The Dark Side Of An Unhealthy Relationship

As for Michele Paddon, creator of the Women’s program currently delivered by Changing Ways, she describes in her book abuse as the use of "[...] words, actions or behaviours – on purpose and repeatedly – with the intention of gaining control over that person" (Paddon, 2015). She also establishes three different dimensions of domestic violence, based on the work of Michael P. Johnson: common couple violence (CCV), intimate terrorism and violent resistance (VR).

Much of the writing and public discuss on domestic violence suggests that a woman who escapes a violent relationship is almost always in serious physical danger, and therefore needs a shelter of some sort to escape from a mate who will eventually harm her again repeatedly. An interesting article titled "

Intimate partner violence is characterized not only by physical violence, but also sexual, emotional, and mental violence through the use of threats (Understanding Intimate Partner Violence, 2011). In Black and Blue, Anna Quindlen delves into the mind of a woman who faces intimate partner violence in her everyday life. Fran, or Beth, and her son attempt to get away from Fran’s abusive cop husband. While Black and Blue is a fiction novel, its points about intimate partner violence hold true in many cases such as the breaking of traditional gender roles, high levels of stress, alcohol overconsumption, and learned behavior.

www.womenhelpingwomen.org is a website that provides information, facts, statistics, and help for women who suffer the fear of abusive relationships; the information provided in this site, relates closely to the ideas represented in Lynn Nottage’s play.

“Violent or aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.” Domestic violence happens everywhere and anywhere across the world. 691, 710 nonfatal violent crimes caused by and intimate partner in 2001 (Domestic Violence: Opposing Viewpoints 18). It affects all of us in the worst way. There could be someone you know going through this and you wouldn’t even know about it. That’s why people need to be more educated about domestic violence. To know the signs and the red flags and help everyone around them, because sometimes you don’t notice people in difficult situations. Which leads to tragic outcomes. The victims get their life destroyed by someone they know. Losing hope for the future. Therefore,

Many women struggle to overcome obstacles in their lives. Sometimes they find it difficult to leave abusive relationships and end up never leaving. But some women are brave or work up the courage to take a stand and leave the situation. In the short story, “Women Hollering Creek”, Sandra Cisneros explains the theme of the story by telling about a woman who’s husband abuses her.

A safety plan is an essential tool for people to use to assist women or men in domestic violence relationships. A safety plan helps explore and map out options and ideas to promote safety when domestic violence or family violence has occurred. This could prevent careless actions from happening such as not knowing where to go, or becoming the aggressor. Taking these precaution can help save the lives of women or men in an event of a violent episode of rage or frustration. It is important for the victim to strategize what are their alternatives and identify triggers of what causes the violence, in order to prevent it from happening. A safety plan needs to be tailored to the individual needs and should promote safety at any moment of altercation. A safety plan encourages building a trustworthy relationship that may help the victim coupe with the situation by exchanging thoughts and ideas. This relationship is an essential resource for the victim, as violence could happen at any time. A safety plan could encourage many women to finally get the boldness to leave their partners, but there are certain resource women need to be successful. In the novel “Black and Blue” Frannie Benedetto suffered horrible abuse by her police officer husband, Bobby. Frannie finally get the valor to leave him when she realizes that her abuse will never stop, no matter how good she is to her husband. Fran decide to runaway with her son Robert. She takes on the identity of someone

The first guest speaker to present was Doreen Lesane, an Advocate against Domestic Violence. She gave a general power point presentation on what domestic violence is and how to properly assist a client in that predicament. She goes on to explain that domestic abuse and domestic violence are consider two different forms under the law. The law does not recognize domestic abuse as a criminal act and is categorize as nonphysical form of abuse. As a social worker our goals is not to get the client to flea an abuse relationship but to provided serveries to better Accommodate client by helping them create safety nets. Prof. Elaine Reid makes a startling claim, woman are more likely to be murder when they are trying to leave an abuse spouse, and this is also refer as separation violence. Nevertheless it is important not to judge these individual and to handle the case in a professional matter. As social workers it is essential that we safety guide our client with their approval, out of domestic situation by providing resource, support, understanding and professional services.

