The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystanders by Barbara Coloroso

In this book the author talks about The differences between a bully, The ones getting bullied, and The bystander. Also the innocent ones feeling guilty and responsible for those being bullied. The part which caught my intention was when the author described why kids don't tell adults about their problems with bullies. I found all her reasons true especially the

When a person is initiating bullying, it often refers to verbal or physical harassment such as fighting, calling names and even black mailing. In fact, researchers and bloggers have mentioned labeling kids, as ”victims and Bullies” does not help discard the situation. It is known to cause children to identify themselves as “victims” and “bullies” and patterns may be repeated. Nonetheless, although social roles such as “Victims and Bullies” can be negative as far as labeling, it has helps understand the source of warning signs and aggressive behavior so it can be managed properly. For example, Warning signs such as constantly speaking negative, getting into a lot of fights, being aggressive and even coming home with scars and bruises. Average shows that potential bullying may occurs during the 4th-12th grade. During these situations some schools have requested organizations and awareness taught during classes to help educate kids on he effects and possible consequences of bullying.

The bully is normally very well known; someone who is just as, if not more, guilty is nearly undetectable. This person is a bystander, and according to Tales of Bullying, being a bystander is just as bad as bullying. Bystanders just join in on the laughing. They don’t even help; they just watch bullying like it’s some sort of comedy show. Bystanders can also be people who are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. They can just as easily turn into a person who stands up to bullies, but they don’t. In the end bystanders are just as, if not more, guilty than the

To bully is to use strength and power to intimidate or harm the ones who are weaker. In the documentary “Bully”, directed by Lee Hirsch, the theme of the film is how many teachers and parents actually do not know what is happening in the lives of the children that they care for. However, there are also so many children who are hesitant to tell anyone that they are being bullied. The film follows the lives of several children who are faced with bullying every day. This film also follows parents whose children have committed suicide. Their lives had become intolerable and no one noticed or someone noticed and they did nothing too late. There are teachers and administrators who are clueless as to what is happening and some just flat out do not want to

The book states "Bullying is done on purpose, with the intent to hurt or embarrass you." This shows that there is no mistake about the act , they're trying to hurt someone. In addition, "...sometimes a bully will corner you in an empty hallway and actually carry them out. But bullying is usually done for others to see. Bullies don't just want to prove their power over you. They also want to make sure that other people know that they have some sort of control over how you feel and act..." So bully make sure someone knows to show that they are powerful and shouldn't be messed

Some people don 't believe that bullying is such a big issue in the world, they think it 's just ‘boys acting like boys’ or ‘girls being girls’. However, when a bully is around they are the ones that draw the line and decide what is fun and what is a gesture that is “intentionally hostile.” A bully is a bully because they get what they want which gives them power; power which enables them to only see the good it brings them and not others.

In the article, "The Making of a Bully", written by Caurie Putnam explains how people who do bully others face negative impacts. Bullies are negatively impacted by a risk of alcohol or drug abuse, abuse towards others and incarceration. Bullies are often considered isolated in which increases such behavior. For most people, they believe that bullies are just bullies but bullies are victims before they bully others. Something they have experienced or been bullied themselves triggers them to bully others to not be a victim anymore.

Over the past couple of decades, schools all across the nation have noticed a significant rise in the amount of bullying taking place among their students. “Two decades ago, bullying was often seen as a rare occurrence, where small groups of parents sought protection for their children with the school district”, stated by Vikki Healy Ortiz, writer of the article “New inclusive approach helps schools fight bullying”. However, the same cannot be said for our society in today’s world. Our modern world has advanced tremendously over the past few decades and there are even more opportunities for children to be susceptible to feeling isolated from others because they are simply unique. In today’s society, children have the potential to bully each other outside of the classroom as well.

