muscles and to look better than his friend, so more girls will pay attention to him? This book is about Kalen being jealous of his friend Scout, because scout went to the gym and worked out and created a great body in the summer. When Kalen and Scout see each other after the summer break, Kalen is jealous of Scout’s body. Kalen is concerned of him losing his girlfriend Amber, because she is attracted to muscular boys.

The truth is that a boy’s behavior is shaped more by love than by nature. Another myth is that “Boys should be Boys”, Boys continue to lose self-esteem as the mask of masculinity tightens and they conform to what the world expects from them, interfering with their ability to learn successfully. Pollack not only gives us the problems that face the adolescent boy he also gives us suggestions to remedy and rectify the situation. This is nice instead of simply offering unhelpful statements he truthfully offers the reader a solution. An additional beneficial aspect of Pollack’s writing is the fact that he uses so many references to his research and the research of other notable psychologists instead of overemphasizing the personal instances in his own life. When he wants to stress a point with a real-life person, he uses a third party. When speaking of these conflicting codes that a young man is taught to live by, Pollack says: "Boys have had to learn to walk a fine line”. I realized that our culture is holding boys to incongruous standards aiding the problems that many of them face while in teenage years. Pollack “states that boys hide their true feelings”. So it may seem on the outside that a boy is tough, cheerful, and confident, but really they are sad lonesome and confused. He looks at the “mask” boys has been put on. Also, explains how to get behind that mask. When they are asked if anything is wrong they say no

As a boy grows into a man he faces the ever-raising mountain of masculinity. In regards to the occurrence, he finally reaches maturity he has no choice but in order to fight to retain his measly sense of manhood. He is not allowed to act feminine or else he’s not man enough, he can’t show his emotions, he has to hide that he can do anything a woman can do sans give birth. Boys grow up being told they are not allowed to cry and that they are supposed to be tough, that they are not able to be like girls and in the event that they are then they are not real boys. This concept is known as toxic masculinity, some people are not aware that men are being forced to suppress their emotions or even that toxic masculinity should be a topic that is

When boys are young they are told to toughen up or to stop acting like a girl when they are sad or want to cry. Michael Kimmel, author of “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code, discusses how there is a code guys are supposed to follow and how being taught natural behaviors, such as crying or talking about emotions, are wrong at a young age negatively impacts boys for their whole life. Emily Smith, the author of Life on the Island, talks about how a decrease in places that have a feeling of community increases the suicide rate among men. Everyone tells boys to act a certain way their father, coach, even people they don’t know, but this is not the only place they hear these negative statements. Television and magazine advertisements often depict men in an unrealistic way that feels unachievable and because of this young boys who view these ads feel negatively about themselves and because of the guy code they can’t share their feelings and emotions which can lead to depression or even suicide.

But perhaps the greatest figure of masculinity found in Hemingway’s work is Santiago from The Old Man and the Sea. He keeps his composure and maintains dignity after the fish that he has been fighting is lost to the sharks.

Porter reminiscences about his childhood experiences and how he and other boys were to strictly follow a set of rules that make a man a “man.” No crying or acting weak in front of other men, for instance, would be idealistic for a strong man. Porter even recalls meeting a teen football player who was deeply saddened and wanted to express his emotions. The teen, however, was in front of his guy friends at the time and he just could not express any emotions in front of them because he would seem weak and girlish. Peer pressure and conforming to society has pressured the boy into falling into the trap once again. The teen learned to be tough since everyone else was tough and did not cry. This story is similar to Pollitt’s statement on how “people aspire to what is possible and conform to what is necessary.” The teen aspired to become a strong man but knew he had to conform to society in order to do so. Pressures from other kids and parents play a huge effect on stereotypes. The teen, if he did not conform to society, would be considered an outcast. People ccannot handle the fact of being called an outcast or abnormal.