On average,in the United States, twenty people per minute are physically abused by their partner. Which if you make the math, that is more than ten million women and men. In the short story, “ It will look like a Sunset” by Kelly Sundberg, she effectively asserts her targeted audience which consists on couples and mainly young women in their late twenties who are in a relationship. Sundberg supports her assertions by appealing to ethical, emotional, and logical examples as well as using rhetorical strategies. The author's main purpose is to urge the readers to accept life is complicated and anyone who faces a similar situation should seek help because you may not be in the right state of mind to make the right decision.

When a woman is in an abusive relationship, the first thing someone looking from the outside in will say is, “Why doesn’t she just leave?” It varies from situation to situation, but no matter what, it isn’t just a walk in the park to escape. To fully understand why one can’t just leave, you must understand why people stay, the immediate consequences, and the long term recovery. When a woman stays in an abusive relationship, many conflicting emotions are involved. The emotion that umbrellas all others is fear.

“According to a study by Coker et al. (2002), 29% of women (n = 6,790) and 23% of men (n = 7,122) experienced physical, sexual, or psychological IPV (Intimate partner violence) during their lifetime.”(Cite???) In Atwood’s “Siren Song” the speaker plays the role of an abuser and forces the reader to be exposed to an abusive relationship. Margaret Atwood uses language in her poem “Siren Song” to reveal the sinister tone of the speaker and to communicate an abusive relationship.

While not a somatic assault, emotional abuse can cause lasting effects on a woman’s health, so much so that researcher, B. Van Houdenhove and others working on the project have found “that emotional abuse and neglect may be contributing factors to the development and/or severity of illnesses such as chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia” (Karakurt and Silver). Finally, emotional abuse is a rampant issue, Karakurt and Silver report that “Psychological aggression by an intimate partner was reported by 48.4% of women,” which was found in the National Intimate Partner & Sexual Violence Survey (“Emotional Abuse in Intimate Relationships: The Role of Gender and Age”). Nearly half of the population of women report being victims to psychological abuse, making it a widespread epidemic faced by not only women in dystopian novels but also real life. Psychological abuse can take many verbal and non-verbal forms, which can put great strain on a woman’s health, and affects nearly half the population of the United States.

Every choice that an abused woman considers to do with regards in seeking help or ending the relationship involves a variety of risks. Time and time again, the common question arises, “why doesn’t she just leave?” Most often abused women, at great and potentially fatal risk, do leave their abusive relationships. However, there is a multitude of barriers, including increasing abuse and the potential for re-victimization by the system that does not respond accordingly, and most often force many women to return to their abusers. A woman may become vulnerable as she goes through the stages of leaving her abuser. There are many reasons why a woman becomes vulnerable; guilt, denial, and fear may be among a few reasons, though no matter what the

Every year in the United States, One in four women are victims of the domestic violence; however, this is only based on what has been reported to the department of justice (Stahly 2008). While men are also victims of domestic violence, women are more often the victims. Moreover, 90% of domestic violence is male initiated. In severe cases domestic violence ends with victims being murdered. More specifically, domestic violence resulted in 2,340 deaths in the United States in 2007, and 70% of those killed were females (CDC 2012). Many people think that victims have the option of leaving and many people blame victims for putting up with the abuse; what many people don 't know is, victims of domestic violence have many reasons preventing them from leaving their abusers, these reasons include, isolation, having children bounding them with the abuser and lack of financial support. "It 's never pretty when you leave an abusive and controlling relationship. The warden always protests when a prison gets shut down," says Dr. Steve Maraboli (qtd from web). Whether a victim stays or leaves their abuser, the outcomes of both situations are not always as easy as many people predict. In some situations, the outcomes of leaving may be very dangerous for both the victim and her children.

Have you ever imagined being a child brought up in an abusive home but still trusting that there was hope? It can be complicated to believe that hope does exist when there is no type of love or affection given to you by the individuals you look up to the most. The short story, “A Dark Brown Dog,” by Stephen Crane, shows that even in an abusive relationship one can find love using character, conflict and climax.