The Compromised Parenting Approach

These are all good questions that could each be a research paper. Some of them I feel a rhetorical in that they just don’t have an answer. Either way, they should feel the soul with anger at the thought of so much suffering that doesn’t need to happen. Most of these questions get at something that could be preventable if stopped at thought about for a moment. The question regarding corporate America influence the values of our children should make us think about parenting. Corporate America raising kids and not parents is something that is preventable in so many ways. Here is an idea, stop letting children watch so much television and go outside and play. To add to that idea, educating and inspiring parents to be parents. Not all these questions

All parents are faced with multiple, daily child-rearing tasks, and on one hand some face unreliable transportation, unsteady work and unreliable cash inflow. Yet, the poor families have to work harder to execute their goals. Working-class and poor families may have more environmental concerns that affect their daily life; therefore affecting the time they are able to spend supervising their children’s activities. • Interactions with Institutions and

It is believed that parents of young children tend to be younger themselves, and therefore have less career experience causing them to earn less money (Fass, 2006). This means that younger children in severe need of parental support to develop literacy skills will often miss

Some parents are unable to look after their children because of their own substance misuse or poor parenting skills.

She also talks about how middle class parenting differs from the other social class. The middle class parents mostly dominate the lives of their children while the working class parents cannot concentrate that much on their kids. She also brought a name for this phenomena called “Concerted Cultivation”.

Growing up with substance abuse parents can potentially put the children at risk for developmental deficiencies. Parents who are substance dependent are oftentimes focus on themselves over their children, and this leads to neglecting the children. Without the attachment with the parents, children are lack of security and trust to explore the outside world. According to Erik Erikson, children develop at different stage. Infants are totally dependent on their parents. If parents provide the good care and support to the children, they will develop the basic trust to their parents and the world, otherwise, they will feel insecure and develop mistrust instead. This mistrust may cause problems later in life. As children begin to grow and navigate the challenges of adolescence, parental substance abuse has a direct impact on their well-being, as well as their behavior. Teenagers are eager to seek their identities. Yet, growing up with mistrust, inferiority, and shame

The article talks about how some mothers who gave up their employment to monitor their children’s studies and also go to school with them, just to make sure their children succeed. Parents even monitor their children’s five plus hours of nightly homework. Children aren’t allowed to watch television until the homework is done.

Reading this book shows how social class status of a child’s parents matters. One of the big issues was how it matter in school success. Chapter 1 talks about the difference between Concerted Cultivation and the Accomplishment of Natural Growth. Concerted Cultivation is a middle class child rearing technique they use on a child to improve their child talents. The middle class parents use this technique to schedule activities for their child. Parents also practice language with their child. Middle class parents let their child find agreement with them. Lareau states that middle class parents also takes more consideration with authorities that are associated with their children. For example, when a parent is not comfortable with the teacher’s way of teaching, middle class parents would directly speak with that

Lacking in such skills as a student, or adult for that matter, can cause serious issues, “the number of students in crisis coming in for help has increased sharply—from 647 in the 2014–2015 academic year to 906 [in the 2015-2016 school year]. And the number of students needing medical transports for psychiatric evaluation has also risen, from 120 in the 2014–2015 academic year to 134 last year” (Brown). These incidents are most likely caused by none other than over-parenting. With a student’s parent unable to assist the now incapable problem solver, the child, unfit for such stress and analytical processing, simply cannot handle what is expected of them and essentially breaks down. Similarly, “teens [with hovering parents] might be more likely to participate in sexual activities, drinking or drug abuse. Teens often test the boundaries of their overprotective parents because these children have likely not developed a sense of responsibility for their actions” (Hewitt). Almost on the other end of the spectrum, these are people who have never done anything individual and feel the need to test the waters. However, these teens, unlike the college students, do not break down when not in the presence of their parents, they go wild. With their newly found freedom they are expected to do irresponsible things, and due to their parents taking the liability for everything previously, be bewildered at the overwhelming penalties they have to uphold. These teens may not have crumpled without their parents, but without any knowledge of punishment, they would crumble under the justice system. In both of these cases over-parenting has proved to be the factor that causes the downfall of the child. The parents’ overactivity, the thing they saw as protecting their child, is now destroying

Firstly, the rise in temporary employment over the few years has meant that parents, who find work, are in employed in one or several

Per Alati, Baker, Betts, Connor, Little, Sanson, and Olsson (2014), heavy parental alcohol consumption has played a role in early alcohol consumption of adolescents between twelve and fifteen years old. Mothers who drink heavily when their children are young also contribute to the development of an alcohol disorder in male adolescents and young adults (Alati et al, 2014). Parental use and abuse of drugs and alcohol is associated with adolescents as young as twelve years of age experimenting with drugs and alcohol (Sittner, 2015). Parents who use drugs and alcohol demonstrate to their children that drug and alcohol use is normal and acceptable. Thus, adolescents believe there is nothing wrong with using drugs and alcohol because their parents are using drugs and alcohol. In addition to parental substance use contributing to adolescent substance use, poor parent-child relationships also play a

• Uninvolved parenting: children of uninvolved parents develop a sense that other aspects of the parents’ life are more important than they are. The child often attempt to provide for themselves, sometimes halt dependence on the parent to have a feeling of independence and mature beyond their years. Child from this environment often withdraw from social situations, this also impacts there relationships later on in life and they show patterns of truancy and delinquency.

All families want their children to be happy, healthy, and grow. Social classes make a difference in how parents go about meeting this goal. In Annette Lareau book, Unequal Childhoods: Class, Race, and Family Life, she promotes middle class parents as concerted cultivation. Middle class parents encourage their children’s talents, opinions, and skills. For example, engaging their children in organized activities and closely monitoring children’s experiences in school. According to Lareau, middle class children gain an emerging sense of entitlement through this pattern of converted cultivation. This causes a focus on children’s individual development. There are signs that the middle class children gain advantages from the experience of concerted cultivation. However, the working class and poor children do not gain this advantage.

This stress can sometimes lead to an increase in risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use. Not uncommon, the newly single parent may find that they are more easily depressed or experience an increase in anxiety. When parental abilities begin to break down the opportunity arises for the children to also dabble in risky behaviors. As stated in the International Encyclopedia of Marriage and Family, “children in single parent homes tend to have higher absentee reports and higher dropout rates”.

This strain of research developed from the paper of Baumrind (1991). In this work, Baumrind predicts that authoritative parents are more likely to be able to protect their children from substance use. A general observation from many researchers is that children thrive developmentally when the family environment is