The Divorce Of Christian People

[…the Creator ‘made them male and female...] ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mathew 19.5-6).

Many legal and financial advantages can be attained through marriage. Instead of getting married after high school, people tend to go to college, get their life together, and then marry. The average groom is now thirty-seven and bride thirty-four (Discuss). According to Associated Press Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, “41 percent of spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional.” Couples these days aren’t communicating the proper way. Instead they get mad at each other and ignore one another. One or both people in the relationship have “checked out”, but they don’t want to divorce for the sake of the children. Or they still love each other, valuing each other as a support system and as close friends, but don’t feel that intimacy toward one another. As said in a marriage article from faqs.org, “The study, by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University, found that the marriage rate among Americans is at its lowest point ever. Over the last forty years, the rate has fallen forty-three percent. In addition, fewer people are reporting themselves as being “very happy” in their marriages.” Today, most wedding ceremonies involve a religious service, which contains many traditional features that are significant to their cultures. Christian’s services contain wording that has been unchanged since the

Growing up children are surrounded with a fairy tale life, the ‘happily ever after.’ As girls we are supposed to wait for our prince charming and he will love us forever; and for boys it is finding and rescuing a beautiful princess who can cook, clean, and is loved by all creatures. That is what marriage is based off of as a child, but that perspective changes once we get a small grasp of the concept of love and we really see what marriage is. Marriage is not something anyone goes into lightly and maybe our expectations of the fairy tale life are why divorce is so commonly sought.

The United States of America is the land of the free and the home of the brave; however, it can also be called the country that holds the highest divorce rates. America’s divorce rate in 2010 was at forty one percent and is still currently growing (Divorce Rates by Country). Forty percent of these divorces had children involved (Divorce Rates in America). With such shocking statistics, it is easy to see that America’s divorce system is in dire need of change. Since divorce can ruin families, harm a child’s all around well-being, and holds the potential of being prevented, there should be more strict regulations to receive a divorce and a stronger push for covenant marriages.

In over half a century, marriage has transformed from being a social requirement to simply being an option in today’s society. What has caused this change? Many institutions in our society have changed drastically along with marriage. Although these institutions have not caused marriage to be optional, they do strongly correlate with the decreased value. The economy, education, religion, and government have all altered since the 1950s. When any institution encounters a change, all other institutions are affected. Family is a major institution in society, and I believe that marriage is an important aspect of this institution. Cohabitation, religion, women in the work world and divorce have all effected the way marriage is viewed today.

According to Köstenberger and Jones, God, Marriage, and Family, the western civilization is confronted with the need to define the meaning of the terms marriage and family (. p.15). I do believe that we as people got away from the design God intended for marriage and family. I never grew up with my father in the home and my parents never were married. My mother did marry but I never saw their marriage the way God intended for marriage and family to be according to His Word. The home was so dysfunctional that I developed emotional problems that carried into my adult life. As an adult I never knew I had problems until I got married myself. Even in my marriage it was not geared to what God intended. My ex-husband grew up with his father and mother in the home but did not learn about marriage and family God’s way. His father was very abusive to his mother and it was carried into our home. Both of us has two different beliefs on marriage and family. He believed that the wife has no voice and she

The scriptural definition of marriage in the bible is “A holy covenant before God, which can also be an eternal relationship between a man and a woman.” (KJV) This simple definition is believed to be a controversial meaning in Biblical scripture. The dictionary definition of marriage from www.merriam-webster.com states that “Marriage is the state if being united to a person of the opposite gender/sex in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.” In society, the sentimental value of marriage has severely decreased over the past 95 years. Statistically proven in 2014, the divorce rate of Americans in the United States is sadly higher than the marriage rate. In a survey taken in February of 2014, taken by www.huffingtonpost.com, “The marriage rate of all Americans in the U.S. was 92.3 percent. In 2014, it was sadly recorded that the marriage rate of all Americans was only 31.1 percent. The divorce rate for all first marriages recorded for the U.S. is currently at approximately 60 percent. (Huffington Post) It was said by people in our society that “The top three reasons for getting married under the age of 25 are; 1.Teen pregnancy 2. To escape parents 3.They feel they are running out of time.” (ezihearticles.com) “The average age for a male to get married is approximately 29 years of age, as the average for a female to get married is approximately 27 years of age. With this, the average age for

Dr. Dobson’s “Marriage Under Fire” book is a must read for all Christians, due to the gay marriage onslaught brought on by secular society. In his writing, Dr. Dobson gives concrete evidence for traditional marriage between one man and one woman as God designed it from the beginning of time. He also discusses how we have come to this point in the relationship crisis of our day and why we must take a stand for what is right (traditional marriage). This book has five chapters that can be applauded for its content; however, the first three – “The State of Our Unions”, “How Did We Get In This Mess?” and “Why We Must Win This Battle” are key to understanding true marriage and the dilemma of homosexual unions and the detrimental state in which it will have on humanity.

“Marriage is the way in which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.” (Vatican) In today’s world divorce has become a rather recurring theme. Men and women marry younger and younger, and in many cases it has nothing to do with love. In these cases people marry for selfish reasons such as sexual desires, pride, or principal. These reasons have nothing to do with love and marriage should not be built upon them.

Religion and the Bible encourage, and perhaps demand marriage from two individuals to create them as one. The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him (Genesis 2:18)".  "That at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate (Mathew: 19:4-6)". Why does religion place such an importance on a union of marriage? An answer is suggestively related as to why automobile and health insurance companies provide a discount on their policies when filing married. According to State Farm Auto Insurance, two married individuals are much more likely to accept upon themselves responsibility, maturity, and a longer healthier and more satisfying life. Insurance agencies believe your life will be more structured and meaningful, to provide you with a policy. Living alone or entering and departing unstable casual

Marriage is considered an “out dated” tradition that has no place in the modern world. So why do people feel like marriage is the ultimate goal to achieve? Matrimony is an institution very few people can be good at. Surprisingly, almost half of all marriages end up in a divorce. Marriage is a union of two individuals in a personal relationship. A plethora of qualities is needed to fulfill a high level of happiness in a caring and intimate marriage. The paradigm for marital structures has drastically changed in modern America; communication is a vital part to find a clear and collective solution to save a marriage in modern times.

God made his heart concerning marriage and the family unit clear in the book of Genesis as it states that, “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let not man separate.’’(KJV)

In the Christian religion, there are two basic laws allowing divorce without the commitment of sin, infidelity and marriage to a nonbeliever whom has abandoned the commitment. However, in today’s society divorce has become a very common thing, as people decide to split part in their many marital dissolutions, and only one of these are considered to be a top five reasons why married couples actually divorce. Furthermore, infidelity or parting upon religious conversions only take upon circumstances of high sin in the views of the Christian God, rather than depicting compelling rational views that affect couples in everyday life.

Christian Marriage, also called Matrimony is a sacrament in which a man and a woman publicly declare their love and fidelity in front of witnesses, a priest or minister and God. The It is seen by all Christian churches as both a physical and spiritual fulfillment. Christianity emphasises that the sacrament of Holy Matrimony is a lifetime commitment. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate."' —Matthew 19:6.

The law defines divorce as ¡§a legal dissolution of the marriage contract by a court or other body having competent authority. This is properly a divorce, and called, technically, divorce a vinculo matrimonii. ``from the bond of matrimony.'' (b) The separation of a married woman from the bed and board of her husband -- divorce a mensa et toro (or thoro), ``from bed board.''¡¨ Does this definition follow that of the Bible?