Grief Reflection Grief is a natural thing that everyone will experience in some way or another. Everyone experiences and handles grief in different ways. I have experienced grief a couple of times in my life when my grandfather passed away, my best friend passed away, and when my dad left and each time I handled my grief in a different way. I’m going to focus my essay on the death of my best friend because it was the most recent and had the biggest impact on me. My best friend passed away last year when he was hit by a drunk driver. This really had an impact on me because he was my emotional support, my go to, my everything. Recovering after his death was a really long process and at times I feel like I am still not fully healed from it. There are five stages in grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. I followed these 5 steps in the order they are listed. After Hunter got hit his mom called me to go to the hospital and say goodbye. When she called I couldn’t believe it. I was shaking and numb. The ride to the hospital seemed like it took hours. I don 't even remember walking into the hospital or the doctors talking to me. When I walked into the ICU room I was expecting to see Hunter all cheerful and happy and this all be a cruel joke, but he wasn’t. Five minutes after I said my goodbyes to him he passed away. I remember everyone asking me how I felt and I honestly couldn 't even comprehend how I felt because I hadn’t even comprehend that he was gone,
The book Andrew You Died Too Soon by Corinne Chilstrom gives insight on grief after a husband and wife’s youngest son, Andrew, kills himself with a firearm in their basement. Personally, I do not remember a time when I personally had to grieve but I have been in many situations where I have had to comfort those who were grieving. Through out the book there were several chapters that stuck out to me and made me take a minute to reflect on views of grief.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross identified five stages of grief: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, and acceptance. Developmental psychologists have learned that not everyone experiences all of the stages in response to loss, and that they can alternate, and even overlap. Overall, the goal is to accept and move through the changeable process, not to “finish grieving.”
In this essay I will outline the main theoretical models relating to loss and grief.
The five stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance - are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Firstly, What is grief? How does it affect you? Is there a right way or a wrong way? These are all commonly asked questions about grief. Grief is the body's natural way of healing after loss. That loss can be a grandparent, a friend, sibling, or even a parent. According to Children's Grief Awareness day statistics, one of out every 20 kids will lose one or even
Grief is the act following the loss of a loved one. While grief and bereavement are normal occurrences, the grief process is a social construct of how someone should behave. The acceptable ways that people grieve change because of this construct. For a time it was not acceptable to grieve; today, however, it is seen as a necessary way to move on from death (Scheid, 2011).The grief process has been described as a multistage event, with each stage lasting for a suggested amount of time to be considered “normal” and reach resolution. The beginning stage of grief is the immediate shock, disbelief, and denial lasting from hours to weeks (Wambach, 1985). The middle stage is the acute mourning phase that can include somatic and emotional turmoil. This stage includes acknowledging the event and processing it on various levels, both mentally and physically. The final stage is a period of
Grief is an emotion that we have which is very complex and often misunderstood. Unfortunately, grief is something that we all will experience in our lives at one time or another. We will all experience loss in our lives. The stages of grief are the same whether it be through the death of a loved one, divorce, or some other loss. There are five stages of grief. It is said that if we get stuck in one of the stages, the process of grieving is not complete, and cannot be complete. This means that a person will not complete the entire healing process when there is a loss in their life. A person must go through all five stages of grief to be well again, and to fully heal. Not everyone goes through the stages at the same time. It is different for
Dealing with grieving is something that all people will face in their lifetime, it's unavoidable. There's a lot more people grieving right now than you know, who knows, someone in your classroom might be going through grief. Grief is something that can change the way a person perceives life as they know it, though you might be having a good day, The quiet kid in the back of your class could be coming to terms that life isn't worth a whole lot because he lost a family member or close friend. I know it seems harsh, but it's the truth. There's a lot of different feelings that a person may experience when dealing with grief. Some people may curl up in a ball and cry, some people may fall into a deep and silent depression, and some people may not have too much of a bad time but still feel very down in the dumps.
Theories and models that have been developed to explain how or why we feel what we do and ways of working through grief. Many professionals have expanded on Freud’s model of bereavement, which emphasises that grief about personal attachments and the process of experiencing pain, detaching from the deceased and rebuilding a new life with them (Walsh, 2012). Margaret Stroebe and Hank Schut’s model attempts to explain how people alternate from intense pining and normality for the dead person (Walsh, 2012). Psychologist J. William Worden’s stage-based model outlines four tasks of grief, to: accept, work through, adjust, maintain and move on (Worden & Winokuer, 2011). Therese Rando’s model outlines how people proceed through six phases of mourning in order
The loss of a loved one is a very crucial time where an individual can experience depression, somatic symptoms, grief, and sadness. What will be discussed throughout this paper is what the bereavement role is and its duration, as well as the definition of disenfranchised grief and who experiences this type of grief. I will also touch upon the four tasks of mourning and how each bereaved individual must accomplish all four tasks before mourning can be finalized. Lastly, with each of these topics, nursing implications will be outlined on how to care for bereaved individuals and their families.
Losing a loved one is like having the rug swept from under you. We make plans for the day, and do not think twice about how those plans can be taken away in the blink of an eye. I never thought much about it myself, until I was faced with the shock, and undeniable truth of my uncle’s death. I do not think anyone really thinks about tragedy until they are actually faced with shocking news. It is amazing how we take life for granted. The tragedy never goes away. You just learn how to cope with it and keep moving on.
In the midst of undergoing a serious life-altering incident, one often experiences the feeling of a paradigm shift. It is amazing to see how our perspectives of the world shift when forced to reflect on what is truly important. Such is the way with death. Being near death causes a sharp realization of what is truly important in life--love of family and friends, faith in God, and making the world a better place to live in--and enables one to not merely accept this, but apply it to their life as well. All those typical, average daily worries and concerns about homework, professional careers, food, sleep, personal grooming, etc., while important and necessary in everyday life must seem unbelievably miniscule when the death has wiped ones
It is amazing how many things we take for granted. We make plans for the day, and don't think twice about how those plans can be taken away in the blink of an eye. I never thought much about it myself, until I was faced with the shock, and undeniable truth of my cousin's death. I don't think anyone really thinks about tragedy until they are actually faced with shocking news.
Have you ever had someone that was close to you die? I have had pets that I was close to die, but not someone I saw on weekly bases, until my great grandfather died. Death is something everyone experiences some time in their lifetime and people deal with it in many different ways. In the August of 2016, I was forced to learn how I was going to learn to deal with it.
Have you ever had someone in your life who helped you figure out who you were? Someone who showed you the right path. Someone who was there right next you even if you did not take that path. Someone who always seemed to be right, but never held it against you when you were not. Someone whom without your life would most likely be entirely different. I have. Her name was Jessica.
The poem that I have selected for this essay is “Talking to Grief” by Denise Levertov. I chose this poem because it talks about grief. It also talks about the place that grief should have in a person’s life. The poem describes grief, and compares it to a “homeless dog.” It also describes how a dog deserves its own place in the house, instead of living under a porch or being homeless. This poem talks about how a person can be aware that grief is present, but that it is not always acknowledged and accepted. We all experience grief in different ways, and for different reasons. Everyone deals with grief in their own personal way. This poem describes a point in a person’s life when they are ready to accept grief as a part of their life