The Bullying The Bullied And The Bystander Book Summary

In John Cloud’s essay “The Myths of Bullying” he talks about the reaction that schools and states have to bullying. Cloud expresses his concerns for bullying and also explains the steps that people are taking to help prevent it. He explains that most of the systems used now are not effective and are making school’s waste money. He then provides his own opinion on how bullying should be approached in school systems. Cloud’s essay not only tries to persuade the reader to his cause but he uses literary elements such as bathos and logos to appeal to and draw in the reader.

I knew nothing about the book except its amazing title and distinct description. I have read many bullying stories, but this one seemed to stand out more compared to most stories. I wanted to read this story because it had something that interested me greatly, on the back Lucy stated that “to feel that more than anything else we want to be loved for who we are, while wishing desperately and secretly to be perfect” I found this quote quite unique in contrast to other books in this genre which intrigued me greatly.

4. The theme of this book is when kids bully or pick on other kids they think it’s a joke. No one is hurt but it affects them for a long time, and after time the bully’s think they did nothing wrong to you, and clam they were nice and your best friend. “Maybe other people made fun of you, but I was

In this article John Clouds starts out with a story of a high school student who walked into his school cafeteria and 5 students 3 died. The student was a 17 year old boy named T.J. Lane at first was called an outcast. However later on was considered a well socialized boy with a good group of friends. However as a child both of lanes parents were arrested for domestic violence. Motives for the killings still remain a mystery, but many believed that Lane had been bullied. Even the president’s spokesman stated “a bullied kid had struck back. “

“This book is important to us because it is an anti-bullying book,” said Chris Hernandez in regards to the importance of their second book. “Our family has learned first hand how being bullied can truly damage you as

Bystander is worse. Well a bully is bad but when you’re not helping somebody that is getting bullied you’re a lot worse. When somebody gets bullied if you try to help them you are a good person. But if you don’t tell the bully to stop or tell a teacher you are the one who is acting like a bully. When you see somebody getting bullied you should go tell a teacher or a responsible adult or even trying to stop the bully yourself. But that is you last option.

Imagine the archetypal bullying scene: the bully, with a controlling and self-assured presence, looms over a defeated and abject victim. Not every instance of bullying follows this quintessential pattern- with the widespread usage of social media, a physical presence is no longer the only way to intimidate and harass a victim- but every scene has one aspect in common: the shadows lingering in the background. These shadows are bystanders, the silent spectators of bullying. They watch it unfold on their Twitter feeds or in the crowded hallways and do nothing to stop it.

You are like a star, an fascinating, indestructible, beautiful force, that everyone loves. A bully is an attention Craver, a master of hurting humans, and empty heart carrier. Students can be bullied or become bullies in many ways. Students are bullied because of many reasons, like being smart, popular, good at what they do, or even because they have disabilities, according to www.verywell.com. Students can become bullies by previous bullying, home issues, and many other reasons according to An Overview of Bulling. Being a bully is clearly worse than being a bystander as a result of, craving attention and power, tremendous amount of guilt, intentional actions, and consequences.

However, teachers are not the only ones helping the victims. Several research studies have looked at the role of bystanders in bullying students. Teachers and students who witness bullying can work together to reduce bullying in schools and classrooms. But there is also evidence that those who were bystanders were not willing to help the victims (Espelage, Green, & Polanin, 2012). Students often do not support victims when there are multiple witnesses (Salmicalli, 2010). Students expect someone else to intervene or ignore the victim or may consider the bullying to be a joke ( Terasahjo & Salmivalli, 2003). Consequently, bullied victims feel that they are not only suffering pain from being bullied, but also from being ignored by peers (Salmavalli & Poskirparta, 2012).

The case study, Survivors of School Bullying: A Collective Case Study was done to help explain different types of coping and defensive strategies students’ use, specifically junior high students within a school environment. The main researcher Octavio Ramirez recorded data taken by each individual student and then generated a list that summed their strategies as either preventive strategy or reactive strategy to bullying.

“Your clothes are ugly.” “Your hair is in a mess.” “Gross, you need to shave.” The smallest things could make such a big impact on someone. A lot of people are bullied in different ways like, cyber, physical, or verbal. Bullies are worse than bystanders because they are the ones who start doing the damage on someone. For an example, some people have never experienced bullying, and so when they do they start making the victim’s life worse and it may be suicide. Bullies also make the person feel bad about their self. These were just a couple of things.

I have found out that my friendship 'group' are secretly bullying a close friend of mine. I am the only one who knows and I feel torn about what I should do. However, my friend's parents are suspicious of what is happening as well as my parents. My friend already feels terrible and doesn't want to go to school. I like my old friend and my new friends, and I want to stay friends with them both. Because no one knows about the bullying, I can tell no one and let the bullying continue, without anything bad happening to me; but who knows what my friend will do. But I know the right thing to do would be to tell a trusted adult about the bullying, so that it will stop. I really like both of my friends, and I want to remain friends with them both. I am in conflict about what I should do; tell a trusted adult about the bullying and live by my values, honesty and doing the right thing, or turn my back in these values and tell no one.

Did you know that most bullying’s occur in hallways, cafeterias, and gyms? Bullying is unacceptable and can happen anywhere. Bullying’s are horrible in schools and it needs to stop now! The bully is physical, doesn’t tell anyone, and makes people want to hurt themselves. That’s why bullies are worse than bystanders.

bullying. For exploring what psychology bystander may have, this article also researches total 409 children from the “third to seventh grade participated” in doing the Questionnaire in this study in order to describe the possible roles played in school bullying (353). As a result, most of the children showing they are playing bystander role in school bullying (354). However, they also find a relationship between bystander and gender. In addition, they found strong relationship between being a bystander and the other roles played in school bullying. Sometimes, bystanders’ behavior kind of “encourage” those people who have antagonistic psychology causing

Spring of 1964 marked the motivation and reason for what is now called, The Bystander Effect. The Bystander Effect was theorized by social psychologists, Bibb Latane and John Darley. Together, the two created, “the theory of social impact, designed to explain the division of responsibility within large groups” (Bibb Latane 2001). It was on March 13, 1964 that Latane and Darley furthered their research after four social experiments and the murder of New York resident, Catherine Susan Genovese. Reports concluded that nearly 40 neighborhood bystanders heard her cries, but did nothing to assist in what could have been a rescue to save her life. The research from nobullying.com concluded that the results of the four studies simply implied that friends would help each other, but would not get involved in the events of strangers (nobullying.com 2014). Latane and Darley’s research concluded that bystanders are the cause of three factors (Latane 2001): 1. Fail to notice or recognize the emergency. 2. Fail to interpret the incident as something that warrants intervention. Bystanders may also refuse to help if they don't empathize with the victim or view the victim as someone worthy of help. 3. Assume someone else will