The Downfall Of My Family

Divorce is not only difficult for parents, but even more difficult for the children. It can hit hard and fast but can also be built up from long term damage and stress on the marriage. Children can view their parent’s divorce in multiple ways. They can visually see it, or they can hear it. Children may also not view the divorce at all. Divorce can be sudden, confusing, and hidden. It can be a quick and relieving process, or it could be slow and painful. The relationship could be fought for night after night with little progress being made. The marriage could be fought verbally or even physically. Hurtful words are thrown to bring an end to the relationship and caring words are thrown to keep the marriage alive.

Different people have different reactions to divorce. Those who initiated the marital separation may be overjoyed and satisfied with whatever turn out the divorce may have led to. Those who do not want the said separation may end up devastated, crushed, or even hopeless. If you belong to this second group of divorces, it is time for you to realize that you do not have to mope around all the time. This is the time to realize that now that you are finally free, you can finally have a new life to start

I used myself as an example of effects on a woman of divorce. I have five children, was married three times, and divorced twice. The effects on myself were the same but I handled it better. Being divorced was scary at first because I had children to raise. I was depressed because I would find myself lonely at times and I started to question my worth. Divorce had its positive side for me also. It made me excited for the future and I was happy to get back to knowing myself. Not every divorce has the same effects that we experienced. Some people can’t find it in themselves to get over the divorce. Location can affect the divorce rate. The divorce rate is highest in the South. Overall with 10.2 and 11.1 divorces per 1,000 men and women respectively, while its 7.2 and 7.5 in the northeast. The national average rate of divorce is 9.2 and 9.7 per 1,000 for men and women, based on a 2009 US Census report.McGowan,H.(2011). The stigma associated with divorce seems to be easing somewhat in society in general and even in families where divorce is rare or unheard of , couples are more willing to terminate the marriage instead of remaining together just to escape

Divorce shatters a women 's self esteem. The support of family and friends is very important; however it is very healing to share experiences and gain insight from those who have been through this unique type of grief. Patients need assistance to get to the place of acceptance and find closure in order to move on.

The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce from her family and friends. Kingsolver held these beliefs about divorce: “That it 's a lazy way out of marital problems. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.”(Kingsolver). Society teaches the principle of family integrity, and that when the spouse of a divorce leaves they are only thinking for themselves. Although, principles do change and the perception of divorce can change too. Kingsolver, from experience, claims, “I had no idea how thoroughly these assumptions overlaid my culture until I went through divorce myself.”(Kingsolver). Divorce is commonly misunderstood, and frowned upon, but the many who face such trials are left with the understanding of what divorce really extracts from families, and the

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce,” states Jennifer Weiner, a New York Times Bestselling author, in her novel, Fly Away Home. Although Weiner has a point in voicing that a dispirited and forlorn relationship can corrupt the innocent mentality of children, it is vital that she also considers the darker, more sinister side of divorce. To put the term ‘divorce’ simply, it “is what husband and wife do together when they no longer wish to do anything together“ (Yantiss). If for any reason one may feel as if their current marriage isn’t right, isn’t working out, for them, one way to solve that problem would be divorce: the

Title: Time Does Not Heal All Wounds: A Longitudinal Study of Reaction and Adaptation to Divorce

However, if you have been involved in a divorce and are still struggling, you are not alone.  Most divorced families reach closure and stability years after the divorce.  It is a process that takes time.  Do not get angry at yourself for processing through your feelings.  They are valid.  There are some psychological tasks to help you through this process of reaching a point of closure.

Divorce is something well known to many of my peers. I have had to deal with it not just once, but twice. In 2002, my Mom and Dad split. Almost two years later, my Mom remarried to the man who was my childhood father figure. Being that all three parents were military, my Dad and I did not live close to each other. My Dad was stationed at different bases, sometimes a base half way across the world. This caused a stronger bond to my stepfather, Jason. Over the course of 11 years, Jason and I grew a father-daughter relationship.

     Divorce is a family crisis, which could require a long period for recovery. Along with the turmoil associated with the adolescent stage of life, divorce adds other

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

The most incredibly difficult and painful process is when you are going through a divorce. Through divorce, you not only lose the person you love, but also lose the whole world that you had made together. In other instances, you will possibly lose your home, you will be hated by friends, and you will even lose some of your belongings.

Divorce is hard for many kids growing up. I had always pictured my parents as the ultimate team. My dad rescued my mother like a knight saving a princess, from the evil forces in life. It’s the story everyone’s brought up with. When you find out that that is not the case, it’s heartbreaking in a different way.

Whenever I hear people talking about divorce, or hear phrases such as “broken family” I want to either comfort or correct the person. I am able to set aside the sliver of pain that resides in the back of my head and realize all the wonderful things that have come out of my parent’s separation. I was pretty young when my parents started to have constant arguments but never really put the pieces together on my own. My worst childhood memories are not of scraped knees or broken bones but a broken heart. What had happened? What had I done? I can now confidently say that all the difficult times my parents’ divorce put me through have helped to bring my family together, separately. It left me with countless life lessons and the realization that things can always be worse. My parents’ divorce not only brought me severe pain but strength. It’s helped me to grow as an individual and I want to always remember that this is how things were meant to be.

Divorce is a plague that is destroying numerous families across the United States of America. Sadly, when husbands and wives divorce, the children are often caught directly in the middle. Throughout the years divorce has been becoming more and more common. In the 1920's it was a rare find to know a person whom had been divorced, today it is a rarity not to know of one who has been, or will be divorced. Divorce has numerous effects on the structures of families, and many devastating effects on the children that must experience it, although sometimes necessary, divorce radically changes the lives of adolescents and adults alike.