The role of bullying encompasses of what actually takes place in school environments and what goes on in communities, families and agencies where children are violent. The authors looks at “A Staging Paradigm” in which the authors divided the violence in patterns and five patterns: repetitive school disruptions (pattern 1), acute case of child aggressor or victim (pattern 2), highly submissive victim or aggressive young student (pattern 3), child with self-injurious or self-defeating behavior (pattern 4), and truants and dropouts (pattern 5). It was noted that bullies are allow to do what they want because bystanders would not intervene and this creates a humiliating experience for the community and the family not to have a peaceful environment ( Weisbroth 2012).

She describes that confronting the bully, by fightback, sharing with friend and family for intervention, are different strategies used by victims. In some case the victim is unable to equalize this power over the bully. Which can prolong, ongoing humiliation dealing with issues, such as divorce in the family, drastic learning disabilities, as well as chronic illness potently can cause a breaking point. Having low self-esteem, depression, and suicidal and homicidal ideations. Some victims carry the hurt of bullying into adulthood. More or less victims tend to lose faith in other people for comfort and support. She contends “the adverse social and emotional consequences of bullying victimization do not support the idea that bullying builds character. Victimization may build character for a tiny proportion of the population.” (Kuykendall 2012). Bullying for the most part can be traumatic and painful should not be silently approved. Bullies hold social power than the victims. However attacks arise from frustration. Provocative victims are typically sincerely sorry and very apologetic after an attack, a reflection of genuine or low self-esteem. True bullies consume high self-esteem.

Sarah is a kind girl, she gets good grades and is what society would think as quite pretty. However, on a daily basis, she is harassed from the time that she wakes up, until the time that she goes to sleep in tears. She has attempted to talk to other adults such as the teachers at the school. Sadly, the bully only got off a warning and Sarah was still tormented day in and day out. This short example shows that schools need to shine more light on the subject of bullying. Schools have “attempted” to take on this idea of bullying by plastering posters one walls along with counselors that try their hardest to help. Nevertheless, this cannot be enough to stop bullying at schools, can it? With the

“I was the shortest child in every grade, cursed with crooked teeth, thick glasses, and a permanent frown. Yet despite (or because of) my “Wednesday Addams” mien, I was never bullied. Except for once. My first week of high school, some older girls stomped around the cafeteria at lunchtime, picking out Grade Niners for mild hazing. Three approached me. Their leader proffered an egg, trembling on a tablespoon. “Walk this from here to there,” she told me, nodding toward the far wall. I swatted the props out of her hand. The egg smacked on the floor. “Clean that up,” I snapped flatly. No one bothered me again for four years.” Kathy’s experience with “bullying” was by no means severe, as such she could believe that every case of bullying can be solved by merely asserting against the opposition. Bullies search for weaker, reserved, more isolated victim, because of this few victims speak out. Bullying is rarely stopped by one instance of aggression against the Bully. Kathy used her personal reflection to add credibility to her article, but this only created a lack of understanding to victims because of her diminutive experience with

One of the many prevalent themes in Apocalyptic Science Fiction is the ongoing presence of science vs. religion. The debate between the two has been studied among society for many years. Though I would argue that this was not always the case. The debate between science and religion began to take place once society began to advance. Moreover when the separation of church and state was accepted. This paper will critically analyse the relationship of science vs. religion. Furthermore, study the presence of this relationship in the following examples; Planet of the Apes, The Machine Stops, and I am Legend.

As more and more children go to school, the rates of bullying go up as time goes by. there are many times at which students suffer all the bullying that occurs within their lives. As more schools become aware of the magnitude of the bullying occurring right under their noses, there are rules created to aid the victim. There are various types of bullying and these are created to do one thing, instill superiority among the “stronger” and place a feeling of inferiority. Bullies are the ones who are detrimental to a child’s development.

The most important step in the student guide to research that I would need to analyze bullying is defining my topic this would give me direction on where to start, be able to understand my topic and what it involves and also have an overview of the topic and be able to make a list of the keywords.